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How To Make Your Wife Feel Loved During Tough Times, According To Patty Laurel
PHOTO BY @pattylaurel/Facebook
  • Marriage is a complex matter, and it is said that the person you choose to be your spouse makes a big impact on your success and happiness, making it one of the most crucial decisions you will make in your life. 

    What a blessing, then, if you find the person you'd love to spend the rest of your life with, and he turns out to be a great friend, too! Patty Laurel-Filart, who frequently shares 'husband appreciation posts' on social media, considers herself to have this kind of blessing. 

    In a recent Facebook post, Patty recalled how her husband Patrick Filart came to her rescue  one time she was feeling frustrated about work. 

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    "I found myself stuck in the middle of a crappy work situation today.. I was completely exhausted and frustrated. I decided to just deal with it privately, and do my problem solving alone.. so I sat in our living room, in the dark," she began her post.

    The mom of two mentioned that problem solving at work is like second nature to her, having been in the business for long. 

    "I've been working since I was a teen so I've faced hundreds of stressful work moments in the past. I've just become so used to problem solving and always manage to navigate stressful situations as best I can. But although these 'stressors' aren't entirely new to me, they still bug me down and as a working mom.. It gets really HARD sometimes."

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    Though she intended to solve the problem by herself and didn't want to involve Patrick anymore, Patty is thankful that her husband knew exactly what to do to make her feel better (husbands, listen up!).


    How to make your wife feel loved during tough times

    1. Check on her.

    No matter what you're dealing with, there is nothing more comforting than someone asking how you are. "After 30 minutes of stressing in the dark, Pat came down to check up on me (he took the kids and kept them entertained) and said "Hey. Are you OK?" Those magic words really say, "I care about how you feel" or "I feel bad when you're sad."

    2. Ask how you could help.

    The next thing Patrick said to Patty after that was, "What can I do, babe, to make it better?" (Does this remind you of anyone in Frozen 2?)

    She shares, "Instead of correcting me, lecturing me on what I should have done or shouldn't have done, or coming up with solutions for me, he just asked me if I was okay, and if I needed help. Simple lang pero that's all I needed to hear."


    3. Listen to her.

    Sometimes, all a mom really needs is a sypathetic ear. "I shared my frustrations and he listened," she wrote. 

    Patrick also earned additional "pogi points" for being such a hands-on dad

    "I said, 'Babe, just put Theo to sleep na lang please' and he said 'Oo kanina pa, napatulog ko na," Patty shared, referring to their 4-year-old son. Wow. Slow clap.

    "He's like a real life Kristoff and I'm Anna!!! Frozen 2 feels in my living room!!!"

    That said, we echo Patty's sentiment: "Mabuhay ang mga Tatay na hands-on!!!"

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