• I reprimanded my three-year-old, telling him he’s a “bad boy.” Now he’s scared of me. What should I do to win back his trust?

  • Be careful with what you say to your child. “You have to make it clear that you disapprove of his ‘behavior’ and not him personally,” Alianan-Bautista explains. Labeling a child “bad” will make him feel rejected.

    “When reprimanding a toddler, focus on the specific action or behavior because that is what you should be managing,” says Oris.

     
    SOURCES:
    • Geraldine Oris, M.A. in Developmental Psychology, Ateneo de Manila University; education professor, University of Asia and the Pacific, Pasig City
    • Evangeline Alianan-Bautista, M.A., child psychologist, PsychConsult, Inc., Unit 227 Regalia Park Towers, 150 P. Tuazon Ave., Cubao, Q.C., tel. 421-2469

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