Yasmien Kurdi-Soldevilla, 25 years old Actress Wife to Rey; mom to Ayesha Zara, 1 year old
SP: Tell us your birthing story. Yasmien: A week before I gave birth, nararamdaman ko na yung pagod pag naglalakad, sumasakit na yung legs ko (I would already feel tired after long walks, my legs would hurt). One morning, at around 4 am, I woke up and I felt like peeing. When I did, there was mucus plug at alam ko eto na yun (I knew this was it). I then texted my OB-Gyn, she said I needed to go to the hospital immediately, so we did.
At around 9 am, my OB-Gyn said, wala pa, hindi pa nagra-rupture yung water bag ko. Two cm (2 centimeters) pa lang ako. Sabi nya, maglakad-lakad daw muna ako, so umuwi muna kami ng bahay. Dun ko naramdaman na masakit na, nagco-contract na. And then at 12 noon, my water bag burst. (At around 9 am, my OB-Gyn said my water bag hasn’t ruptured yet. I was instructed to take a short walk, so we went home. That’s when I started to contract. At 12 noon, my water bag burst).
We rushed to the hospital immediately, while I supported the leak using an adult diaper. I was scared because usually, kasunod na nun yung baby. But when my OB checked, 2 cm pa lang ako. At 2 pm, 2 cm pa din. At 4 pm, 2 cm pa din. Tiniis ko talaga yung sakit. I didn’t want an epidural kasi may nabasa akong reports na mas nasi-CS (Caesarean section) ang babae kapag nilagyan ng epidural. They kept checking on me pero sabi ko, kaya ko yung pain. Dumaan yung oras, hindi pa din nag-improve yung dilation, I was stuck at 2 cm. At 9 pm, they were already suggesting na i-CS na ako, pero ayoko pa din. Pinipigilan ko sarili ko kasi bakit sa probinsya, normal delivery naman sila. By 11:30, nag-slow down na yung heartbeat ng baby. Ang deal namin ng doctor ko, pag 12:00 midnight wala pa din, isi-CS nya na ako kasi sabi nya, pag emergency case, pangit yung incision, tinakot nya na ako. Actualy ang isa sa mga iniisip ko yung finances kasi at that time, my husband had just resigned from work, and I stopped being an actress because I went to nursing school. Anyway, at 12 midnight, they wheeled me into the Operating Room. My only request was that my husband be there with me and that he be the one to cut the cord.
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(We rushed to the hospital immediately, while I supported the leak using an adult diaper. I was scared because usually, the baby would then come out. But when my OB checked, I was only 2 cm dilated. At 2 pm, it was still 2 cm. At 4 pm, it was the same. But I endured the pain. I didn’t want an epidural since I’ve read reports that say women are more likely to be subjected to Caesarean section if they are put on an epidural. They kept checking on me but I remained firm that I could endure the pain. After a few more hours there was still no improvement. At 9 pm, they were already suggesting that I undergo a Caserean procedure but I refused. In my head, I was thinking that women in the provinces could give birth through normal delivery. By 11:30 pm, the baby’s heartbeat was slowing down. My doctor made a deal with me that if at 12:00 midnight, there was still no improvement, she’d cut me open, even saying that an emergency surgery would result in an unsightly incision. One of the things that was worrying me was our finances because my husband had just resigned from work, and I stopped being an actress because I went to nursing school. Anyway, at 12 midnight, they wheeled me into the Operating Room. My only request was that my husband be there with me and that he be the one to cut the cord.)
Nilagyan na ako ng morphine, and then after that wala na akong maramdaman from my shoulders down. Hindi ko maigalaw. Nakakatakot yung feeling. Naramdaman ko yung paghiwa, pero walang sakit. Pinapatulog ako pero ayokong matulog kasi napa-paranoid ako sa mga news about babies na ninanakaw, babies na nasi-switch sa ospital, kaya sabi ko sa husband ko, wag nyang iwanan, na picture-an nya mula ulo hanggang paa. Sabi ko din sa doctor ko, wag ilagay sa nursery 'yung baby ko. Ang Department of Health may campaign din na Unang Yakap kaya gusto ko i-breastfeed ko agad yung baby ko.
(They administered morphine, and then I couldn’t feel anything. From my shoulders down, I couldn’t move. It was a scary feeling. I felt it when they made the incision, but there was no pain. They tried to put me to sleep but I fought it because all the news about baby switching and kidnapping made me so paranoid. I gave instructions to my husband not to lose sight of our baby and to take photos. I also asked the doctor not to have my baby brought to the nursery, and anyway the Department of Health has a campaign called “First Embrace” which encourages mothers to breastfeed their babies immediately upon delivery.)
Later on, nakita ko sa photos na nu'ng lumabas 'yung baby ko, umiiyak pala ako, hindi ko naramdaman. Hindi ko alam na may tears ako. 'Pag first time mom ka pala, hindi mo alam what to expect. Sabi ko, bakit ganun yung ilong, namamaga? (It was only later when I was looking at the photos that I realized I was crying when I first saw my baby. I didn’t know I had tears. When you’re a first-time mom, you don’t know what to expect. I wondered, why is my baby’s nose swollen?)
I gave birth on November 22, 2012 to Ayesha Zara, which means "bright flower" in the Hindu language. It’s also a combination of Christian and Muslim names, since my husband is Christian and my dad is Muslim. Incidentally, November 22 is the Independence day of Lebanon, where my father comes from.
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The next day, I had my catheter removed, I walked already and was discharged from the hospital. Pag hindi mo kasi sinubukan, hindi ka magre-recover. Huwag mo naman pilitin, pero at least try. (If you don’t try, it will be difficult to recover. Don’t push yourself too hard, but at least try.)