Give each other two-minute hugs and 30-second kisses. Kim Blackham, a marriage and family therapist, says that most hugs and kisses between couples are "mechanical and quick," so they lose the same feel-good benefits longer stretches of physical intimacy do. She explains that, "oxytocin, a chemical our bodies release when we touch one another, emotionally connects people." So the next time you give your husband a kiss–make it last and enjoy it.
Take a walk together. It’s a simple way to get closer together while breathing in some fresh air. It’s relaxing, refreshing, and can definitely clear your mind. "The very act of walking in the same direction can help you two feel as though you're on the same team and want the same result," Blackham says.
Do one small act of kindness every day. While grand gestures to express your love for your man is a good thing, there’s nothing wrong with showing simple yet sweet acts toward your partner. Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., a marriage researcher and author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great says that "something as simple as brewing your partner a cup of coffee in the morning helps improve your relationship." Reminisce about how you two met. Take a trip down memory lane and remember how you two met for the first time. Look at your old photos, torn movie tickets of your first date, or anything that reminds you of how you two started as a couple and get that kilig feeling all over again. Getting all nostalgic together gives you the chance to re-ignite the spark in your relationship.
Compliment your partner regularly. Whether it's on his appearance, something he did right, or a huge accomplishment in his life, it’s important to acknowledge these and compliment him for a job well done. Andy Hahn, Psy.D, a clinical psychologist, says that "they really do matter in a relationship—especially to people who tend to process things with their heart instead of their head or gut."
Set boundaries for technology. You may not notice it but technology can actually ruin your relationship–whether it’s a platonic or romantic one. When one is too focused on the screen, they're missing out on spending quality time with the people who matter. Make it a point to set a limit on when and where you should use technology. Is it allowed at the dining table? Should you turn off your internet connection and smart phones before midnight? Make it clear so you don’t end up fighting about it with your partner.
Say "I Love You" before going to bed. Make it a habit to say these three words to each other before dozing off–it will make both of you happy and contented. It’s also another way to feel close with each other and gives the assurance that you’re in the relationship together, for better or for worse.