Q: Is it a wise move to send my helper/yaya to school? I’d like to help her achieve academically, but that also means that when she graduates, she’ll move on and leave us. Am I being selfish?
A: True generosity is one that does not expect anything in return. It comes from a place of abundance rather than lack and can never be an “unwise” move. Specifically in this case, when you feel your yaya has talent and should be given an opportunity to improve her life, what should actually stop you from helping her? The temporary inconvenience of trying to find a replacement? The discomfort of spending on someone else other than your family member? The possibility of not getting proper “returns” on your “investment”?
If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, then perhaps it would not be wise for you to send your yaya to school - not because it is a bad idea or that the gesture is of no value - but rather that your intention will not match your actions nor the result that it may bring.
If you decide to give to someone, then treat this giving as a genuine gift - one that has no strings attached, one that expects nothing but the betterment of the receiver, one that comes from a place of true sharing; otherwise, I would advise you not to even try, the reason being that should you have expectations after sending your staffer to school - such as being bound to you for life or being forever indebted - you will inevitably get disappointed.
Think of things this way: if the tables were turned, would you as a staffer not want an opportunity for a better life without a catch? I know I certainly would.