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Stay-At-Home Mom Asks Is It Wrong To Ask For An Allowance (Husband Ignored Her Request)
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  • In 2019, lawmakers introduced the idea of giving full-time stay-at-home moms (SAHM) an allowance of Php2,000 monthly. It’s way short of the Php8 million a year that job site Salary.com suggested based on a SAHM’s workload. 

    Under The Housewives Compensation Act (House Bill 8875), SAHMs’ allowance will come from the Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD). But shouldn’t it be from their husbands? 

    A mom in a private Facebook group asked if it’s okay that she asked her husband for an allowance. He’s ignored her request so far. While he buys her toiletries, she usually has no cash in her wallet, none to pay for food deliveries or online shopping for the home.

    Should stay-at-home moms have na allowance?

    We asked moms from the Smart Parenting Village Facebook Group the same questions.  Is it reasonable for SAHM to receive an allowance from hubby? Here’s what they have to say. 

    Yes, SAHMs deserve it!

    “For me, it’s a sign of appreciation from the husband for all the work we are doing at home, especially in taking care of the baby. My husband is giving me extra money aside from his salary, so I can buy what I want or need, kahit for cravings kung gusto ko magpa-deliver ng food or milk tea.” Mommy Khamz

    Only if there’s extra budget

    “SAHMs deserve it, not as ‘sahod,’ but a way of showing appreciation for the things they do. Pang-self care, shopping therapy, ganon, and it should be separate from the household budget. Pero siyempre only kung mayroong lang sobra sa budget. Hindi pa rin matutumbasan ng kahit magkano ang pagkalinga ng asawa at ina sa kanilang pamilya.” Mommy Jhem


    It gives you a sense of confidence.

    Yes, SAHMs deserve to have their own allowance. Kahit pa si mommy ang naghahawak ng budget o hindi. Kahit magkano pa yan. Iba kasi ang maibibigay na sense of confidence and assurance nun para kay mommy. Mommy Zarah

    Iba pa rin and may sariling pera

    "I asked my husband and sabi niya hindi na daw kelangan dahil nakukuha ko naman yung mga gusto ko kahit di niya ako binigyan ng allowance. Kung ako lang, iba pa din yung feeling kapag binibigyan ka ng sariling pera aside from pera for your daily needs. Nakaka-guilty din Kasi minsan na gastosin mo pera nyo na not intended for personal things, kahit pa may permission siya." Mommyu Bleng

    No allowance, but husband give his full salary

    “My husband doesn’t give me an allowance, but he gives me his salary. I set aside a little money for my savings, and I can buy whatever I want, within budget considerations, of course. He also pays for my life insurance. I am very thankful for it.” Mommy Bernadette

    Didn’t ask for it, but partner provides

    “I never asked for an allowance, but my partner gives me one. Parehas kami nagbu-budget ng salary niya, and lagi siya may nakalaan para sakin kung ano gusto ko gawin o bilhin. Lagi niyang sinasabi na deserve ko yun, pang-pamper sa sarili after mapagod sa pagaalaga ng bata at pagiging SAHM.” Mommy Ikay

    I'll just use the money for my kids or the house anyway

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    "Okay naman ako kahit walang sahod. Partners nga kami sa lahat so siya yung nagwo-work at ako sa bahay. 'Pag may sinabi ako na gusto ko bilhin never naman siya tumanggi. 'Pag gusto ko pa massage or hair color, binibigyan nia ako or madalas sasamahan niya ako. 'Pag may pera kasi ako nilalaan ko din sa mga anak at sa bahay kaya ok naman kahit walang sahod." Mommy Armi

    No, but include it in the home expenses

    “If you are managing the expenses, no na. Pwede mo na isingit yung allowance. For me, dapat automatic na yun na bibigyan ka ng allowance ng asawa mo for your personal needs like pambili ng basic necessities like clothes and undies.” Mommy Maria

    Pahinga na lang kesa pera

    “Much better Kung pahinga or me-time na lang ang ibigay kase sa totoo lang, nakaka-drain ang pagod sa bahay compared sa trabaho. Eto yung challenging talaga na kahit pera di mapapalitan. Mommy Rochelle

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