6 Lines Only Moms Will Understand While Listening To Adele's New Album"I changed who I was to put you both first."by Ginyn Noble .
Separating from a spouse is one of the most difficult things to explain to kids. They might think, “If both parents love you, why will they not stay with you under the same roof?”
The reasons are usually so complicated, and sometimes you just want to shield their innocence. For best-selling music artist Adele, creating an entire album was the answer.
6 heartbreaking lines from Adele's new album '30'
The British singer-songwriter and single mom poured her heart out in her fourth studio album “30.” She carefully crafted the songs inspired by her feelings toward her son and the ex she divorced this year. She even ensured that her story was told in the right order by asking Spotify to disable the shuffle button on her album playlist in the app.
If you listened to all of them, you’ll find these heartbreaking and totally accurate lines that moms experience.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
“I changed who I was to put you both first” — Easy on Me
If you’re a fan of Adele, you can’t have missed this track. The music video released in October 2021 brought on the feels for women (and men!) of all ages and life circumstances. But for moms, what stands out was her mention of how hard she tried to save her marriage.
If a couple does not compromise or evolve when problems arise, problems are bound to arise. In Adele's case, she had to sacrifice herself for what she thought was best for her son and husband. Eventually, she had to give up. It's a scenario that lots of families are familiar with.
“My little love / Tell me, do you feel the way my past aches? / When you lay on me, can you hear the way my heart breaks?”— My Little Love
This track was clearly written for her son and paints her regrets over the impact the split had on her child. It even features their voice and snippets of their conversations.
Adele wonders if he feels the depth of the hurt she’s experiencing and hates that she can’t protect him from the pain. She mentions how she blames herself — mom guilt that we know all too well.
The chorus goes, “I’m holdin’ on. Mama’s got a lot to learn.” It’s also something we all relate to. We stay strong for the kids and strive to be better for them. No matter how heavy things get, it’s actually them that “save” us and make us feel like we can weather through any storm.CONTINUE READING BELOWRecommended Videos
“I have nothin' to feel no more, I can't even cry. / When will I begin to feel like me again?”— Cry Your Heart Out
“When I walk in a room, I'm invisible. I feel like a ghost.” You don’t necessarily have to be a mother to feel this way. But when you are a mom that everybody depends on and one that has to be strong for everybody else, the feeling can come so easily. Others who aren’t in the same boat would tell you it’ll pass, but it won’t feel that way when you’re tired, lonely, and lost.
Adele’s advice is quite helpful — just find a way to cry it out. Sometimes, that will help you release your frustrations. Once you wipe your river of tears away, your perspective would usually be clearer. After that, hopefully, you have enough strength to rediscover yourself.
“Why am I obsessing about the things I can't control? / Why am I seeking approval from people I don't even know?” — I Drink Wine
As a mom in the age of social media, you can’t help but compare yourself to other moms. And others can’t help but compare you to others, too. Sure, we try to affirm that our beginning should never be weighed up against someone else’s middle or end.
We can’t help it sometimes, and on a few occasions, the odds are against us. Namely, our constant pagod, our longing for affection, and even our hormones (postpartum blues being the worst).ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Some of us are strong enough or have a stable support system to cope. Otherwise, we yearn for something to fill the void. Adele croons that some end up depending on alcohol, while others cling to toxic relationships. They find “some substance in [their] life, something real, something that feels true.”
“Sometimes loneliness is the only rest we get / And the emptiness actually lets us forget / Sometimes forgiveness is easiest in secret” — Hold On
Adele revealed that this song was about her feelings when she was unable to see her son. She was used to being with him but shared custody meant he spent some days with dad, too.
It wasn't in Adele's plans to be separated from her son and during those days, feelings of loneliness and emptiness were overwhelming. She goes on to sing, “Let time be patient and (You are still strong) / Let pain be gracious / Love will soon come, baby / If you just hold on.”
Adele also mentions forgiveness — it’s not only toward the ex but also yourself. Without forgiving yourself, you can’t move on and welcome love back into your life.
“I'm so afraid, but I'm open wide / I'll be the one to catch myself this time” — To Be Loved
In this part of the album, she sings about how she “built a house for a love to grow” when she was too young. Now that it’s all over, she feels “as lost now as [she] was back then.” As the song progresses, she shares how she tried to save the relationship.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Despite the effort, she had to sacrifice her security to find real love. “Let it be known that I will choose to lose. / It's a sacrifice, but I can't live a lie.”
Sometimes, that love doesn’t mean falling into the arms of a new partner. Sometimes, you have to be your own savior.
What other lines from Adele’s new album spoke to your heart? Share it in the comments!
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