• People Shake Their Heads Over Your Parenting Choices? Ignore Them

    You cannot control what others say about your parenting. But you can change how you react to them.
    by Rachel Perez .
  • People Shake Their Heads Over Your Parenting Choices? Ignore Them
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  • Technology has helped build and maintain relationships. It has also paved the way for all voices to be heard, and depending on who you ask, it can be a good or a bad thing. In parenting, however, it can feel like everyone knows what is right and wrong, that everything is black and white. News flash: it's not always the case. There are studies, experts, or friends you can go to for advice, but at the end of the day, each family is unique -- it's our life, our kids, and our choices. We should not be quick to condemn a mom or dad because we rarely have an idea of their daily lives.     

    Take for example the neverending battle between formula and breast milk. Hollywood actress Amanda Seyfried, who recently welcomed her first child, gave her two cents worth, and we should all reflect about her simple tweet before we make any comments especially on social media. 

    "Breastfeeding is awesome. Formula is awesome. Feeding your baby is awesome,” she wrote. “Not awesome? Judgment."  

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    The Mamma Mia star also tweeted a quote from a Quartz article that reveals an upsetting reality that society is okay to see breasts in lingerie ads, but she is shamed when she breastfeeds in public. 

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    And while we're on the subject of shaming, we've all endured stares when our kids have temper tantrums in public. Let's face it -- we've also shaken our heads at parents when they can't seem to control a child who is crying or acting out. In short, we're either embarrassed for ourselves or the other parent because of the scene that's playing out. Where is the discipline, right? 

    Well, Jane The Virgin actor Justin Baldoni says we're putting too much care into what others think. He points this out when he posted a photo of him and his dad staring at his little girl throwing a fit on the floor of a supermarket. Justin just lets his daughter be overcome by emotion, but he’s not embarrassed by her daughter's actions. 

    "There are no perfect parents, but one thing my dad taught me is to not parent based on what anyone else thinks," the soon-to-be father of two wrote. "It's not embarrassing to me when she throws tantrums in the grocery store or screams on a plane. I'm her dad…not yours." Justin stressed.

    Justin ended his post with a plea for parents not to be embarrassed for their kids and be a little kinder and more patient with ourselves as well. 

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    We agree with these two. We all need to learn how to be more positive and practice empathy with our fellow parents. We need to focus more on doing what’s best for our family and not what other people say. 

    [h/t: The Huffington Post, PopSugar]

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