I wish I could still read the original post, although based on the replies, I could tell na one problem is on decision making particularly coming from the in-laws and the handling of the finances....
this reply is not to give advice, actually, this is to share the same sentiments...
although hindi ko masyadong problem ang decision-making, ang problema ko is how hubby treats me vs. his mom and sister. most times kasi nakakapikon sya mag-react on circumstances that involves whoever. meaning, pag ako ang may mistake, he reacts violently. pero pag sila (MIL and/or SIL), super to the nth power ang understanding na binibigay niya. to give a concrete example, there was an incident na nahulog yung panganay namin from his playpen. for everybody's info, that time po, mag-isa lang ako sa house. I resigned from work to take care of our 1st born. the story was after giving our son a bath, i placed him inside his playpen. he was already more than 1 yr. old then so nakakatayo na, na and he's already learning to climb... anyway, after giving him a bath, ako naman ang naligo, while nakabantay pa rin sa baby namin. after taking a bath, i started with my daily ritual, combing hair, putting on some lotion... then, suddently, di ko napansin nakaakyat pala yung baby namin sa playpen and fell on the floor! i was so shocked, picked him up right away and held him tight, prayed hard that nothing serious happens to him after that fall... i called hubby up to tell him what happened kasi ayoko naman kasing maglihim sa kanya especially when it comes to our son. upon hearing the story, he yelled at me on the phone and told me "nagresign-resign ka sa trabaho tapos ganyan???!!!!" as if sobrang pabaya kong ina for "letting" him fall on the floor! and it hurt me so bad....
versus... this incident, yung bunso namin, biglang nagising from a nap. my MIL and I were in the same room also. nung nagising si baby, he went to the edge of the bed, mabilis kasing gumapang tong si bunso... MIL was the one who saw him crawl to that spot, she called my attention, so therefore, dalawa na kaming nakabantay at baka nga mahulog.. si MIL, aktong pupuntahan na si baby, while ako, nasa likod na nga niya (MIL). di ako makagalaw kasi my mind was telling me, kung pupuntahan ko si baby nang andun sa front si MIL at a position na papunta na din kay baby, chances are, magbabangga lang kami, mas malaking disgrasya dahil magrarambol na kami dun! so what happened, natuluyang malaglag si baby nang wala sa amin ang naka-rescue kasi nga pareho kaming natigilan... MIL's reason kung bakit sya natigilan is baka daw magulat, matakot, kung bigla syang (baby) i-grab, lalong malaglag. ako naman un nga, as mentioned earlier... and so, i called hubby again (this time re: bunso's falling) and told him about it. you know what is reaction was??? he just said, "ok lang yan, ATLEAST DALAWA KAYONG NANJAN." ....... HUH?
ATLEAST DALAWA KAMI?
e nung ako lang mag-isang nagbantay sa baby namin, kulang mo na kong murahin, ngayon since involved si mommy mo OK LANG?
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marami pang incidents actually, hindi lang si MIL, pati kay SIL... what i'm saying is, hubby's treatment towards me vs. his family is soooooooooooooooo different, it breaks my heart...
