Tantrums are young kids' ways of venting their frustration, only because they cannot think of any other way to express it. Oftentimes, tantrums signal hunger, boredom, or fatigue. It's best to ignore the fit and go directly to the underlying problem: feed him, give him something else to do, or let him sleep or rest in a soothing place while you calmly talk him down. Getting angry with him because he's angry will only result in two frustrated and exhausted people.
At the same time, keep in mind that it does not help to constantly give in and let your child have his way. Tantrums escalate when kids have an audience; so quietly pick your child up and carry him to an empty room where you can talk to him in private.
Rachel Arguelles, head teacher at the Greenhills Learning Center in San Juan
Abelardo Apollo I. David, Jr., occupational therapist and executive director of the Independent Living and Learning Center
Ropheme Meniola, M.A. in counseling and minor in family and child psychology, Ateneo de ManilaRomela Rubio, psychologist
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