Parenting is a daunting task for most, if not all, people. For some, it is even more challenging because they need to face the journey alone, either by their own choice or because of circumstances beyond their control.
What exactly do solo parents go through? Here, real-life single parents share their stories, struggles and joys with us:
Jackielyn Rhio Guerrero is a 23-year-old customer service associate with a four-year-old son. She shares how she became a single mom: “I was in college when I got pregnant - blame it on curiosity. When I found out, the father said he wasn’t ready to face this responsibility. From then on, I knew that I had to be strong and prepare myself for the future, since I wouldn’t be getting any support from my baby’s father.”
Despite this, Jackie carried her baby to term, encouraged by the love and support of her family. Her father helped her out not just emotionally, but financially as well, until she got her own job last year. “Those were the times when I told myself that I really need to be a good parent to my child, especially since he only had me to depend on,” she shares.
It has not been an easy course. Jackie says that one of the greatest challenges she faced when it came to being a solo parent was when her son asked about his father. “It is quite hard to explain our situation to him, although at four years old I know he can already somehow feel that he is lacking a “father figure,” she says.
It is also very hard for Jackie whenever her son gets sick, as there is no one else to care for him except her. During those times, she has to absent herself from work so she can watch over him.
Financial stability is another concern for Jackie, much like other solo parents. “Since his father does not support us, I shoulder all the expenses, including my son’s school tuition and medicines.”