Making the decision to love again
In the beginning, Tuesday admits that she had apprehensions of entering a new relationship. “Kasi package deal na kami, me and my son. There’s no escaping that fact. So I needed somebody in my life na makakatulong sa akin na maging mas mahusay na parent, number one, and become a better person in the process, kasi ‘yun ‘yung buhay na tatayuan niya.”
Most single moms feel scarred romantically after a failed relationship, but Tuesday has some helpful advice.
1. Love yourself first and your children, because that love radiates in so many areas of your life. “Kung absent ‘yung love mo sa sarili mo at sa kid mo, how could you love another man or another person and welcome somebody in your life?”
2. Face your evils head on. “Maraming questions na papasok sa isip mo at kailangan mong intindihin na hindi naman darating sa buhay mo kung walang reason, kung hindi talaga siya meant for you. So ia-assess mo muna ‘yung sarili mo, handle it internally, kung kaya mo na ba na magkaroon ng bagong element sa buhay mo.”
3. Have no expectations from other people, especially from your partner. Other people may not be as accepting or as forgiving. Should they start judging you, what’s important is that you have a solid set of values and that you know yourself best more than anyone else. “Dapat i-admire mo rin ‘yung sarili mo. Cut yourself some slack, because being a single parent is not easy. And that in itself is a triumph.”
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