Read on to find out the number one reason why moms don't go on a break.
Stop the Guilt
It’s not really the ages of our kids, the lack of time, the many chores and activities of the family, etc. that are the true factors which stop us, most deserving moms, from claiming a personal break. It’s guilt. We feel guilty because there’s so much to be done yet; or that the children will be left at home, while we go and pamper ourselves even for a few hours; or that others might question our being a good mom. I have one advice for all you moms who encounter this emotional tug-o-war: JUST STOP!
Learn to Let Go and Relax Gradually
Begin with small doses. Leaving your napping little baby with a trusted helper or relative and just having a cup of coffee at a nearby coffee shop can renew your spirits to no end. Then, as your children grow, maybe two to three hour dates with the hubby on Friday or Saturday nights can also be arranged. Then, later on, even a few weekend get-away trips with your husband may become an exciting reality. In this gradual way, it becomes less traumatic for your children and your whole household whenever you leave. It may even be a legacy you can leave to our children—that they will grow up valuing themselves more as adults, and especially as parents.
Two Important Reasons Why You Should Go on a Break
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There are two basic reasons for going through this seemingly tough, but pertinent process. First, you are more than just a mom. Never box yourself in with just one label, no matter how noble it may seem. Although you may dedicate yourself to caring for your children, running your home, attending to your business or job, you are also an adult woman with the need to relax, with talents to develop, and ambitions beyond the home to cultivate. Attend to these parts of yourself. Second, what you read in many of today’s baby books is true—a happy mom is one who can take better care of her family. As a dear friend of mine once said, “If you don’t give yourself a break every now and then, you can grow so resentful of your family simply because you’re so tired and harassed.”
To end, I quote award winning novelist Kristin Hannah when she says, “Sometimes you have to fight for the thing that will complete you.” Many times, moms need to fight for the opportunities to go on a break and take care of themselves—against many external pressures and yet also against their own fears. Don’t allow guilt to rob you of the greater joys of being a mom and a woman of today. Continuously discover and love your beautiful self.