Getting under the covers, though harder to come by, gets better after having kids, parents revealed in a survey. Yes, even if couples with kids have to do the deed in the time it takes an episode of Peppa Pig to finish, it’s still more enjoyable now!
The survey was conducted by the British website Channel Mum and involved questioning over 1,000 couples. Results showed more than a few upbeat points about parents’ sex lives, one of which is that 94% of the moms and dads were satisfied with the sex they’re getting, 57% of whom said it’s even better now than before they had kids. Great!
Almost a third said that they have more sex now and four out of five said having children made them focus more on quality than quantity. As we mentioned, the deed is harder to do when you become a parent but that doesn’t mean the gratification decreases along with frequency.
Josie Colmenares-Valderrama, senior marriage counselor from the Center for Family Ministries, agrees that you should choose quality over quantity when it comes to sex.
“The characteristics of a healthy intimacy are affection, transparency, and safety. A happy sex life is not measured in terms of frequency. You can have a lot of sex, but it wouldn’t mean anything to the marriage. It’s the quality of the sex that counts,” she said in an article on Smart Parenting.
Two-thirds of the dads say they like their wives' post-pregnancy bodies better than their slimmer pre-pregnancy figure. Only a meager 3% said they didn’t like their wife’s post-preggy body.
Still, according to the survey, 44% of the wives were worried that their partners wouldn’t find them attractive anymore. Only 14% felt confident about their bodies. That has got to change, moms.
In addition, 58 days is the average waiting time before new couples begin having sex again after a new baby arrives. Over half of the women said that they felt stressed with the pressure to get back under the covers. When the stress dissipated however, 45% said they've become closer and more attracted to their husbands.
Two-thirds of the couples have regular date nights and 23% schedule sex. Dads said they aim for sex twice a week but moms are content with just once a week.
“While no one is pretending it's easy to get your love life back on track post-birth, perhaps new mums can enjoy their extra curves as much as their partner does,” said Channel Mum founder Siobhan Freegard.
“Having a baby is the biggest change you can bring into a relationship, so it's wonderful to see it can bring couples closer together rather than drive them apart,” she added.
Source: Dec. 29, 2015. "Who said kids are a passion killer? More than half of parents claim their sex lives are BETTER after having children - with men preferring their partner's post-birth figure". dailymail.co.uk