The stress and busy-ness of the holiday season can cause a strain in many marriages, as it is often a time for major decisions: what to give the children, where to spend the holidays, his parents or yours, how to go about budgeting your finances, who to invitehow to squeeze in a reunion with friends and family in your already packed schedule, etc.
It’s ironic how the supposedly merry, magical season can also be a difficult time for couples. is the holidays are meant to be a season of love and joy for the entire family, but our tendency to focus too much on the things we need to do rather than the true spirit of the season can take the fun and meaning away from it.
In the midst of juggling all the responsibilities and major decision-making, it is important for spouses to work together towards celebrating a meaningful season. Here are a few simple ways to do that:
1. Start your very own holiday tradition as a couple Come up with a romantic tradition for you and your partner to enjoy together. For instance, give each other short but meaningful messages of love. Another way is to do special acts of service for one another, such as giving each other a massage.
2. Plan a romantic “holi-date” Set a special date for just the two of you every year. Have your kids stay with their grandparents for a night or a weekend so you could have a private moment to yourself.
Explore new places, try new adventures or enjoy even simple inexpensive ways like staying at home to watch movies. Make the most of your time together and avoid discussing work-related matters or finances, which could start out well but end on a stressful note. It won’t hurt to focus these few moments of your time together on each other and affirm one another of your love.