Bullying and school violence is a painful reality for parents. Dad and contributing writer Robert Del Rosario shares possible triggers and helpful ways parents can help prevent their big kids from being victims.
It’s a stinging reality that purposeful aggression may begin as early as five years of age. This is many a parent’s dilemma: That their child may be a “victim” of these emotionally or physically damaging acts, or may turn out to be the proponent themselves, the former of the two, the more common worry, especially among young boys.
Bullying in Boys and Girls Take note however that these behavioral patterns are quite prevalent in girls as well, except that the methods are notably less physical. The American Medical Academy notes that “Boys tend to use physical and verbal bullying, while girls use more subtle and psychologically manipulative behaviors such as alienation, ostracism, and character defamation”. However, most young children manifest assertive behavior at the most primal level, the use of force and intimidation.
If that last paragraph sounded horrendous, or like something more applicable to high school students, bullying is a much greater problem than we perceive it to be. On April 6, 2009, 11-year old Carl Joseph Walker Hoover of Springfield, MA, USA, hung himself with an electrical cord after repeated incidences of being taunted as being “gay” throughout his school life. The young and handsome Walker was a school football player, boy scout, church member and loving son. This story that rocked America last year is a prime example that bullying is clearly not normal and should be addressed with extreme care.
Why it happens General psychology indicates that violent behavior stems from several greatly varying causes. Bullies may be neglected or abused at home, as even the slightest form of negative verbal suggestion from a parent, done repeatedly, can cause a child to project feelings of inferiority into a superiority complex.
Comments such as “You’re so lazy, and you do everything wrong, look at the neighbor’s kid, he’s so well behaved!”, heard over and over again is a clear catalyst to aggressive behavior in school. Couple in mass media, unnecessarily violent and non age appropriate video games and there you have it.
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