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Title: unappreciated mom...
Post by: kalix on June 25, 2008, 05:07:57 pm
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hi moms!

did you ever feel na your not a good mom at all? sometimes, i feel that...
you see, my son is sickly. from the time I conceived, lagi na lang ako sa hospital, maselan kasi ako magbuntis. ilang beses na rin akong muntik makunan. Buti na lang palaban baby ko, according to my doctor. Halos lahat na ata ng pampakapit eh naibigay na sakin... :)

Then I gave birth to my son. Thank God healthy naman sya.
The bad news eh lagi na lang syang nagkakasakit, 5 or 6 times na ata sya nahospital. It was really stressful! Lahat na ata naramdaman ko. nakakapagod, nakaka stress, nakaka depress, nakaka nerbyos & all. traumatizing na rin sa anak ko. Everytime na ii-inject sya naaawa ako sa kanya. Mommies, binibigay ko naman lahat sa kanya. Nagresign na nga rin ako sa work ko para lang maalagaan ko sya. I gave him nutritious foods, mahilig nga sya sa gulay at prutas. I gave him vitamins, good hygiene & clean environment, regular check up sa doctor etc., most especially LOVE & AFFECTION. pero bat ganito? other people still think na I'm not a good mother I mean kulang pa. kesyo pabayaan ko lang daw kumain ng kung ano ano, kesyo hayaan ko lang daw magdumi. Haller! kaya ko lang naman binibihisan ang anak ko kasi baka matuyuan ng pawis. mali po ba yun mga mommy? kesyo ganito, ganyan, blah, blah, blah! parang kailangan every minute nakabantay ako sa anak ko.pag ginawa ko yun, pano naman matutong maging independent ang anak ko kung lagi na lang akong nakabuntot. I make sure naman na safe ang place na pinaglalaruan niya before I let him. & I checked him naman from time to time. ano pa ba ang kulang?... ???
even my mom, she makes me feel na kulang pa binibigay ko para sa anak ko.Wala na nga akong halos time para sa sarili ko...

Di nila alam kung anong hirap ang magisa na nagpapalaki ng anak. My husband works abroad that's why kami lang ng son ko. Kaya tuwing may problema mag-isa ko lang, wala akong ka share. Kahit na laging tumatawag husband ko iba pa rin yung andito sya....pero of course I understand, kasi yun ang bumubuhay sa min. Lalo na pag nahohospital ang anak ko. Grabe!ang nerbyos ko. kasi nung nahospital sya bumaba oxygen level niya, nahirapan na po syang huminga.naiyak na talaga ko.natakot ako...ganun po pala ang feeling...pinipilit kong maging strong..nung naging stable sya, lumabas ako at don ako umiyak ng umiyak....ang hirap ng nagiisa.

imagine lahat ng pinagdaanan ko sa anak ko until now, na sabi nga ng pedia cardio na meron daw syang myocarditis. OMG! kelan kaya matatapos to? may asthma pa ang anak ko. kaya nagbabalak na naman akong dalhin sya dyan sa Manila for 3rd opinion. according don sa 2nd mukhang hindi naman daw kasi clear yung 2 D Echo niya at other lab tests. kasi may pinapainon sa kanyang gamot. & now eto't wala ng ginawa ang ibang tao kundi makialam at kung ano ano pa. sino po bang ina ang may gustong maysakit o nahihirapan ang anak? instead of supporting me or di kaya'y palakasin ang loob ko lalo pang pinaparamdam sakin na nagkulang ako...
even my MIL, nung time na bumaba level ng oxygen ng anak ko at parang di sya bumubuti, all I need is a word of encouragement, yung emotional support man lang. wala akong nakuha sa kanya,pinaalam ko kasi sa kanya.mantakin mong sabihin sakin sa cp nung nagusap kami na, "pasensya na, di ako makakapunta dyan,alam mo naman na wala akong pera". sobrang sumama po ng loob ko. kasi di naman niya binibisita apo niya dito samin. nasa province kasi kami. 6 hrs byahe papunta dyan sa manila. kesyo wala daw syang pera, hindi naman yun ang hinihingi ko sa kanya.at bakit pag pupunta sya ng province nila na mas mahal ang pamasahe eh nakakapunta sya. kahit anong oras gustuhin niya. at mababaw yung dahilan nyang wala syang pera. kasi sustentado sya ng mga anak niya & di sya mawawalan ng resources...

pero pag good things na nangyayari sa anak ko. ex. yung accomplishment niya sa school. feeling ko lahat ng credit nasa husband ko.haaaaay!...
napahaba na masyado kwento ko mommies...sobrang sama lang ng loob ko... wala man lang naka appreciate sa ginagawa ko sa anak ko...lahat may kulang...:(

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Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: gailey on June 25, 2008, 06:21:15 pm
kalix, hug kita!

you are a good mom! kaya hayaan mo na kung ano yung sinasabi ng ibang tayo na kulang pa ginagawa mo. the important thing is ginagawa mo lahat ng makakaya mo to be the mom and dad sa baby mo. like you ofw din husband ko and oo mahirap talaga kung may mga problema tapos sa phone nyo lang pwede pagusapan.

basta eto YOU ARE A GOOD MOM!
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: youngmom on June 25, 2008, 07:31:55 pm
u know sis kalix,we can't perfect motherhood but i know we all do our best but to others and minsan sa sarili na din natin,parang laging may mali o kulang. :'( it's a sad thing that sometimes,we feel unappreciated kahit na binigay na natin ang lahat. but u know what,for me,as long as my child loves me and thinks i'm the best mom in the world,wala na ko pakielam sa iisipin pa ng ibang tao,be it my mom or kung sino man. ;) if someone says your not a good mom,pasok nalang sa isang tenga at labas sa kabila.u don't owe them any explanation because they don't have the right to judge u. ang importante,ginagampanan mo pagiging Ina mo sa anak mo and your son feels loved and cared for.wala sila karapatan diktahan ka kung pano maging Ina sa anak mo kc ikaw lang nakakaalam kung anong best for him.if they give their piece of advise,listen and judge well kung makakabuti nga ba yon sa anak mo.nasayo padin ang huling desisyon dahil ikaw ang Ina.always remember pag may nag jujudge sayo-NO ONE CAN PERFECT MOTHERHOOD.. we all make mistakes for one reason-to learn and to grow as a mom.never mind them kc wala naman sila maitutulong sa pag cocomment nila sayo.the best emotional support u can have is from God so always pray for strength and good health of your baby.
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: andrew610 on June 25, 2008, 07:58:57 pm
lakasan mo loob mo mommy kalix. kasi as of now.. kayo lang talaga ng son mo yung magtutulungan. Always pray and ask God for more guidance and strength. sabi nga nila.. hindi ka naman bibigyan ni God ng mga pagsubok na hindi mo kakayanin. in time, i know that your son will be ok. tama sila mommy gail and youngmom... whatever happens.. always remember that you're a good mom and the best mom for your child. wag mo isipin yung sinasabi sau ng iba. kasi alam mo naman sa sarili mo na you're doing the best of everything for your son.  ;)
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: kalix on June 25, 2008, 08:53:18 pm
to mommy gailey, thanks for the hug. that's what i really need now...naluluha ako...wala kasing makagawa nyan sakin ngayon bukod sa anak ko...thank you! ramdam ko kahit binabasa ko lang. :)

to youngmom, tama ka, you know what last time sabi ng son ko, "i luv u mommy, your the best mom!" sabay hug at yakap niya sakin. for no reason at all, grabe! naluha talaga ako...one time ulit nakita nykong naluluha, kumuha sya ng tubig binigay sakin.saka ako tinanong ng,"mommy sad ka ba?" gusto mo tawagan ko si daddy?" hehe!natawa tuloy ako...& yes! we can't perfect motherhood. :) thank you!

to mommy_drew, I always pray to God to just make my son healthy, & take away all these worries...& I know kakayanin ko to & that's why binigay niya sakin anak ko.Because he needs me & I need him...nabasa ko nga sa isang book na ang sabi, "...there is no greater prayer than that of a mother for her children. These are the purest prayers because of there intense desire and, at times, sense of desperation..." thank you! :)
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: cheiz on June 25, 2008, 09:00:50 pm
mommy kalix, Be strong yan ang pinakailangan mo at ng anak mo ngayon. Pray all this to God. Hindi na ibibigay sa iyo yan kung hindi mo kaya. yung mga comments, side talks and lectures huwag mo na lang pansinin basta ang alam mo sa puso at sa isip mo na isa kang napakabituting Ina. God bless you and your son. Believe in the powers of God. He will not fail you.
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: yetsky on June 25, 2008, 09:42:51 pm
Sis, huwag ka na lang paapekto, madedepress ka lang, hay naku, gugustuhin mo bang magmukha matanda kakaisp, stressful yan dear... deadmahin... basta alam mo na you do your part and you are everything just for your kiddo...

ako na dedepress lang ako pag di ko mabigay yung gusto nila, saka pag napapalo ko...

"Anyone can be a mother, but it takes someone special to be a real mom..."

Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: youngmom on June 25, 2008, 10:32:43 pm
"...there is no greater prayer than that of a mother for her children. These are the purest prayers because of there intense desire and, at times, sense of desperation..." - this is such a good quote,the best one i've heard now that i'm a mommy na.what book is this and whose the author?
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: jayeshael on June 26, 2008, 10:09:03 am
nakakaencourage ang thread na ito :) kaya mom kalix, don't feel bad tama silang lahat wag mong sisihin sarili mo, cheer up! :D i know na gnagawa mong lahat for ur baby. YOU ARE A CERTIFIED GOOD MOM :D kc ur giving ur best. hope we already helped u in a way :D :D
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: myboninay on June 26, 2008, 10:12:28 am
hi mom kalix, sana nabasa mo yung PM ko sau. basta kailangan nating magpakatatag para sa mga anak natin and to save our sanity....just keep on praying, ako din dinadaan ko na lang sa dasal.
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: kalix on June 26, 2008, 01:28:55 pm
"...there is no greater prayer than that of a mother for her children. These are the purest prayers because of there intense desire and, at times, sense of desperation..." - this is such a good quote,the best one i've heard now that i'm a mommy na.what book is this and whose the author?


hi young mom! actually, that's one of the best book I've ever read. & that's my favorite quote in the book. It's EMBRACED BY THE LIGHT by Betty J. Eadie. I dont know kung may mabibili ka nito sa mga bookstore. kasi i bought this in "bargain books" here in our place. Luma na 'to. pero try mo maghanap. It's a must read book especially those people na whose going through a lot. This book was recommended to me ng lawyer mom ng classmate dati ng anak ko. & she keeps on talking about this book. & I think this book was meant for me. serendipity ata tawag dito.  ;D kasi eto ang una kung nakita sa shelf. something inside of me na nagsasabing bilhin ko sya, may force ba? tapos naalala ko nga na eto pala yung binabanggit nyang book :D di ko naman pinagsisihan. It almost answered all my questions about life...I bought one also for my husband. hope makahanap ka nito. :)
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: Ian on July 02, 2008, 10:23:49 pm
hi kalix, i feel for you. i really do. hang in there, i know you're doing a great job. sino ba naman ang nanay na gustong mapasama ang anak. dami challenges right now, but it will only make the bond of your family stronger. sometimes i want to tell my wife every now and then that shes a great mom and doing a great job. new parents kami eh so i want to continuously encourage her... in your case, im sure all the moms here will be praying for you and your child. i know i will.

hang in there, be strong... we appreciate and recognize your efforts.
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: proudnewmommy on July 02, 2008, 10:53:18 pm
hi kalix!
kaya mo yan sis! :D
hayaan mo na sila, basta ang importante u know that ur a good mother and nanjan yung hubby mo to support you. medyo nakakarelate ako sa situation mo kase nagkasakit din yung baby ko. peo tama sila sis, wala namang binigay na pagsubok c God na di natin kaya lagpasan di ba? matatapos din yan....
 As for me kase sis, jan kami naging matatag sa mga pagsubok...Basta, lets pray for our baby's good health  :D
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: mamashao on July 02, 2008, 11:49:04 pm
hi kalix..,
remember dat in ur son u will olweiz b a good mom. so b strong :D
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: renaeh on July 03, 2008, 09:31:29 am
mommy,wag mong intindihin sinasabi ng iba..ang importante alam mo sa sarili mo na hindi ka nagkukulang sa baby mo...your baby can atest to that naman..cheer up ;D
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: rohan_river_mommy on July 03, 2008, 10:15:24 am
mommy kalix nakakarelate ako sa u :-[ i feel that way too sometimes.

yung 1st baby ko sobrang sakitin din...ok naman ako nung pinagbubuntis ko sya...walang naging problema...lahat ng vitamins,pag-kain,regular check-up,lahat ng bawal talagang di ko ginagawa at kinakain.kahit nga
pamahiin lang sinusunod ko.i delivered him by c-section...normal namansya at healty.vaccines,vitamins,mamahaling gatas,pag-aalaga:hands on ako katulong ko pa mommy ko at mother in law ko.d nga lang masyadong na-breast feed kc inverted ang nipples ko.pero i tried talaga ipadede,to the point na iyak na sya ng iyak kc gutom na gutom na eh d pa makadede at makakuha ng gatas.i tried din mag pump pero 1 month lang wala na akong gatas kaya wala kaming choice kung di i-formula sya.he's normal and very healty naman ang problema lang eh constipated sya kc d sya masyadong nakakainom ng water dahil ayaw niya.pag-pinipilit namin eh naduduwal at sinusuka.

bago sya mag 6 months...november...we're very excited kc 1st xmas na may bagong member ng family sa both sides.nov. pa lang shopping na kami ng mga pamasko niya...while we we're at the mall sabi ng byenan ko mainit daw palad ni bono.pero di naman mainit katawan lalo na yung ulo.at check ko naman yung temp niya nung umaga bago maligo,ok naman.d namin masyadong pinansin.pero binilisan na namin pag-shopping.kumain pa kami kc dinner time na.nung kumakain na kami nawala na yung init ng palad pero medyo mainit na yung ulo.d naman kami masyadong ninerbyos kc nakikipaglaro pa at nag-smile pa sa camera.pero sobrang nagmamadali na din kami umuwi.dapat may dadaanan pa nga kami d na kami tumuloy para makauwi na agad.paguwi ng bahay binaba ko na c bono sa kama kinuha ko yung paracetamol...nung papainumin ko na sya biglang nag convulsion.tumirik yung mata,nag-chills,nangingitim na sya.walang isip-isip,binuhat ko c bono at tumakbo ako ng nakapaa papunta sa bahay ng parents ko na 3 houses lang naman from ours.sa sobrang iyak ko naglupasay ako sa sahig sigaw ako ng siga ng bono!!!bono!!! ng nakita ng papa ko kinuha niya sa akin yung baby ko at tinakbo sa labas.nagkagulo ang buong barangay namin (dito kasi sa tondo kahit sinasabi nilang magulo pag may emergency ka naman lahat ng tao tumutulong talaga sa u) at sasakyan pa ng brgy ang nagtakbo k bono sa ospital.ako naiwan sa bahay ng parents ko.yung mga tita ko inaalog na ako kc parang naloloka na daw ako.mga 15 mins ok na ako.umuwi ako sa bahay at kumuha lang ng slippers,tapos dumating c hubby (inutusan ko kc bumili sa tindahan kaya wala sya nung nagyari yun) tumakbo na din kami sa ospital.dinala sya dun sa clinic kung san sya pinanganak kc andun ang pedia niya.pag-dating namin dun eh inaasikaso na sya ng pedia at mga nurse.may oxygen at nakahubad c bono.pinupunasan ang buong katawan.pero nung kinuhanan daw ng temp eh wala naman lagnat (36.4).kaya pinauwi na din kami.pinayuhan lang ako na painumin ng paracetamol at punaspunasan yung katawan.pag-uwi namin ganon nga ginawa namin.nagpasama muna ako sa mama ko sa bahay.sya ang katabi ko sa room.c hubby sa sala natutulog.nag-alarm pa ako ng 1:45 kc kailangan ulit painumin c bono ng 2 am.pinainom ko na tapos pinadede ko ng milk.nakakailang sipsip pa lang sya ng milk bigla nanaman nag convulsion.sigaw na ako.nagising ang mama ko at kinarga na c bono palabas (lakas ng loob ng mom ko kc nakapatay ang ilaw sa room,lamp shade lang ang makabukas.d niya masyadong nakita kung anong itsura ni bono) d ako kaagad nakatakbo kc naka undies lang ako.bihis ako agad tapos tumakbo na din ako.c hubby nakatakbo ng nakashorts lang.naabutan namin c mama na nakahinto sa gitna ng kalsada at nanginginig.maliwanag na kc sa street namin at nakita na niya na tumitirik ang mata ni bono at kulay talong na.inagaw ni hubby c bono k mama at tinakbo na sa kanto.ang mama ko naman nanghatak ng t-shirt sa mga tambay sa street namin para ipasuot k hubby.lahat ng tambay sa street namin nagkagulo.lahat ng dumaan na sasakyan eh hinaharang talaga.nung nasa taxi na kami medyo bumabalik na ulit yung kulay ni bono pero yung mata niya parang naduduling pa din.iyak na kami ng iyak pero nilalakasan pa din namin loob namin.kinakausap namin c bono "baby malapit na tayo,hang on anak.andito lang c mommy at daddy.d ka namin pababayaan.mahal ka namin"nanginginig na boses namin sa sobrang iyak at nerbyos.pagdating sa clinic ok nanaman sya,back to normal.pero we insisted na ipatingin na sya sa ospital at ipacheck talaga.dinala namin sa emergency sa ust.na-confine sya for further check ups at may lagnat pa din.habang nasa emergency kami iyak na kami ng iyak.pero c bono naglalaro na.tapos lalagyan sya ng dextrose,d ako makatingin although hawak ko yung kamay niya nakatalikod naman ako.matapang ako,kahit ilang dextrose ilagay mo sa akin panonoorin ko pa yan.pero sa anak ko d ko ata kaya.we're at the hospital for 5 days.dun na nga sya nag-6th month bday.daming test na ginawa.ang findings pneumonia daw.pero yung convulsion wala pang result kung bakit sya inatake nun kc mababa naman ang lagnat niya,halos sinat nga lang.bono have to go through ecg after 1 week na inatake sya.kailangan daw makita kung saan nanggaling yung convulsion at kung may epekto daw sa utak niya.dyos ko!nung sinabi sa amin na pwede maapektuhan ang brains at development ni bono dahil sa convulsion d ko na alam kung anong tumatakbo sa utak ko.sa 5 days na naka-confine c bono sa ospital.5 days din akong iyak ng iyak at d makausap.sinisisi ko sarili ko sa nangyari "kasalanan ko,d dapat sya nasasaktan at naghihirap ngayon kung di dahil sa kapabayaan ko" pero pinalakas ni hubby at ng mommy ko ang loob ko."lakasan mo loob mo.kailangan ka ng anak mo.kailangan mo maging matibay para sa kanya.sa iyo lang sya umaasa.magdasal ka lang" buong panahon na tahimik ako,wala akong ginawa kundi magdasal.tinatanong ko kung bakit kailangan maramdaman ng anak ko ang sakit na ganito.kung pwede na ako na lang.bawat tusok ng karayom sa katawan ng anak ko gusto ko akuin kung pwede lang.lalo na pag antibiotic na umiiyak talaga sya pag tinutusok na dahil masakit yun pag pumapasok na sa ugat niya yung gamot,iniisip ko na lang na kailangan niya yun at sa ikagagaling niya din yun.kaya pumipikit na lang ako habang hawak ang kamay niya.after 5 days pinalabas na din kami.wala na rin syang lagnat.puro dasal na rin ako na sana maganda resulta ng ecg.after 2 days balik ulit kami for ecg.thank god!!! ok naman daw.hereditary (from his daddy) yung convulsion at d naman apektado yung utak niya.pero 70% pwede maulit kaya ngayon 37 pa lang temp niya nagpapainom na kami ng paracetamol.yun din kasi payo ng pedia.at pinagbawalan na sya sa mga lugar na crowded at closed doors tulad ng mall at kahit saan kami magpunta may dala kaming thermometer at paracetamol.akala ko tapos na dun ang lahat.

after 3 months nasundan pa for the 2nd time.d na naman sya nag convulsion pero d bumababa yung temp at may ubo't sipon.4 days kami sa hospital,pneumonia ulit.2 weeks bago sya mag 1st bday...3rd time grabe nanaman.nilalagnat sya,nagtatae at lumaki yung stomach niya.parang buntis,kita na yung mga ugat at bigla na lang namutla.kaya takbo nanaman kami sa ust.grabe ang mga test na ginawa sa kanya.nung una pneumonia ulit ang findings at yung dahilan ng paglaki ng stomach eh due to lack of potassium kc daw bumababa ang potassium pag nagkaka-pneumonia.pero nung sinabi namin na sobrang nagtatae eh kailangan daw x-ray yung stomach.umiiyak nanaman ako kc bata pa sya para ma expose sa radiation.kaya lang wala kaming choice.,kailangan niya eh.nung nakita yung xray tinanong kami ng pedia kung kamusta daw yung pag-popo ni bono.sabi namin sobrang constipated,minsan 3 days bago mag-popo.nako pagaaralan daw niya.after several hours pinatawag na kami.baka daw may hirschsprung's disease (to yung sakit na yung isang part ng large intestine eh patay kaya d gumagana).nako...umpisa nanaman ako sa iyak habang pinaliliwanag sa amin yung sakit at kung anong pwedeng mangyari.i-babarium enema(papasukan ng liquid na may kulay sa pwet para mapuno yung intestine,tapos hahayaang tumae)daw para malaman kung meron nga.pag nakatae daw eh x-ray ulit.nung lumabas yung result.sobrang konti lang yung natirang liquid sa intestine niya.d sapat para ma diagnose sya with hirschprung's kaya kailangan daw i biopsy.pero kailangan namin ng more than P300,000 kc pag biopsy diretso test na.pag-positive deretso operation na.isipin mo hahataking yung pwet ng anak ko hanggang lumabas yung intestine niya.kukuha ng sample at kung ano-ano pang gagawin...iniisip ko pa lang d ko na kaya.parang gusto ko na lamunin sa kinauupuan ko sa sobrang galit."bakit anak ko pa?!!!" pag-balik namin sa room d na talaga ako nahinto sa iyak.niyakap ko na lang c bono at binubulong ko sa kanya na " wala kang sakit,healty ka anak!!! d kita pababayaan!!! andito lang ako" pinalabas din kami after 5 days.magaling na sya at lumiit na yung stomach.pero kailangan daw namin bumalik for biopsy.& syempre pag may pera na kami.dami namin pinagtanungan kasi malaking decision ang dapat namin gawin.lahat ng mapagtatanungan namin sinasabi sa amin na we have to seek for 2nd opinion.hanap agad kami ng pedia surgeon sila kc may alam ng case ni bono.we found one in chinese gen. nung nagpacheck up kami at tinanong niya kami & nakita niya yung x-rays.sabi niya parang wala naman daw sign c bono ng hirschprung's.may mga pinagawa sya sa amin na therapy.after 3 weeks bumalik kami.sabi niya ok naman daw c bono.wala naman daw hirschprung's as of now.more on phobia na syang mag-popo kc sobrang tigas at masakit.we just have to help him with some foods na pangpalambot,more liguids & he have to learn the right position pag na-popopo.kaya ngayon we're concentrating sa diet niya & teaching him the right position (d kc sya na-popopo kung hindi nakalapat ang pwet na sa sahig,wich is hindi naman talaga lalabs kung nakaupo sya sa sahig).

nako!!! nasundan pa ng pang 4th time.na-confine ulit.pneumonia nanaman,this time nag-trigger na to asthma.hereditary din sa side ng daddy niya.lumabas din naman kami ng dec.24( 5 days ulit sya sa hospital)thank god!!! magaling na sya bago mag xmas at atleast d kami sa hospital nag-celebrate.

pero sa lahat ng mga nangyari ang pinakamasakit eh yung sabihan ka na "ikaw kasi pinababayaan mo" huh? ok lang ba sila.wala na kong panahon sa sarili ko.nakatutok lang ako sa anak ko.pero di nila nakikita.sino bang magulang ang gustong magkasakit ang anak? wala naman siguro.kung pwede ko lang protektahan ang anak ko sa lahat ng sakit at sa lahat pang dadating na pwedeng manakit sa kanila
 eh gagawin ko,pero tao lang ako.may mga bagay na di ko kayang pigilan.minsan pinalalakas ko na lang loob ko "mabuti kang mommy at nararamdaman yan ng mga anak mo" what's important eh alam ko sa sarili ko na d ko sila pinababayaan at lahat eh ginagawa ko para sa kanila.d bale na yung mga tao na nagsasalita ng masakit dahil d naman nila nakikita yung mga pag-aalaga at pagaasikaso ko sa mga anak ko.buti na lang andyan c hubby at mommy ko na sumusuporta at naniniwala sa kakayanan ko bilang mommy.

sa ngayon ok na naman c bono,medyo hirap pa din mag-popo pero nakukuha naman sa tulong namin.lagi pa rin may-ubo't sipon pero nakukuha na naman sa gamot.sobrang ingat lang talaga kami sa kanya.

kaya sa lahat ng mommies...saludo ako sa lahat ng hirap at sakripisyo natin para sa mga anak natin!!!at may payo din ako kasi u'll never know kung kailan susumpungin c baby ng fever.para d na matulad k bono.always bring thermometer and paracetamol (kung pwede nga lang yung gamot din sa ubo't sipon ng mga baby nyo eh)

here's some of his pics:

this pic was taken bago sya mag-convulsion (sino bang magiisip na sobrang sama na pakiramdam niya eh super smile pa)
(http://i306.photobucket.com/albums/nn253/crazysexycool1982/my%20life/IMG_3042.jpg)

this pic was taken sa ust nung 1st time sya na confine.bono's 6th month bday!!!
(http://i306.photobucket.com/albums/nn253/crazysexycool1982/my%20life/IMG_3337-1.jpg)

this photo was taken nung 2nd time sya naconfine.(happy baby talaga sya,kahit may nararamdaman super smile pa din sya eh)
(http://i306.photobucket.com/albums/nn253/crazysexycool1982/my%20life/IMG_1483.jpg)


this pic was taken nung 3rd time sya na-confine (sanay at marunong na sya humawak ng nebulizer niya)
(http://i306.photobucket.com/albums/nn253/crazysexycool1982/my%20life/IMG_1098.jpg)

and here's bono now...super cutie and kulit!!! im just praying to god na sana bono don't have to see a hospital room ever again!!! ;)
(http://i306.photobucket.com/albums/nn253/crazysexycool1982/my%20life/IMG_7095.jpg)
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: rohan_river_mommy on July 03, 2008, 10:22:22 am
sorry medyo hehe!!! pero hangang ngayon naiiyak pa din ako pag-naaalala ko yung nangyari.habang tina-type ko nga eh tumutulo na luha ko.

and to mommy kalix...what's important is alam natin sa sarili natin na we're doing everything for the good of our babies...bda? smile ka na lang  ;) sa story mo naman kitang-kita na ur a good mom kaya no need to feel bad.and im so sure na right now eh hindi pa nasasabi ng baby mo na he appreciates you pero once na he hugs u and tell u he loves u it means na he do appreciate u and nararamdaman niya na ur taking good care of him naman.at nandito kaming mga mommies na tulad mo who understands everything ur going through.
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: kalix on July 03, 2008, 12:16:29 pm
hi kalix, i feel for you. i really do. hang in there, i know you're doing a great job. sino ba naman ang nanay na gustong mapasama ang anak. dami challenges right now, but it will only make the bond of your family stronger. sometimes i want to tell my wife every now and then that shes a great mom and doing a great job. new parents kami eh so i want to continuously encourage her... in your case, im sure all the moms here will be praying for you and your child. i know i will.

hang in there, be strong... we appreciate and recognize your efforts.

hi daddy ian! thanks for the encouragement. sana lahat ng lalaki gaya mo. :) in fairness to my husband supportive din naman sya...well, i salute all dads like you, (supportive & sensitive sa feelings at needs ng wife nyo). ;) :D
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: kalix on July 03, 2008, 12:27:28 pm
to proudnewmommy, mamashao, renaeh, thank u so much! minsan nga pag nagcocoment ibang tao ng di maganda gustong gusto ko ng sabihin, "hell!mind your own buisness, scratch your own galis"! hehe!...& I know mahal ako ng anak ko. he always reminds me that...im really blessed! kahit eto may sakit na naman sya, sige pa rin. mothers are created strong, i guess! :)
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: kalix on July 03, 2008, 12:38:33 pm
sorry medyo hehe!!! pero hangang ngayon naiiyak pa din ako pag-naaalala ko yung nangyari.habang tina-type ko nga eh tumutulo na luha ko.

and to mommy kalix...what's important is alam natin sa sarili natin na we're doing everything for the good of our babies...bda? smile ka na lang  ;) sa story mo naman kitang-kita na ur a good mom kaya no need to feel bad.and im so sure na right now eh hindi pa nasasabi ng baby mo na he appreciates you pero once na he hugs u and tell u he loves u it means na he do appreciate u and nararamdaman niya na ur taking good care of him naman.at nandito kaming mga mommies na tulad mo who understands everything ur going through.


hi mommy rohan, ramdam na ramdan ko din ang kwento mo. naluluha nga din ako kasi nag flashback lahat ng nangyari sa son ko. lalo na nung nahihirapan na syang huminga sabi niya sakin."nahihirapan nako..."tuwing naaalala ko yun umiiyak ako.kahit nung ikwento ko sa husband ko. at pag naaalala ko itsura ko sa hagdanan sa hospital, sa may exit (para wala masyadong makakita sakin), nakaupo ako don habang iyak ng iyak. nakikiuasap ako sa Dyos talaga.

well sa araw araw na magkasama kami ng anak ko, he never failed to tell me how he loves me. sabay yakap at kiss. at nagte thank you pa sya dahil inaalagaan ko daw sya. :) nung mother's day nga. binigyan nyko ng sulat. (nakakasulat at nakakabasa na kasi sya) nakalagay, " i love you mommy, happy mother's day". nayakap ko talaga sya ng mahigpit. lalo pa akong natuwa kasi correct spelling hehe! tinanong ko hubby ko kung tinuruan niya hindi daw, hinayaan niya lang.(vacation kasi hubby ko non).. :) :D ;D

thanks rohan for sharing at least di ako nagiisa... ;D

Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: rohan_river_mommy on July 03, 2008, 12:45:34 pm
yun naman pala mommy kalix...nasasabi at naipaparamdam niya na sa u that ur special...u should be proud of urself!!! yung baby ko kc 2 yrs old pa lang d pa nakakabuo ng hehe!!! good luck with ur kid mommy!!!
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: lallie_dejoya on July 03, 2008, 12:46:13 pm
hi, mommy kalix...i'm new sa site but not sa magz...

 i know how u feel kaya yung letter mo ang una kong binasa and i think that you're a "wonderful mom"...wala naman tayong ibang gusto sa kids natin kundi maging safe sila at all times...kung meron mang mga naging ganyan na sakit niya, it's just one test sa pagiging mommy natin...

hindi maganda sa mga people around u na basta mag comment sila not knowing or thinking kung ano ang ma f feel mo about it...

i also encounter the same problem as yours, sa akin nga lang, nahulog ang baby ko when she was only 20 days old...i can feel kung ano ang na f feel mo ngayon, galing na ako dyan pero ang masasabi ko sau, best weapon ang PRAYERS....wala SYANG ibibigay sa tin na hindi natin kaya... also, u should always talk to your hubby of the things that u feel kasi alam mo, mas ok at ma de develop ang pagiging closeness nyo at pagiging isa nyo kapag very open ang communication..

God bless and i will always look forward sa mga susunod mo pang letters...

Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: kalix on July 03, 2008, 01:12:24 pm
sorry to hear that mommy lallie... :( may mga taong ganyan talaga, insensitive sa feelings ng iba...
in fairness to my husband, never naman nyakong sinisi lagi nyang sinasabi na wag ko sisihin sarili ko. bata pa daw kasi c yuan kaya prone sa sakit tapos may asthma pa...kaya i'm still thankful sa husband ko...

tuloy pa rin laban namin ng anak ko (sa sakit niya). :) & were not giving up! tama ka PRAYERS ang best weapon natin. at yung faith natin SA KANYA...thanks!

...this too shall pass  :)
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: lallie_dejoya on July 03, 2008, 01:38:58 pm
yeah...all things will fall into places...makikita mo, lalaki syang healthy na...talagang nadaan lang yang mga ganyang times...

i want to share to u some pix of our family and see for yourself kung ano ang nagyari sa aking si rykiel after niya mahulog from a carrier na nasa ibabaw pa ng dining table namin...

http://lalliedejoya.multiply.com

magiging ganyan din ang baby mo after a while...you'll see...

accident lang na nahila nung 2nd baby ko ang carrier niya, so yun pala ang disadvantage ng sunod sunod na babies...actually, mahabang story ang nangyari but definitely, like what you've said, walang dapat sisihin...i have 3 kids, the first one is kuya lumiere, 10 y.o, rysher 8 y.o and rykiel 6 y.o....

mahirap magpalaki ng kids kaya i gave up my work para personally ay mabantayan ko kids ko...tulad mo, malayo din kami sa manila, 2 to 3 hours drive...we're in maragondon, cavite...so kung mag w work ako, mapapalayo ako sa kids..

thumbs talaga dapat sa mga katulad nating mommy na family muna ang priority...napak tough job nito, akala lang nila ay madali lang...but i see to it na kahit nasa house lang ako ay marami akong raket to earn some extra money while my kids r in school...if u wanna see some of my rakets, eto ang site and i'm very willing to share some tips if magiging interested ka...

http://sweetlolanieng.multiply.com
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: kalix on July 06, 2008, 06:16:49 pm
yun naman pala mommy kalix...nasasabi at naipaparamdam niya na sa u that ur special...u should be proud of urself!!! yung baby ko kc 2 yrs old pa lang d pa nakakabuo ng hehe!!! good luck with ur kid mommy!!!

thanks mommy rohan! best of health sa lahat ng babies natin. :)
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: youngmom on July 07, 2008, 12:01:46 pm
rohan_river_mommy,nakakaiyak yung story mo(napaka detailed kc hehe ;D).i hope everything would be ok.let's not question God why this is happening to us kc lahat ng nangyayari,may reason yan,maybe one reason niyan is para lalo lumakas ang faith niyo to ask for His help diba at minomold ka to be a strong person.sinagot naman yung prayers mo,ngayon ok na si bono ;). touch ako sa story mo,imagine kinaya mo yon,i salute u for be such a good mom and a strong person,.very emotional ako ngayon when it comes to kids ngayong mommy na ko,whenever i hear news sa tv of kids na may sakit,or nasaktan,sinaktan ng magulang, o walanag makain,affected ako,nung wala pa ko baby ni hindi ko nga binibigyan ng limos yung mga bata sa kalsada,e ngayon kung may pera lang ako nag donate na ko sa bantay bata cause i never ever want my child to experience those. lahat naman tayo diba. ur strong sis, i wish i could  have that strength someday in case something happens na sana po wala naman mangyaring masama.your lucky to have a support group like ur mom,specially your husband.piece of advise,since prone to convulsion ang anak mo,better have him vaccinated with IPD and always monitor him,baka basa na likod ng pawis,yan kc one of the reasons aside from hereditary siya,nagkakaon ng tubig yung lungs pag natutuyuan ng pawis so dapat laging may sapin ang likod at palit ng sando if ever pawisan tapos po,dahil may asthma siya,do u use powder on him?maganda kc powder to keep him dry pero bawal to sa may asthma,pag apply ka powder,tapik mo muna malayo kay baby then apply sa back area only,wag na sa dibdib para di malanghap yung powder dust,so dapat pag apply sa back ng bata wala yung powder dust para di malanghap kaya tapik mo muna malayo sa bata.pag convulsion due to mataas na lagnat,sabi nila running water sa katawan ng bata,then towel agad,bihis, paracetamol,then continue lang yung punas sa katawan.nasabi na yon sayo ng doctor?share ko lang lamu ba injection lang for vaccine ni baby i always give my baby to my mom kc di ko kaya na makita siya umiyak pag tinuturukan na. last vaccine namin this month lang,the doctor told me na wag ko iiwan si baby para he feels the comfort of seeing me,kaya ginawa ko i also held his hand at matapang ko open my eyes to cheer him up habang tinuturok.iniisip ko nalang,masakit man ang turok na yan,lifetime health naman kapalit so dun lang nag start lumakas loob ko hehe,dati kc leave the room,arte ko no,di ko kc kaya makita siya crying in pain.ok lang sakin turukan o ako ang tumurok sa ibang bata since medical field din ako pero wag lang sa baby ko hehe.well,hope this helps po.

lallie_dejoya,add kita sa multiply ko ha hehe.like u baby ko nahulog na din sa kama when he was 5 months old,buti naang nasa labas ako when it happened,di ko narinig iyak niya pero guilty din kc wala ako sa tabi niya when it happened so ginwa ko binaba ko na yung kama namin,nasa floor na yung kutson kaya never na nasundan hehe
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: HOTMOM777 on July 17, 2008, 09:57:24 am
Hi Mommy Kalix

I remember telling my bestfriend "NO ONE....AS IN, NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO BE CYNICAL OF OTHER PARENT'S EFFORTS AND STRUGGLE IN RAISING THEIR OWN CHILD"  this I told her after hearing her struggle of having to deal with the people around her about her son's condition..and yes, not to mention her IL's constant unkind remarks.

Let's all face it, we all strive to be the best parents we want ourselves to be.  But it's nice to contemplate on the saying "THERE ARE NO PERFECT PARENTS, BUT THERE ARE A MILLION WAYS TO BE A GOOD ONE".  I too have suffered tremendously from all the bad talks, putting you down as if I'm incompetent, as if everything is my fault.  Not to mention the rumors I have to deal with.  A simple cut or bruise, they react as if I'm capable of hurting my own child, more so I don't care for my own child.  It's tough I know.  You're both emotionally & mentally drained and yet it seems these are not enough for them. 

I'm having a crucial pregnancy now.  Twice hospitalized this year.  First was last Feb due to threatened abortion (i have a very low lying placenta)  and Second just last June due to pre-term labor.  My eldest daughter whom I happen to take care of on my own for 4yrs struggled more because it's tough for her age (4yrs old) to understand why her Mom suddenly have to get someone to attend to her needs?  Why suddenly her Mom, whom she goes out with weekly suddenly have to be confide in bed?  Why suddenly her Mom can't cook for them or play with her or even give her bath? and not to mention the other Why's we have to explain to her to the point of her hating the baby inside Mommy. 

Not to mention the guilty feelings of not being able to attend to my husband's needs.  That inspite of my condition, so as just to take away the guilt sometimes and just to see them happy esp my daughter, I often resort to getting out of the bed and cooking for them, or dressing her up even physically I know I'm putting myself & the baby at risk.  The guilt that I also have to struggle with is when my eldest begs me to hug her the way I used to or carry her the way I used to.  So how did I deal with it? 

I made sure I constantly pray.  Asking for strength and endurance and maintain a positive attitude.  I might be confide in bed and rather than moping around for things I can't do now, I make time and effort for the little things I can do.  Now that my daughter g0es to school, I made sure I help her with her homeworks, create customized reviewers for her exams, read her books beforehand to help her review for her subjects.     

The simple way of dressing her up for school is also a step to maintain our bond together.  I also instructed the maid to bring our breakfast in our room so that my daughter & I can eat breakfast together.  Since I'm allowed to stand from time to time, this I take advantage of so I could prepare hubby's clothes & things for work.  How about the constant remarks I used to have?  I just laugh it out.  I constantly remind myself, they are not the people that I have to please, and I know my children better than them. 

The reward I got?  God really provides.  Why?  When I was at the hospital last month, Hubby, my daughter & I were silently sharing dinner because I was too exhausted from all the monitoring they did while I was at the Delivery Room for 3whole days.  during those times I've reflected to a lot of things not to mention the guilty feelings.  Out of nowhere my daughter just stopped eating & looked at me.  When I noticed this, I asked her if she wants anything? like food or juice..then she beamed at me and said "MOM, YOU'RE THE BEST MOM IN THE WORLD!  AND I LOVE YOU!"..... Imagine the comfort I've felt with her words and as if it's God's way of telling me that I'm doing alright as a mom.

This is too long I know, but I just want you to know that all of your efforts are not in vain.  Yes, we all struggle in different situations but just the same, rest assured that your child knows that you love him and I know that's what matters most.

You're stronger & tougher that you think Mom Kalix, and Jehovah God will provide you all the help you need.

KUDOS TO YOU!  :)


Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: anne.nanay on July 18, 2008, 04:53:04 pm
saying that i am not good as a mother does not matter, as long as those words do not come from my son... if he told me that, then i would start to ask myself how i am as a mother, regardless kung ito ay out of anger (due to the situation) or yun ang talagang nararamdaman niya...
madalas we get encouragement from other "strange" people rather than from our own family.. well, ganun n ata talga...

offer your child to God, and trust that He will hold him and take care of him..

it is you, your husband and your son that matters...


Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: kalix on July 18, 2008, 06:12:01 pm
thanks hotmom, anne! :)...as i've said people can be really insensitive. i was affected because i was emotionally weak & feeling helpless that time...the fact that seing your child struggling & in pain,my,who the hell are they to say such nasty words/remarks & question my capabilities as a mom to my child?...so stressful plus the fear I'm feeling during that time...so many what ifs?...mixed emotions, too much to handle...& to think that I'm "alone" (my hubby works abroad & my mom was my constant companion but of course I can't tell her what i really feel inside)...our struggle (with regards to my child's health) is not yet over. BUT I know his healed (according to my FAITH)...GOD HEALED HIM.. :) & yes GOD will always provide. :) & my family matters the most.

strangers are angels sent from above...they are instruments of GOD.

to all moms who gave me word of encouragement & support, THANK U SO MUCH! (even I did'nt thank you personally) you know who you are!.. ;D i remember you everytime i see your names. ;D
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: mommy_babyzoe on August 06, 2008, 11:13:33 am
Naiyak naman ako sa stories nyo. While reading ur posts I was crying and hugging my baby and saying i love her so much at the same time being thankful. Marami talagang ganyang tao na imbes na damayan ka at palakasin ang loob mo e lalo pang dumadagdag sa bigat ng dinadala mo. Ang sagot ko lang sa kanila.. who are you to say na pabaya akong ina? pinagdadaanan mo ba ang pinagdaanan ko? matapang talaga ako, lalo na pag pagiging ina at anak ko ang pinaguusapan. Isinuko ko ang mga dati kong kaibigan para sa anak ko. Dahil para sa kanila I still have to be like my old self to be with them parang ganun (kung baga ready for any gimiks). E sorry i am not like that, I promise myself to devote all my time and my life pag nagkababy n ako and wala akong pinagsisisihan.

Marami talagang di nakakkaapreciate ng ginagawa natin. Akala nila porket nasa bahay ka lang e wala kang ginagawa. I am a career woman and a big dreamer before.. pero lahat un isinuko ko para sa anak ko. And it's all worthy. Akala nila porket mas maraming lalaki ang nagwowork para sa pamilya nila e un na ang pinakamabigat na responsibilidad. Ang masasabi ko lang jan, sa work ba kasama ang puso mo? pag may nangyari bang masama sa work mo ganun mo didibdibin. Motherhood is way much harder than working in an office. Wlang breaktime, wlang dayoffs, wlang leave at lalong lalong di ka pwdeng magresign. Ang work puwede kang maghanap ng iba, sa pagiging nanay hndi. Nagtratrabaho dn naman tyo ah un nga lang unpaid tyo. Unpaid na nga, disrespected and unappreciated pa. Mahirap talagang maging mommy kc against all odds tyo. Don't get me wrong there are some moms talaga na wlang kwenta at selfish. Di mawawala un. Kaya nga natuwa ako na makakilala ng mga taong kcng devoted ko sa pagiging nanay ko e.

To all the devoted and loving mommies dito and around the world, lets all give ourselves a round of applause and pat on the back and say great job. It is never EASY being a mom. And be proud that we are doing great at it. Bsta alam mo sa sarili mo na lahat binibigay mo, don't care na sa mga naninira sa spirit ng pagiging mommy, ano ba ang alam nila, diba? ang mga babies natin ang living proof of our devotion, love, and care and pagiging successful as a mom. Itaas natin ang bandera ng mga mommies!!!
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: mommy_babyzoe on August 06, 2008, 01:13:00 pm
sa sobrang pagkadala ko sa topic na ito e nakalimutan ko na magshare. before talaga i lived my like there's no tomorrow. I drink, i smoke, gala. And so, I was drinking on the 1st month of my pregnancy. Di ko alam na I was pregnant n pla. Kc irregular talaga menstruation ko and upto now irregular p din even though  ngpipills n ako. Plus, ngsusuka at nhihilo talaga ako pg mgkkron nko kc anemic ako. And so, I thought n delayed lang ako at normal lang ako ng month na un. But what really scared me was, the palpitating bukol on my left puson, tpos sobrang masakit yung puson ko. And so I thought I was sick that time kc sobrang skit ng puson k that it even wakes me up in the middle of my deep sleep. And so, ngpatingin nko kc mom ko ngkaron ng cancer sa reproductive organ niya. wala talaga ako idea na buntis nko nun. So,punta ko clinic then pinapsmear p ako urine test (lab ito not yung typical preg test ginawa nila) so hours ang itatake pra sa result. That was saturday around 6pm ako ngpcheckup, e closing n nila un. So monday ko pa nkuha results. I smoked and drank alcohol again that weekend. But nung malaman ko na preggers ako, instantly, natigil ko yung lahat ng bad habits ko (na dating hirap n hirap ako gawin, kc i said to everybody na i think the only thing that would and could make me stop smoking was if i get pregnant..hahaha..). So, naging maselan din yung pagbubuntis ko, pero not because of my drinking and smoking before. talagang maselan lang talaga ako at  maraming health problems, like my anemia, hypothyroidism, lack of sleep (kc ako yung buntis na hndi talaga pla tulog as in kahit pilitin ko hndi talaga ko mkasleep, huhuhuh), mababa din yung bhay bata ko, at mdmi pa. And so, I was always praying and talking to my baby n mging healthy sana sya at ngsosorry ako dahil hndi ko alam n andun n pla sya e ngsmo2ke p ako at ngdri2nk. Takot n takot talaga ako. Never ako ngmiss n checkup, vitamins, at ultrasounds, drink anmum, bsta lahat ng need ko gwin, ginawa ko talaga.  Twice ako nhospitalize when i was pregnant. And so, imbes na excited ako manganak, I was scared dahil nga sa pinagdaanan namin ng baby ko during my pregnancy. TPos nanganak n nga ako (c-section din ako), normal naman daw. dhil s gusto ko sya mkita and mpabreastfed e pnroom-in ko nalang sya (d nila sinabi n puwede plng mgpbreastfeed s nursery, kaasar talaga) tpos nakita ko may rashes sya. FIrst milk niya was bona, then change s nan ha, kaso nconstipate lalo si baby, so ngpalit kami s enfalac lactose free. Ang pinakascare ko was when we were still in the hospital at ngcry si baby zoe. Nangitim talaga sya, I was so scared kc yung brother ko blue baby and he died even before i was born. Lahat ginawa sa kanya. 2d echo, may xray, kuha dugo, ultrasound, ecg, dme pa. I was blaming myself talaga kc sa mga pinaggagawa ko. I was beating myself up talaga and cry ng cry. And telling myself na if something happen to her i will never forgive myself at di na ako mag-aanak kc wala ko kwenta. Pero thank god, all tests came back as good news. There's nothing wrong with her daw. After sa hospital, uwi na kami house. pero twice or thrice a week p din kami s pedia niya kc consti-baby nga sya at lactose-intolerant din sya, the only way na mapatae sya e pilitin ilabas by using thermometer. tpos  hndi talaga sya ngstop mgcry nung 1st month niya. Pero ngayon ok n sya, mdyo consti p din pero  ok n yung tummy niya. hindi n sya kabagin ang lactose-intolerant. She's very healthy, maliksi, makulit, and intelligent. So now, di ko na blame sarili ko. Kc bumawi talaga ako sknya. Un nga lang, naging over-protective naman ako sknya. Un lang naman nging prob ko with her.

Dun s mga wala nmang mgawa at may natatagong galit siguro sa akin, like my F-I-L, kc wlang ibang ginawa un kundi silipin ang pag-aalaga ko. Mga moms, talagang di mawawala yang ganyang tao, may mga hidden galit yang mga yan or inggit or selos, kaya nila tyo dina-down. But my advantage is, i am strong. at i don't give a d_mn sa sinasabi nila kc i know for myself na mabuti akong ina at maswerte ako sa anak ko at maswerte din sya sa akin dahil hndi ako pabayang ina at irresponsible na mommy. Ma-swerte yung mga  babies ntn dahil tyo ang mommies nila, nakikita ko ang sarili ko senyo. kaya nga we belong in this same group e kc we want the best for our kids. Kung wala tyong pakialam we will not dream for them, kung baga bahala na sila kung anu2x nalang mangyari s kanya. Whereas, what we are doing is, we are giving our kids a choice, if like nila maging model, artista, o simpleng kid lang. Sympre us moms, nung kabataan ntn, ginusto din ntn n mgkron sana ng chance n binibigay ntn s mga babies ntn ngayon diba. I am so proud to be one of the members here, and proud din ako sa inyong mga mommies na katulad ko. Sana mameet ko kyo in person. Goodluck sa ating lahat at sa babies natin. May they all live a healthy life.

Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: kalix on August 06, 2008, 02:09:22 pm
we're aslo proud of you mommy_babyzoe! ;) we're looking forward to meet you. :)
Title: Re: unappreciated mom...
Post by: simplengmisis on January 15, 2019, 04:51:18 pm
Basta po siguro maayos ang pagpapalaki natin, sapat na yon, kahit walang pasalamat.