Identify the no-no gifts. It’s okay to let others in on your rules. Relatives and friends play a vital role in the gift-giving process, too, since a bulk of presents received during the holidays come from them. Abbie Mensenares, pediatric physical therapist and managing director of a therapy center, considers toys that promote violence as a no-no, and she lets the “gift givers” know this. Her son has since been receiving an assortment of educational toys, books, and clothes.
Describe the ideal gifts. Though it may be more of a challenge, Moira Bunyi, who has an M.A. in Family Life and Child Development from the University of the Philippines in Quezon City and is a mother of three, has managed to achieve this by communicating to her relatives the type of gifts she wants for her child, usually limiting them to educational toys. “We say it shouldn’t be too expensive, or else we tell them exactly which ones to get. This also decreases the chance of getting the same gift from different givers.”