There comes a time in a mother's life when it finally hits you: Your little girl is blossiming a woman. It's inevitable—and you know it was coming since you gave birth to her—and yet, it's seems that life has gone by really, really fast.
One of the first indication that your daughter is indeed growing up is when she asks you to help her buy her first bra. Or, when you feel that it's time for your not-so-little-girl-anymore to have one, not because you're eager to buy her one, but because of puberty and all the body changes that comes with it. It’s a milestone for you both. So where do you start?
Here are some of the things you need to keep in mind when you help your daughter buy her first training bra:
1. Timing is everything. There is no exact number; each girl blooms at her own pace. Consider two things when determining when to buy her first bra trainers: When your child's breasts are already "budding" AND when she's emotionally ready for it. If your daughter asks for one even if she's not budding yet, indulge her. Her friends could be wearing training bras already and she doesn't want to feel left out. When she's already budding but she seems reluctant to be the first in her class to need to wear one, this is probably the best time to talk to her about puberty (and everything else that comes with it) without being too pushy.
2. Comfort is key. Sophie Law, of Sweetling.co.uk, a U.K. company that designs and manufactures comfy first bras for girls says, "As breasts develop and get bigger they can feel tender and sometimes a little painful. Wearing a good quality, well-fitted first bra should alleviate some of the discomfort and can also stop any embarrassment caused by nipples showing through tops or breasts moving around when walking or running." Whatever bra style your daughter needs (or wants), make sure they are comfortable.
3. Get the right fit. Comfort largely depends of the right fit. Don't buy bigger sizes because your daughter can grow into them. It's best to get het properly measured and fitted by a professional. You can also measure her size at home (if she's a bit conscious about having a stranger doing it), but make sure you get the right measurements. Seventy percent of women wear the wrong bra size because of wrong measurements, which leads to issues such as double busting, lifting at breast route, and breasts spilling at sides, to name a few. And don't forget to check the straps, as well.
4. Buy the right type. You can start with a crop-top style training bra, sports bra, or a traditional cotton camisole trainers. These types of training bras that help young girls get used to the idea of wearing one, an extra piece of clothing. They have no no hooks or wires and are really comfy. Padded trainers or training bras with underwire (for those who may already be conscious about their body) are okay, too. Don't worry, they’re more comfy than their adult versions. There are also those with fun print and pattern designs, though they are not advisable to wear under a uniform).
5. Any size is fine. Whatever size and cup of training bra she ends up needing, be okay with it. Don't tease her about her size. Never force her to wear an underwire or padding just because she's a little flat. It can take years for breast development to complete and each girl develops in her own pace. There are girls who already need starter bras as early as age nine, while late bloomers don't need ti until age 14. Remember, it's important to help her be comfortable with her own body. Women come in all shapes and sizes, and of course, so will our bras--and it's okay whatever size you are.
Whatever training or starter bra you and your daughter decide to buy or when, just remember that she's entering a new stage in her life that practically unknown to her. Help her make a smooth transition. Kelly O'Brien, lingerie specialist and founder of LingerTween, a company that specializes in age-appropriate undergarments, advises, "Keep it lighthearted," she says. "This is a rite of passage for everyone involved, and you can make it an experience that's fondly remembered decades later."
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