• Daphne Osena-Paez: 'I've Given Up on Being the Perfect Mom'

    In her new book, Daphne's musings on motherhood reveal a 'chic' life where there is no such thing as perfection.
    by SmartParenting Staff .
  • Daphne Osena-Paez: 'I've Given Up on Being the Perfect Mom'
    IMAGE William Ong/Chic
  • Since she made her mark on Philippine TV in the ‘90s, TV host and producer, entrepreneur, blogger, and UNICEF special advocate Daphne Oseña-Paez has been the epitome of grace and class. In the words of retail magnate Ben Chan, she is “always well-dressed, well-spoken, and known for her impeccable taste.” Now, Daphne opens up to her followers with a book that reveals what really makes her life an elegant, and beautiful one.

    In Chic: Tips on Life, Style, and Work, published by Summit Books (sister company of this website), Daphne reveals the lessons she has learned in life, love, design, style, and work. The book also features her conversations with some of her mentors and inspirations like fashion entrepreneur Tina Maristela Ocampo and actress and public servant Lucy Torres-Gomez. 

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    Daphne has always been known as an arbiter of taste. But you can’t do a book on her without talking about motherhood--it’s in this role that she is most like us.  

    In the book, Daphne shared how clueless and unprepared she and her husband Patrick Paez were with the birth of their eldest daughter, Sophia. Despite the birthing classes, which they did not get to finish because she gave birth earlier than expected, Daphne and Patrick still needed to refer to a birthing manual to learn how to swaddle, bathe, change diapers, and groom their baby. 

    With three daughters, all born three years apart--“I was a parent of a preschooler for nine consecutive years”--Daphne shares familiar stories of feeling inadequate and wishing there was an “undo” button. But, as Daphne learns, there is no foolproof discipline strategy nor is one mom’s parenting style better than the other. 

    “Any mother if more than one child will tell you that each child is different. They can come from the same mother and father and yet they will each have their own distinct personality and behavior. This affected our parenting strategies along the way.”

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    As Daphne remarked, it’s all about making it work, whether that means fashioning a baro from a tulle fabric for a last minute Filipiniana costume or bathing the girls at the same time in one tub (great time-saver tip). 

    “Despite my Instagrammed life and my attempt at art-directed photos, half the time I am trying not to drop the ball,” she reflects. “I know my limitations, so I do not even attempt to achieve things like making bento box lunches, decorating cupcakes, and coordinating my girls’ outfits.”

    If this is Daphne’s well-lived life, where she lives to fight another day with the power of the glue gun, store-bought cupcakes, or brushing the girls’ hair once day, then we can get behind it. 
    Daphne has been sharing stories about art and design, family and home, dreams and inspirations, and other topics close to her heart through her blog Daphne.ph, and Chic: Tips on Life, Style, and Work allows her to give the same to her readers in a form that they can hold in their hands and flip through for inspiration. With special thanks to Hi-Precision and Gingersnaps, the book is exclusively available at National Book Store for P395. 

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    ·         Special thanks to Hi-Precision and Gingersnaps

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