Rosalyn* is a 34-year old mom whose son Lorenzo is in Grade 2 in a mid-size school in Makati. Since the start of the schoolyear, Rosalyn has been bringing Lorenzo to school every day, and she says she can vouch for her son’s good behavior – until the child’s teacher told her otherwise in a recent Parent Teacher Conference. "I could not believe she was talking about my son, but after asking around I realized that I don’t really know my child that well," says Rosalyn.
Like Rosalyn, any parent would probably be troubled if they found out that their child was leading a "double life" — behaving well, like a “good” child, at home, but wreaking havoc in school (and elsewhere). It is especially distressing if the child turns out to be a bully.
A related article published on this website, "How Does a Child Become a Bully?", states the following: "Children with ‘emotional, behavioral or psychological problems’ were more likely to become bullies. The kids of parents who said they were mad at or anxious with their kids were actually also more likely to become bullies, as a result. "
This article is quite alarming, especially since we parents know that there will inevitably be times when we could lose it with our children. However, the article goes on to say that, "[kids of] parents who had good communication with their kids… were less likely to become bullies."