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17 Questions and Concerns About Marital Problems Answered

Are you simply annoyed with your spouse or on the way to a marriage counselor? Whatever the difficulty may be, read what our experts have to say.

Kris Aquino & James YapYou just heard it on the news: Kris and James have split up. Did they give up too early? Was it all for the best? Whatever the answer may be… it’s actually your own marriage that you’re thinking about. After X number of years, your marriage is bound to change. Below are some real questions that we’ve encountered and what the experts have to say when you feel there’s any sort of marital problem in your space.

1. I feel like my marriages in real trouble. What can I do?

Don’t put it off. It is fairly common now for married couples to get some professional help. Don’t be afraid to admit that there is a problem. It is best to start seeking for a solution as soon as you sense the first signs of an impending problem.

2. How are marriage and family therapists different from other mental health professionals?

Marriage and family therapists are formally trained in various models of therapy in order to prepare them for work with families, couples, individuals, and groups, in issues especially concerning family and marriage. They are qualified to provide mental health services. This kind of therapy aims to render significant improvements in relationships emotionally and physically. The field of marriage and family therapy is recognized as a core mental health profession, along with psychiatry, psychology, and social work.

3. My husband is against going to a marriage and family therapist. How can I convince him?

Male spouses are more commonly opposed to the idea of marriage interventions, especially when the term “therapist” is used. Our society also holds the mistaken belief that only those with a mental illness can benefit from therapy. Explain to him that we all traverse normal and expected phases in life, each posing challenges and possible pitfalls. The family may need special support to make necessary changes and adjustments. Therapy can help ameliorate problems, strengthen relationships, and prevent problems from getting out of hand. Emphasize your need to reconnect with him and how this can make a big positive impact on your relationship with your kids, too.

If he still refuses to go, then don’t force him. Give him time to think things over.

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  • fegloria1954 Apr 30 2011 @ 07:25pm
    "I feel like my marriage in real trouble."
    I think that statement is more correct if it were:
    "I JUDGE that my marriages in real trouble."
    The verb "feel" is best followed by a word that portrays a feeling. "Feel like" has been so overused. I think in fact what we ae conveying actually is our judgment of something.
  • rona Jul 28 2010 @ 10:55am
    i dont want ot meddle in their lives bcoz its their own underding but if they hve done everything and it doesnt work, i think they hve the right decisiion... it doesnt matter hw long or early their relationship were, if respect was not in their relationship already then its wise to do wht she does...the burden is for their child tht hve to be explained why....
  • Mommyjazz Jun 28 2010 @ 12:52pm
    I do not want to be too judgmental on Kris but I like the way she said that if she has to explain to anyone, it would be to her Son. I hope she keeps mum this time.
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