It's natural for a parent to want her child to be the best among her peers. Thus, the moment we welcome a baby into this world we're already anxious to see what developmental milestone she'll make in comparison to the rest. We want them to be ahead all the time, and it's such music to a parent's ears when we hear others say, "Your child is so smart!"
But does being smart decide a child's success in the future?
According to a study, it is not so much one's intelligence quotient (IQ) as his personality that would predict his success. Qualities like diligence, perseverance, and self-discipline also play a big part in determining whether a person will make it in life or not. "Personality is generally more predictive than IQ on a variety of important life outcomes," say the authors in the paper which was published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.
Economist and Nobel laureate James Heckman, one of the study's co-authors, says that grades are a better gauge than IQ alone because these take into account one's non-cognitive skills, too -- critical thinking, problem solving, self-control -- which are all crucial in success in any field. Collectively, these would also comprise one's emotional quotient, or EQ.
In an interview with Smart Parenting, Charity Orense, a professor of psychology at the Assumption College, suggests, “If you want to raise kids with high EQ, there must be a loving atmosphere in the family with more of sympathy and understanding and less of violence and anger. Give your kids room to grow and explore. Allow them to make mistakes because that’s how they learn.”
She adds, "The successful individual is one who can walk the delicate tightrope between heart and mind."