This Father's month, we asked several known personalities what resonates most among the lessons their fathers taught them, and they tell us:
Christine Jacob – Sandejas TV personality, host, mom
"My father had always been my buddy. Because I was so active in sports, he was the one who would run with me and wake me up at 4 am to train. He would note my weight, my time, [so] he was like my coach. I had more conversations with my father than with my mother. [What I remember most is] the support and cheering me on no matter what."
Karen Davila Broadcast journalist
"He taught me, 'Karen, the biggest hindrance to success is yourself,' so he taught me that I had a very big amount of control on my own destiny and my choices were a big factor. He also taught me that drugs are absolutely a no-no and not tolerated in the house at all. He told that to the point of instilling fear, and I know in parenting today that’s not a popular topic -- you just want to talk to your kid and make them understand -- but when you look back at how our parents taught us (the older generation), it wasn’t bad. And my father really made us so scared of drugs, and I am so grateful. He was a funny man, and he also taught me that when things are bad, just keep it light."
"The first thing that comes to mind is the importance of education. He didn’t come from a rich family. The most powerful message a father can teach a child is to tell him that if he wants to succeed, to make good his education."
Atom Araullo News reporter
"One of the things that [my father] taught me that stuck was to be a well-rounded person. When I was younger my dad encouraged me to try so many things, and to explore opportunities that I didn’t even know I was interested in, and because of all those experiences and the people I’ve met along the way, I feel like I live a much fuller life and I’ve gained a lot of perspective. This also influenced how I plan to raise my family in the future."
Maribel Sison-Dionisio Marital and family counselor
"I enjoyed the times [my father] brought us to school and told us stories. He’s a good father and he became a friend also as I grew older and I think that’s a very important legacy he left us; he taught us how to be friends with our own children, how to help them grow to be confident and capable. He set the rules and the guidelines at home [as a parent], but he acted like a friend in the way he would talk and listen. Dapat ang dad, hindi lang taga-hanapbuhay, dapat may relationship din sila sa mga anak."
"[My father taught me] that there is not much he can leave behind except the education he invested in me. That’s the most important lesson I’ve learned, and until today, that is the lesson I pass on to my kids, too."
Fr. Tito Caluag, SJ Priest and educator
"I had two father figures: my grandfather, who was my first father figure, and my father. When I was 7 years old, my grandfather got mad at my grandmother because of the food of the help. He told my grandmother, 'whatever we eat is what our kasama sa bahay should eat. If we can’t do that anymore, it’s either we can’t afford what we’re eating, or we’ve become too selfish.' That lesson never left me, to treat one another with equality. My father, pilyo yung tatay ko pero I learned from him na pwedeng maging pilyo pero mabait na tao. Wag kang mag-agrabyado ng kapwa."
Photos of Francis Kong and Atty. Adel Tamano by Ben Lim; photo of Christine Jacob-Sandejas by Majoy Siason