• Taming Jodi Santamaria's Toddler

    Here’s how Jodi Santamaria keeps her cool when taming her toddler’s tantrums.
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    Calm, relaxed, and allowing. That is Jodi the mother, and she explains why: “I think we all have different parenting styles, kasi iba-iba naman ang mga bata. And we always try to take care of them in such a way na match sa personality nila.

    “Thirdy is very strong-willed. When he wants something, gusto niya makuha agad or magawa niya agad. Ako bilang mommy, I let him be naman, I just guide him. ‘Yun ang feeling ko na role natin bilang parents, ‘yung turuan sila ng values. But not really to tell them what to do.

    “Pero ‘pag mali ang ginagawa niya, of course I tell him it’s wrong and that he shouldn’t do it again.”

    When they go to the mall or a toy store, for example, Jodi tells him beforehand that he’s allowed to buy only one toy as long as it’s within a budget.

    But just because they set rules doesn’t always mean that Thirdy always follows.

    “Pag hindi niya nadadaan sa pa-cute, nagta-tantrum siya,” says Jodi. “We used to give in to his tantrums, but now pinapakita namin na hindi kami magpapa-manipulate sa kanya. We’re the parents, kami dapat ‘yung mag-set ng rules… Sometimes what we do is make him choose, ‘O alin ang gusto mo talaga, si Red or si Blue?’ At least that way, he also learns to make choices. Pero alam niya talaga na hindi lahat ng gusto niya masusunod.”

     

    Photography by Rene Mejia

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