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Sukob at iba pang mga pamahiin tungkol sa Kasal
« on: February 12, 2010, 11:32:44 AM »
hi mga mommies..

ask ko lang po kasi confused ako sa magiging wedding ko.. our church wedding will be held this coming december 2010 but then my mom and my dad will renew their vows 40th anniv on jan 2011. sukob ba yon o hindi?

need feedback asap. thanks in advance

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Re: Sukob na kasal
« Reply #1 on: April 09, 2010, 08:50:15 PM »
hmm.. i don't think so.. From what I know, sukob is sukob sa taon.. since 2011 magrenew ng vows parents mo and you'll get married ng 2010, hindi sila on the same year..

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Sukob
« Reply #2 on: November 02, 2010, 06:16:54 AM »
Totoo ba ang sukob?

My fiance and I are planning to get married, civil muna on jan. 17th then eventually church wedding  jan 2012. Kaso, my mom reminded me about my lola who passed away last june lang. Magiging sukob daw sa patay pag nagpapakasal kami until after mag 1st year death anniv lola ko.

We started planning na and we even contacted some suppliers though pencil booked pa lang naman.

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Re: Sukob
« Reply #3 on: November 02, 2010, 08:08:12 AM »
ok lang sis siguro yun kasi kung this year naman nagpass away si lola mo.. next year pwede na kayo pakasal. as long as hindi of same year.. by the way.. condolence sis..

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Re: Sukob
« Reply #4 on: November 02, 2010, 04:59:08 PM »
Yung pinsan ko sabay sila ngpakasal ng brother niya civil wedding, 6years ago and they are both happy..
sabagay wala namang masama kung susundin ang pamahiin  ;)
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Re: Sukob
« Reply #5 on: November 04, 2010, 04:06:29 PM »
wew! thanks for you response!

@prettynpink - thanks sis. i personally dont believe in sukob. parents ko kasi medyo superstitious.
@ kassandradenise - we wanted to have a baby na kasi. we were thinking tuloy na unahin na lang yun baby while sukob pa. wag ng magpa-civil wedding this coming january, church n lang sa 2012! hehe!

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Re: Sukob
« Reply #6 on: November 04, 2010, 05:38:26 PM »
mahirap talaga kumbinsihin ang mga matatanda about sukob sis,....kung okay lang sayo na si baby muna eh..GO!well if you are to conceive now,after June and I yr na ni lola mo pwede ka ng magpa-civil
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Re: Sukob
« Reply #7 on: November 04, 2010, 05:51:28 PM »
Hi Sis,

ang alam ko sis it applies pag same year nangyari ang events kaya ituloy nyo na lang plans nyo. siguro to convince your mom try mo na maghanap ng material like print out sa internet or magazines na ang sukob applies sa same year baka magbago isip ng mom mo.
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Re: Sukob
« Reply #8 on: November 05, 2010, 11:08:16 AM »
Sinabi din sa amin to ni hubby ng mama ko & ng lola ko nung nagpa-plan kami magpakasal. Dec. 28, 2008 wedding namin. Tapos, that year din, March 2008 naman kinasal yung sister ko. Also, that same year din, my lolo (April) and tito (around September ata) died. Pero tinuloy namin ang wedding. Because it has already been planned even before those events happened. Wala namang something unusual that happened..

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Re: Sukob
« Reply #9 on: November 20, 2010, 09:23:29 AM »
before nun civil wedding namin, mga ilang days lang ata before nun, sinabi ng mama ng asawa ko sa kanya na namatay raw ang lola nila sa pampanga.. eh since nakaset na yun date eh, wala naman daw yun kasi 1 month namin pinaghandaan at inasikaso ang mga papers.

ano ba mangyayari pag sukob sa patay??

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Re: Sukob
« Reply #10 on: January 03, 2011, 10:33:33 PM »
as for me theres no certain thing na "sukob"nasa tao po lahat..do the right thing and be fair to your fellow- equals good karma. naalala ko yung movie na "sukob", as movie review it was not about "sukob sa kasal" but its about "sumpa at karma" (curse and bad karma) sa pagkakamali ng nakaraan na dapat itama sa kasalukuyan.  nasa bible din po na what ever unpaid sin will pay by your next generation.  thats why we have to always pray for protection.. soon i will post the prayer of protection i mother always pray.

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Re: Sukob
« Reply #11 on: January 04, 2011, 05:46:02 PM »
this pamahiin is really a big issue in our place in Batangas :(

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Re: Sukob
« Reply #12 on: January 05, 2011, 09:01:15 AM »
depende na siguro po yan sa maniniwala.. pero if your parents insist na next year na lang sundin nyo na lang if nd pa naman pala kayo nakakapag hard book kase ala naman mawawala sa sususnod :)
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Re: Sukob
« Reply #13 on: January 05, 2011, 03:52:09 PM »
sabi ng mga oldies, there are two kinds of sukob:
1. one is sukob with the death of an immediate relative;
2. sukob sa wedding with another immediate relative.

sabi nung elder and other soothsayers, there is only sukob in the first kind, not on the second. It's more of dun sa first sukob, parang may death na susunod. sa second, it's more of pagtitipid lang or practicality on the part of the family, kasi two weddings in one year di ba? (sabi nila to...which makes sense to me).

personally, we don't believe in the second type. my aunts and uncles got married in the same year. ok naman sila ngayon, pareho. kung nahirapan yung isang tito ko, its because they started really from scratch and they had lots of kids compared to the other one, who's married to an expat, and only has one child.
 
we may believe more of the first kind siguro, kasi dapat talagang galangin ang ala-ala ng mga patay, lalo na at matanda na. it's a big deal in the province.

i don't know if you have to wait the whole 12 months thereafter thing....or the changing of year, eliminates waiting. sana yung latter part, para you could marry na agad.

if it's really necessary the elders told us, that you can have your marriage solemnized outside the philippines, parang may territorial boundaries ata yung prohibition eh. well, sabi niya lang. we had to consult kasi, we had the second type of sukob.  and, malas or swerte --- di na rin natuloy yung wedding.  ;)


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Re: Sukob
« Reply #14 on: January 09, 2011, 12:44:55 AM »
as for me with that two kinds of sukob..eto po ang aking explinasyon basi sa aking pag-aaral at mga natutunan bilang dating member ng Singles for Christ

1. yung una ay respeto  ang pinag-ugatan nyan, kung sino ang dapat mag-give way sa dalawa..kasi nga concern naman dun ay halos iisa din ang mga aattend yung sakaling sabay nga magpakasal yung dalawang mag-kamag-anak.. kung sakaling mag-sabay ng kasal saan aatend o dadalo?problema diba?tampo pa ang aabutin.

2.yung dahil sa may namatayan ay "respeto" din sa mga nagdadalamhati pa kung saan walang masama para skin... yung interpretasyon lang talaga na may susunod pero mas dapat isipin or concern dun ay yung respeto nga sa mga nagdadalamhati pa na dapat bigyang pansin at ipagliban muna.

Serious sin po ang maniwala sa pamahaiin or superstitious.  based dn po yan sa catholic belief . If your are really christian and you already learned that its bad you shouldn't do it.  In my heart I discern that it has nothing  to do with my life.  Thanks to all my mentor and the teaching i learned.

Sana po yung salita o paniniwala na "wala namang masama kung susunod ka" ay alisin na po natin kung alam natin sa puso natin na against to sa ating paniniwala.

 

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