Mom Opens ‘Scream Hotline’ To Help Fellow Mothers Release Stress Amid The PandemicStaying at home with the kids is not always easy.by Kitty Elicay .
While working at home gave us the opportunity to spend more time with the family, it doesn’t mean that it’s a walk in the park. Moms especially are finding it hard to put in actual work with all the things they need to do on a daily basis.
Imagine this: You need to supervise your children, make sure there’s food on the table, keep the house clean, and more. If you have young children, you have to deal with their clinginess, constant interruptions (right in the middle of a meeting!), and tantrums.
Jessica Grose, New York Times (NYT) parenting editor and mom of two young children, found herself in the same situation.
“Last summer, I was putting the laundry from the washer into the dryer, while listening to a conference call on headphones and also making lunch for my two kids while they whine from hunger in the background,” Jessica shares in an interview with HLN’s On The Story.
“I felt that nothing I had read or seen depicted how full to bursting every single minute felt during the pandemic,” she added.
It inspired her to open the Primal Scream Line, a dedicated number that tired parents can call where you can just “scream after the beep” and let out all the stress that has built up while you were stuck at home.
“Welcome to the primal scream line — where the floor is yours to yell, laugh, cry, or vent for a solid minute. No judgment,” read the advertisement.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Unsurprisingly, the hotline was overwhelmed with calls. “Hundreds of people called screaming, yelling, just venting. And it was just really kind of beautiful,” said Grose to Parents.
Clearly, working moms are not OK in this pandemic. In the United States, more than 2 million women left the workforce since the pandemic began. It’s a testament that moms are willing to make a sacrifice for their family and children — even if it means giving up a career they worked hard to build.
Being cooped up at home also makes moms feel overwhelmed, affecting their mental health. According to NYT, 69 percent of moms said they have had adverse health effects during the pandemic because of worry and stress. And while dads are helping out, 66 percent of the moms still said they were primarily responsible for childcare compared to their partners.
“Minsan, ginagabi na ako sa pagtatrabaho dahil sa pag-aasikaso sa mga bata. 'Yung 'di ka na magkandaugaga sa routine mo mula Lunes hanggang Biyernes dahil nagtatrabaho ka habang binabantayan ang mga anak mo — magkakataon pang clingy ang bunso.”
She adds, “Halos mag-breakdown ako dahil hindi ko alam ang uunahin. Kapag nagsasabi ako ng mga problema ko o ihinihinga ko ang pagod ko, lagi akong nasasabihang 'maarte'.
“Pero totoong nakakapagod maging stay-at-home working mom. Actually, nakakapagod maging mom. Period. Lalong-lalo na kung ikaw lang mag-isa ang nag-aasikaso sa bahay, sa mga bata, sa bills, sa lahat—ikaw na.”CONTINUE READING BELOWRecommended Videos
According to a recent study, working moms take on more responsibilities outside of work compared to dads. A survey even found they stress out over their husbands twice as much as they stress over their kids. That’s why during this crisis, mothers need their partner’s help more than ever.
Most importantly, moms need to de-stress. On Smart Parenting we offer a safe space where mothers can express their thoughts without the fear of judgment.
It’s called Smart Parenting Confessions or #SPConfessions — where women can vent, share their parenting hugot and just let out their feelings. There’s no right or wrong here; it’s just a place where you can let go of the weight you’re carrying in your minds and hearts.
We also have the Smart Parenting Village, a parenting community where we encourage moms and dads to join discussions and share tips and experiences on pregnancy, parenting, and health. It is a comfort zone for many and we strive for it to be a group that is helpful to all.
If screaming and venting do little to alleviate your worries, you may want to seek professional help. Click here for a list of centers that offer free online psychological services during the COVID-19 pandemic.
There is also the support group SOS Philippines on Facebook, founded for survivors of suicide loss and Filipinos undergoing mental health ailments.
Think you or your family members are experiencing anxiety? Click here for the subtle signs you need to watch out for.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
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