Any couple who has struggled to get pregnant knows that sometimes all you can do is laugh when another attempt to have a bun in the oven fails yet again. You laugh away how you literally drop everything when your temperature says you're in prime ovulating condition, when your husband talks about how one sperm collecting clinic is better than the other one, or just when you are so sure you're pregnant that you buy three different brands of pregnancy tests--only to be told by all it was a false alarm.
It's an emotional roller coaster so laughter sometimes is the best way to cope. That's exactly why couple Whitney and Spencer Black decided to spoof pregnancy announcements and make them into "infertility" announcements after struggling for seven years to get pregnant.
And before you judge them as insensitive, they have a disclaimer: "What used to be such a consuming, challenging part of our life is now usually more of a passing thought. We are so grateful to be parents, but we have not forgotten how lonely and horrible infertility can feel, which is why we thought we’d create something to connect with others who are going through what we went through."
Whitney tells People, "We know firsthand that it can be sad seeing happy pregnancy posts online. But infertility is an issue that people shouldn't shy away from. We believe there's a lot of healing in connection."
"In the heart of our struggle, it was so nice to get support from others going through the same thing. We wanted to connect with people in a not-so-serious way! If other people know they're not alone in this, it can really give them an emotional boost," Spencer adds.
After years of struggling with infertility, Whitney and Spencer are now proud parents to two boys, Mason and Kellen, by way of adoption in 2012 and 2014. Looking back, Whitney wrote in a blog post, "I can say that while I will never love the heartache of infertility, I have developed an appreciation for how it has shaped my story...Infertility led me to my boys... I can’t think about life without infertility, because what if that would have meant life without them? Infertility is part of what created our family."
You can read more about how they came up with the infertility announcement concepts and their adoption story on their blog.