Every year, my youngest daughter and I would spend our summer vacation here in the Middle East where my husband has been an OFW for seven years now. We’ve been married for almost 30 years. This year, I just felt that it would be nice if our profile picture in our Facebook account would be the same, the latest picture of us together. Twice I asked, twice I sent pictures.
He would always have an excuse.
See, his profile and cover photos are of his late mother who passed away two years ago. His first excuse was he wanted to honor his mother daw. And his other siblings' profile pictures are also of their mother daw. Hmm, nagpalit na ng profile pic most of his siblings and I told him that. At humirit pa na "Bakit, yung mga kaibigan mo ba kasama asawa nila sa profile pic?" Sorry na lang siya at most of the pictures of our married friends eh kasama asawa nila.
And all the pictures I tagged him in, he never approved.
His last vacation in Manila was last January. We went to Palawan and took lots of pictures. Kumpleto ang pamilya, ang ganda gawing cover picture. I did that, made the family picture as my cover pic. His excuse this time was that he didn't want to flaunt daw. People might think na nagyayabang daw siya. The last photos he approved on his timeline was November of last year. Those were the pictures of a birthday celebration ng anak ng one of his friends/co-worker here. The entire album ha, pictures galore!
So when I had chance to talk to him about this I told him that I feel like he doesn't want his friends to see me/his family on his timeline.
Kako kinakahiya mo ba kami? Do you want them to think na we're no longer together? Sagot niya eh: why would he still post those pictures eh nakita naman na daw ng mga friends namin yun sa timeline ko. I told him na some of his friends naman are not my friends.
Ano yun, ayaw niyang malaman ng friends niya na may pamilya't mga anak sya?
I am leaving this Thursday, pasukan na nila bunso. Tonight I tried to talk to him again about this. It had a violent ending that led to him deactivating his account. May mahabang history itong pag-aaway namin na ito. Every summer na lang may malaking issue–but the issue two years ago ang pinaka matindi. Maybe that issue was unresolved kaya ganito ako ka praning.