Have you ever visited a friend’s home with your child and balked at how he or she behaved there? Or, have you ever reprimanded your little one for getting into a fight with his playmates at a neighbor’s home? Realistically speaking, we know that our children will misbehave at one time or another (there are no perfect children after all), but we can take steps to ensure that they don’t do so often, especially when visiting other people’s homes.
We asked a few parents about what they do to make sure that their kids are on their “best behavior”, and this is what they had to say:
Anne Mercado, freelance writer, draws from her experience as a mom to five-year-old JL and says, “Kids should always be at their best behavior wherever they are — but keep in mind that ‘best’ is highly dependent on a particular situation.”
According to Anne, “if you take your kid to lunch at a friend's home with mostly adults, ‘best behavior’ is sitting as long as possible on a chair, or walking around the backyard, if this is safe and permitted by the homeowner.”
However, if there are other kids present, "best behavior" can mean they're allowed to run around with other children and play to their heart’s content.
Anne says that what's important to relay to a child is that every house has their own rules which needs to be followed. “And as long as they're in line with these and aren't overly rowdy, that's what ‘best behavior’ is,” she adds.
Christine Arteta, a work-at-home mom to Avienda, 6, says she always reminds her daughter to “sit properly” beside her whenever they visit other people’s homes. “If she is invited by other kids to play with them, I let her do so — as long as she does not touch anything in the house, not even the toys of other kids. She always has to ask permission if she wants to go look at another part of the house, and stay where I can still see her.”