In this time when there's a shortage of helpers for hire, trustworthy kasambahays and yayas are a gem. But how do you know during the hiring process that the person you're hiring is even sane? You can do a background check and due diligence, but that assurance can only go so far. Otherwise it's a risk you'll have to take.
Nonetheless, it's never too late to catch bad behavior even after you've hired a yaya. Child psychologist Boots Mendoza gives a few telltale signs that may tip you off on nanny troubles in your home:
1. Check the kids for bruises, welts, or wounds.
Do this before going out and check them again when they get home. “One good way to do this is to be the one to give the kids a bath at night,” she says.
2. Your child doesn’t want to be left alone with the nanny.
Observe the child’s behavior. The point of having a nanny is to have someone look after your child in your absence, but if she won't stay with the yaya even if they were okay during the trial period, then that would be a problem.
3. Your child seems to be frightened or doesn't seem to warm up to the nanny.
A child must first feel safe with a yaya before she can trust him. If that doesn't happen after a reasonable time frame, then your child may have a good reason for feeling that way.
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4. The nanny seems uninterested in her job and frequently asks to leave (or sneaks out of) the house.
Mendoza, however, noted that parents shouldn’t be quick to judge. “They have the right to be suspicious, but it shouldn’t be a habit and shouldn’t go overboard.”
Parents should be able to tell if the children are merely complaining or just telling on the nanny to attract attention. Observe your child and how your child relates with the yaya. It is always best to investigate first and be open to reason before doing anything drastic.
Mendoza says, “Wait for the right time to snoop and check. Also, if an argument arises, bring in someone who is willing to listen to both sides. However, try to handle the problem within the family; bringing more people into the argument might just complicate matters more, rather than solve it.”