Assure them that your love for them is unconditional. Whenever they make mistakes, talk about the situation or problem with them so they can see what they could have done differently to avoid such mistakes in the future.
At the end of the day, we all know that there may be times when we will fail our children — when we will say the wrong words or model the wrong behavior; when we will speak in uncontrolled anger and hurt their feelings. After all, we ourselves are still works in progress.
However, this does not excuse the fact that we need to heighten our awareness and increase our sensitivity when it comes to the words we say (and the things we do). Let’s choose to use our words (and actions) well, especially for the betterment of our children. In the words of Taylor Swift:
“Words can break someone into a million pieces, but they can also put them back together. I hope you use yours for good, because the only words you'll regret more than the ones left unsaid are the ones you use to intentionally hurt someone.”
How Your Words Can Change Your World by Bo Sanchez
Photo by David Hanson Ong