'Marriage Does Not Need to Change People': Practical Advice From These Celeb Couplesby Kitty Elicay .
One of the secrets to a lasting marriage is growing together as individuals and as a couple. This includes working on various aspects of your relationship, including financial matters. To keep your marriage healthy, take your cue from husband-and-wife Erwan Heusaff and Anne Curtis and Richard and Maricar Poon whose refreshing insights on love and money make them #couplegoals in our eyes.
Erwan and Anne: ‘Marriage does not need to change people’
Anne’s new film, Just a Stranger, caught the ire of online users when the actress shared the movie poster on her Instagram account. The photo shows her and leading man Marco Gumabao locked in an intimate position.
Some netizens suggested that Anne should stop portraying daring roles because she’s already a married woman, while others called her “immoral” for letting other men touch her body. Some berated Erwan for allowing the movie to happen, saying that it was “disrespectful” for Anne to accept that role knowing she is married in real life.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Erwan, however, found the unsolicited remarks “hilarious.” He addressed the netizens directly by commenting on Anne’s post. “Last I checked, I’m the husband and I know how I feel (which is completely fine by the way, thanks for asking,” he wrote. “So, no need to throw around words like disrespect or dictate what a person should or shouldn’t do after getting married.”
Erwan adds, “I’ve known my wife as an actress, since day 1, and I have the utmost admiration for what she does. End of story.”
“Let’s stop talking about marriage like it needs to change people.”
The content creator shares that watching Anne in her movies does not make him feel awkward or uncomfortable in any way. He even gives his wife input when he reads the script and tells her how he thinks the story can be developed or portrayed. On the other hand, it’s the netizens’ comments that make the situation awkward.CONTINUE READING BELOWwatch now
“So let’s stop talking about marriage like it needs to change people,” Erwan says. “Most successful marriages I know are those where both parties kept their identity intact and [they] grew as a couple.”
He also pointed out that if it was a married man doing love scenes, no one would have any issue with it. “Let’s not be sexist, people,” he says.
Richard and Maricar: ‘Choose a budgeting method and stick to it’
Money can be a touchy subject for couples, and fights over money can get ugly. But couple Richard and Maricar Poon offer a simple solution to those who want to be more disciplined when it comes to budgeting their earnings and expenses.
In a two-part video shared on their YouTube channel, the couple shared the story of a stranger who attempted to borrow money (a six-digit amount) from them. The woman messaged them on one of their social media accounts, explaining that she is a minimum wage earner who borrowed money from a loan app.
Loan apps have higher interest rates than banks, so you end up paying more even if you only borrowed a small amount in the first place. There is also a catch: the app gets access to all of your contacts so should you ever fail to make a payment, the app will inform your phone contacts about it through text.
To make the long story short, the girl ended up borrowing from 10 loan apps, and she messaged Maricar out of desperation. This prompted Maricar and Richard to give out important money advice, where they recommended a budgeting method called the “envelope system.”ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Taught to Richard by motivational speaker and entrepreneur Chinkee Tan, the envelope system requires a person to divide his or her money and put it in different envelopes for his itemized expenses.
“Let’s say Php14,000 ang sweldo mo. Kapag nakuha mo yung sweldo mo, kinsensas, maglagay ka na sa envelope,” Richard says.
He goes on to show how he would break down his salary and put it in different envelopes according to the expense. For example, his first envelope would consist of five percent of his payroll to pay for his debts, while a second envelope would be for their monthly rent. A third envelope will contain money for taxes. You can also add more envelopes depending on your monthly expenses (water and electricity, phone plans, etc.)
“Kung kinsenas ang sweldo mo, ‘yung kalahati ng renta ilagay mo na [sa envelope],” Richard notes.
“Ang basic na sinasabi naman is, pagkakuha mo ng sweldo, ilaan mo na sa expenses na alam mo buwan-buwan, fixed siya,” Maricar adds. “Para hindi mo na siya gagastusin sa ibang bagay.”ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
The couple shares that the envelope system teaches discipline and financial responsibility. “This system is very, very effective,” Richard says. “Kapag nalagay ko na ang lahat ng pera, kung ano ang matira, ‘yun lang ang pwede kong gastusin.”
“It’s harder to spend the money kasi nakabukod na,” Maricar adds.
When it comes to paying off loans, Richard’s advice is to pay it by installment instead of a lump sum. “Kaya maraming ‘di nakakabayad ng utang kasi gusto nila one-time big time,” Richard says. “Mali ‘yun.”
At the end of the day, it is up to you to make the system work. “’Yung character pa rin ng tao ‘yung pinaka-importante. ‘Yung envelope system, kapag hindi mo talaga sineryoso, hindi rin siya effective,” Richard says.
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