• This Twitter Hashtag Shows Domestic Abuse Isn't Always Physical

    These women needed only 140 characters to tell the world that domestic violence can be more than physical abuse.
    by Rachel Perez .
  • This Twitter Hashtag Shows Domestic Abuse Isn't Always Physical
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    If you're still thinking that domestic abuse should be dealt with privately or it can only be called abuse if he physically assaults you, it is not that cut and dried. Our law says so. 

    Republic Act 9262, or the Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children Act states, "Violence against women and their children’ refers to any act or a series of acts committed by any person… which is likely to result in physical, sexual, psychological harm or suffering, or economic abuse including threats of such acts, battery, assault, coercion, harassment or arbitrary deprivation of liberty." Other than physcial, domestic abuse can be sexual in nature, psychological or emotional, and economical, as defined by the law.  

    Working to change public perception of what constitutes domestic abuse, social activist, writer, and artist Zahira Kelly started the hashtag #MaybeHeDoesn'tHitYou on Twitter to document her own experiences with domestic abuse and the stories of the people close to her. "For several years now on social media, on a daily basis I talk about many different forms of abuse and what they look like," she told BBC Trending.

    Little did she know that it would encourage women all over the world to share their domestic abuse stories, all achingly told in 140 or less  characters or less. Scrolling through the #MaybeHeDoesn'tHitYou can be an eye opener. 

    When he blames you for everything

    When he manipulates you to have sex with him

    When he threatens you economic and financial security

    When you're overly conscious about what you do so he doesn't throw a fit

    When he controls every aspect of your life, even your friends

    When he verbally abuses you

    When he threatens to hurt you

    When he has no respect for you at all

    According to the 2013 National Demographic and Health Survey, one in every 25 married women ages 15 to 49, exprience emotional, physical or sexual abuse from their partners. 

    The U.S. National Coalition Against Domestic Violence came up with a set of questions that can help identify psychological abuse. If these seem familar to you or your women friends, then it's time to get help.

    Ask this: "Does your partner...

    • Threaten to harm you, your children, your family and/or your pets?
    • Tell you are worthless and that no one else will ever love you?
    • Isolate you from your friends and/or family?
    • Control your behavior and monitor your movements and whereabouts?
    • Tell you that you are crazy?
    • Demean you in public or in private?
    • Constantly criticize you?
    • Blame you for everything that goes wrong?
    • Stalk you?
    • Cause you to feel guilt over things that are not your fault?
    • Threaten to take away your children?

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