You’re lucky if you find a yaya who can easily adapt to your parenting style and your child’s personality. For most parents, it’s a constant dilemma whether to tolerate yaya’s shortcoming or to simply let her go. So, we’ve come up with this easy guideline to help you deal with common yaya snafus.
LET IT PASS This does not mean that you’re ignoring the misdemeanor. Simply remind your
yaya about the rule she overlooked and how you want it done next time. If she does it again, then . . .
ISSUE A WARNING Always give her two or three warnings before enforcing a penalty. If you gave her a cell phone, for example, take the gadget away for a specific period of time.
LET HER GO Either you’ve reached your breaking point or she has done something intolerable. Give her what’s due: an explanation, her last paycheck, or fare for her ride home. Below, we enumerate common yaya misdemeanors and what you should do when confronted with them:
1. You have a “No TV” policy. One afternoon, you come home unannounced, and catch your yaya and your three year-old daughter plopped in front of the TV, watching a noontime show.
VERDICT Issue a warning.
WHAT TO DO Talk to your yaya and get her side of the story; it could just be a slip. Discuss the current arrangement. You may not want your child watching TV but surely, yaya needs some downtime, too. Arrange some TV time for yaya. Lory Ann Espia, mom to Isaiah, 6 months, says, “I can only tolerate it three times since it’s just watching TV. But if yaya got three warnings and still continues, then I’d have to ask her to leave.” When screening for a yaya, lay down your house rules, says Tisha Bautista in her book Good Housekeeping’s The Maid Manual, a training guide for finding, training, and keeping your household helpers. Discuss the rules thoroughly with yaya. There is no point in hiring a yaya who is hooked on the tube when you don’t want your child watching any TV.
2. You are very careful about what you say around your child. You are thus shocked to hear your two year-old blurting out, “You are pangit” and “You’re baduy.” You ask him where he picked up those words and he points to yaya.
VERDICT Issue a warning.
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WHAT TO DO “I would talk to yaya calmly and ask her side of the story. I’ll remind her to be more careful with the words she uses in front of my child,” says Espia. Give your yaya a written copy of the values you want enforced in your home as well, Bautista suggests. “By trying to imbibe the specific values, they will feel that they have become part of the household,” she writes.
3. Your child’s yayais always holding her cell phone. Even when there are no message or call alerts, she keeps looking at it.
VERDICT Let it pass.
WHAT TO DO As long as yaya does not neglect her duties, let it go. But if it affects her overall performance, give her a warning. Agree on how often she can use her personal phone. Get a
household cell phone that yaya can use for official calls so she doesn’t need to have her phone
with her all the time. Make sure you cover the expenses of the household cell phone, she adds.
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