Isabelle Daza: Oversharing on Social Media May Affect Kids' Self-esteem

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Mom of one Isabelle Daza is warning fellow parents about the dangers of oversharing their kids’ lives online, which an expert says could lead to self-esteem issues in the future. 

She told Pep.ph, “I talked to a psychologist about this, and I asked him, ‘How much is oversharing?’ What are the dangers of social media exposing your child too much to social media? How does it happen ba?”

In a nutshell, it will appear that there is the danger of the child losing his sense of identity because his self-worth will be defined now by what is seen by the public on social media.

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As an example, Isabelle, who has a one-year-old son named Baltie, says, “He hits somebody, and I post that video of him.

And then his classmates see him and says, ‘Hey, look, you’re so naughty. You hit someone. I saw your photo.’

“The psychologist explained that the child, he loses his own self-identity, so he starts to have self-doubt.

“And from that classmate, from that interaction, he says, ‘Is that who I am?’

“And that defines him, what other people think of him, and what other people see of him.”

This is why these days, Isabelle is posting less about her adorable son Baltie.

“The psychologist was saying that when mothers overshare what their children are doing, they don’t realize the effects now.

“But later on, it will happen and that, for me, was an enlightening moment.”

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In March, Isabelle’s eye-opening post on how much time we parents spend using our phones got a lot of her followers thinking.

She said she didn’t realize that she’s on her phone a lot -- “When I checked my screen time, I said, ‘My gosh. Six hours and 57 minutes.’ Basically buong araw,” she told Pep.ph.

She captioned the video she made with “Created this video as a reminder to myself to be present and that not everything has to be recorded. I realized that there are times I chose to be on my phone rather than spend quality time with my son; I underestimate the amount of times he sees my phone and not my actual face. Trying to be better and lessen my average phone usage.”

The Instagram post went viral soon after it was posted.

“I was very shocked na ang daming tumanggap nun in a positive way,” the social media influencer said.

“Wanting to constantly post your child, it happens, e. Siyempre you’re proud. 

“But that’s all your child sees. It’s constantly your phone. It really shapes who they become.”

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