Amid changing times, women have gone far beyond what used to be their stereotypical life role: bearers of children, doting wives and homemakers. There’s no longer a line between what women can and cannot do in this day and age.
And yet, despite the continuing empowerment of women in traditionally male-dominated fields of work—this while still fully on top of raising their kids and running the household—there are some women who still choose to tone their level of success down, because they’re afraid of bruising their partner’s ego.
Whether earning more, securing a more esteemed position at work, or having a higher level of educational attainment, some women will try to downplay these accomplishments in order to avoid emasculating their male significant other.
The article cites the book When She Makes More: 10 Rules for Breadwinning Women by Farnoosh Torabi, a financial advisor and journalist, which illustrates the challenges successful women face in the romance department.
“When a woman makes more than her man, the odds are stacked against her in many ways: she’s less likely to get married, more likely to be unhappier in marriage, and there are many psychological and sexual costs,” said Torabi.
On the other hand, men, meanwhile, struggle to come to terms with how they are adjusting to today’s changing gender roles. While they may cling to traditional masculine roles of doing the hard labor and bringing home the bacon, they are also faced with the reality of how more and more women are filling in the role of being providers.
Torabi suggests striking a balance when it comes to women becoming successful at work and playing the damsel in distress. This involves letting your man still do things for you, whether more laborious tasks at home, or occasionally making him foot the bill.
“Calling it stroking his ego can sound controversial, but money is a huge source of power and self worth for a lot of people,” Torabi says. “So you have to understand that.”