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Title: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: nanay2rein&erin on July 09, 2008, 09:19:20 pm
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i am a stay at home mom.for 16mos i have been with a maid who does all the chores and i taking care of my 16months old son.just recently my maid for 5months left for the province.she did not come back.we are now staying with my inlaws so that i can have help in looking after my son.but then my mom in law said that we should try living on our own.meaning having no maid at all.she told me that i can learn to balance (https://www.smartparenting.com.ph/health/wellness/happiness-is-a-choice-a1817-20181231?ref=parentchat) my time in taking care of my son, my husband, and our house.i am a bit scared of the situation because i havent tried it before but i am willing to face the challenge.
can you give me some tips on how i can manage well my time.i maybe 2 months on the way also.please give me pieces of advice on how i can take care of my preggy self while taking care of my super likot son.thanks!

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Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: youngmom on July 10, 2008, 12:12:24 am
time management talaga.ako i take things one step at a time.for example monday is for cleaning our room,tuesdays is for laundry ni baby,wednesday is for laundry ko naman,and so o and so forth.i can't do it ng sabay sabay kc nag aalaga ako ng bata,i sometimes cook for my family,nagapapaligo kay baby,tas madalas pa ko online and and i get to catch up sa mga shows na pinapanood ko at sa pagbabasa ko ng magazines. ;D  ang sikreto ko,multi tasking.while watching tv iron my baby's clothes mga ganon,madami ako nagagaa pag tulog si baby para pag gising na siya nasa kanya focus ko,watch kami tv o play kami. mahirap mag solo,u need a helping hand talaga.sabi nga nila,it takes a village to raise a child.kahit multi tasking ako,i can't do it without a helping hand,either  my mom  or my lola. ;) ;)
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: nanay2rein&erin on July 10, 2008, 09:11:13 am
thanks youngmom.good thing tayong mga girls e kayang mag multitask.
Title: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: tangytomato on December 15, 2008, 06:05:06 pm
Hi Moms!

I'm just curious. I'm working pa right now but I am going to give birth in January. I want to eventually quit my job and take care of the household and maybe start my own business (labo pa ng plans ko).

I just wanna ask you moms out there who decided to quit their jobs to become a WAHM/SAHM.

What made you decide to do it?

How does it feel? Sulit ba?

Do you have any regrets?

How do you see yourself in the next 2 years? Do you plan to go back to the workforce?

Do you earn your own money? How?

And most importantly: How do you live your everyday life? How do you survive? What keeps you busy everyday?



Just curious po...takot kasi ako baka ma-bore ako pag nag quit ako ng job e. Chaka baka ma-miss ko yung industry na ginagawalan ko ngayon. Chaka baka ma-feel ko na helpless ako if I depend on my husband financially.
Title: Re: WAHM/SAHM: day-to-day
Post by: HOTMOM777 on December 16, 2008, 12:51:28 am
Hi Mommy tangytomato :)  advance congratulations to you  ;)  Here are my answers to your query:

What made you decide to do it? ** I was working when I found out I was conceiving to my eldest.  Finding it out is very coincidental since I was also planning to resign.  I immediately did so since I don't want to jeopardize my baby's health because of my hectic work & the same principle was applied to my youngest.  I decided (or rather we) decided on it since it's mine & hubby's advocacy that there should be one parent who would be there with the kids & not to be left with a caretaker.  we both believe iba pa den ang alagang mommy, they grow up to be healthier, happier & more positive disposition among others.  And besides with so many horror stories with what the yaya's are doing to some kids, i don't want my daugthers to go thru it.  I want to be there for their every milestones and not to receive the second hand info from others  :(.

How does it feel? Sulit ba? **  YES!!!! it's all worth it for me.  seeing them grow up to be somebody, healthy, bubbly, both EQ & IQ smarts is more than enough to fill all the years of salary i've worked for :D


Do you have any regrets? ** NOPE!

How do you see yourself in the next 2 years? Do you plan to go back to the workforce?  ** with my eldest I was a SAHM for 4years.  I started working late last year but a month after I was conceiving with my youngest so I stopped again.  I just do sidelines from time to time but not joining the workforce again.

Do you earn your own money? How? **FOr now I was blessed enough to have a monthly assistance from my ninong since he really promised my mom that he would take care of me & my 2 siblings so kahit konti nakakatulong naman,  but like i said i do sidelines from time to time, syempre di ako umaasa dun.  kung wala naman yun, yung tag five & ten peso & twenty peso bills na iniipon ko always comes in handy for emergencies  ;D  so in a way it's not monthly salary but if there's emergency may nadudukot ako so samin ni hubby ok na den yun. 

And most importantly: How do you live your everyday life? How do you survive? What keeps you busy everyday?  **  i used to think about that before when i had my eldest. parang feeling ko nagkamali ata ako ng decision since i'm also a career woman.  but you know i did keep myself busy...in fact, I WAS BUSY!  i did my baby's scrapbook, spring cleaning (gawd! i didn't know our house is full of trash, lol!), update on the things i have to update like reading books, my wardrobe, my journals, other household matters, etc.  Dun ko nalaman it's more challenging to be just at home..akala ko dati boring hindi pala kasi ang daming kailangan asikasuhin.  Esp now that I have my youngest.  Talagang time management.  The things you learn at work maapply mo den sa bahay..like leadership, negotations skills, magsave lalo..to scrimp more so!, etc :D  Hubby is also a major factor since he always consults me about their legal & financial matters.  So kahit pano napapaandar ko pa den utak me, heheh

Just curious po...takot kasi ako baka ma-bore ako pag nag quit ako ng job e. Chaka baka ma-miss ko yung industry na ginagawalan ko ngayon. Chaka baka ma-feel ko na helpless ako if I depend on my husband financially. ** Recently, I asked hubby if he would want me to work again since it's also very challenging to be financially dependent esp if you're used to having your own money but he said "just take care of our family.  seeing our daughters grow up to be fine ladies, healthy & strong, tanggal na lahat ang pagod ni daddy"  :D

Title: Re: WAHM/SAHM: day-to-day
Post by: Mommy Iris on December 16, 2008, 08:25:19 am
What made you decide to do it? I have to. It was the best decision I made to keep my sanity. No one has to look over Yona, my toddler and the office I was with was already killing my *&%$ off.

How does it feel? Sulit ba?Of course! Just seeing your daughter grow everyday, being able to look after your household and having that responsibility on your shoulder just brings a different level of accomplishment. Well for some kasi lalo na ang corporate women talaga, iba yung feeling - parang boring to some pero if you've decided talaga na you'll gonna be SAHM or WAHM - ang sarap ng feeling :)

Do you have any regrets?Wala of course!

How do you see yourself in the next 2 years? Do you plan to go back to the workforce?
Still a SAHM, no I have no plans in going back to work :)

Do you earn your own money? How?Of course, through online selling

And most importantly: How do you live your everyday life? How do you survive? What keeps you busy everyday?Basta may internet, I can survive! Seriously, here's our day to day activities. I made a blog about this in Multiply:

As a SAHM, I don’t go through the hassle of waking up early for work, thinking a gazillion times on what to wear for work, stressing myself to death on how to commute back and forth. Being at home saves me a lot of untimely wrinkles!


But don’t get me wrong, I do work – but at home! I am so blessed to have a husband who supports my decision to quit my job and be with our daughter. I know he’s not earning that much but he just loves me to bits to embrace this obligation hehe


Our week starts on a Tuesday. Mondays are considered Sundays to us – family day or should I say Mom and Dad’s Off Days. Daddy from work while Mommy from taking good care of Yona. I go to suppliers on this day.


Here’s what we do during regular weekdays – Tuesdays to Saturdays:


0730 – 0800: Wake up time

0800 – 0830: I prepare 8oz milk for Yona and coffee and bread for me at the same time, I turn the PC on

0830 – 0900: Yona drinks milk while watching Nick Jr. on TV5 or Miya on QTv, I work on my PC

0900 – 1000: I prepare brunch for Yona, oatmeal and bread and another 8oz of milk

1000 – 1200: Toddler activities with Yona, taking a bath - the works, mom faces the PC

1200 – 1230: Lunch Time

1230 – 1300: Mommy works while Yona watches TV

1300 – 1500: Nap time for Yona, mommy works again

1500 – 1630: Snack time, toddler activities, milk time for Yona

1630 – 1800: Yona plays with friends while waiting for Dada

1800 – 1900: We watch TV together while Dada prepares dinner

1900 – 1930: Dinner time

1930 – 2030: Downtime

2030 – 2100: Yona takes a shower

2100 onwards: Lights off for Mommy and Yona, Dada uses PC


So that’s it! Though there are days when we do errands but typically this is how we schedule our days.

Title: Re: WAHM/SAHM: day-to-day
Post by: tangytomato on January 13, 2009, 09:54:30 pm
Hindi ba kayo na-bore nung umpisa? :-)
Title: Re: WAHM/SAHM: day-to-day
Post by: soumy01 on January 14, 2009, 02:37:04 pm
ako din resigned from my work nung nabuntis ako. first few months ok lang dami pa ako ginagawa yung mga bagay na na miss ko yung nagwowork pa ako pero after ilang months iyak na ako ng iyak kasi supersuper bored na ako di ako sanay na walang ginagawa plus the idea na kapadepende na ako fully financially sa husband ko.
pero now na nandito na yung baby namin wow sulit di ko ipagpapalit ang baby ko sa career ko. kahit na sayang di pa rin non matutumbasan na ako ang nagaalaga sa babyko.

buti na lang may internet and forums like this kasi maghapon kami lang ni baby ko magkasama ayoko naman nalabas madalas ng bahay pag may work si hubby. saka nagbbusy busihan na lang dito sa bahay para di mabored dami naman gagawin dito sa bahay. ;D
Title: Re: WAHM/SAHM: day-to-day
Post by: lady_torque on January 18, 2009, 12:22:57 am
What made you decide to do it?
    Since my husband & I had plans then of putting out our own business in line with their present one, I felt that the said business can help us financially so I decided to quit and just decided to take care of the business & the family.  I am conceiving that time & since the future business is just in front of our home, mas ok di ba?

How does it feel? Sulit ba?
  font=comic sans ms][/font]  Sa kin kasi, it doesn't matter if my career will sacrifice, anyways di naman ako after sa personal success sa corporate world.  What matters is how a woman will handle the family, as well as raise the kids.  Sulit na sulit ang pag iwan ko sa career ko & just be with the family.  Kung i continue ko career ko & maging successful nga ako personally tapos masa sacrifice naman family, successful pa ba feeling nun di ba?


Do you have any regrets?
font=comic sans ms][/font]  NO REGRETS! kahit minsan pinararamdam sa kin ng hubby ko na sya raw lang nagwo work, isa lang sinasabi ko sa kanya: "Kaya mo ba'ng role ko as a partner, a mom, a business partner?" I'm the one handling the finance, purchasing, admin aspects sa business on my own tapos yaya pa ng eldest ko (no sweldo yun) - un ang pinamumukha ko sa kanya kaya he can never tell me that I don't help him with the business. hehe
How do you see yourself in the next 2 years? Do you plan to go back to the workforce?

Do you earn your own money? How?
font=comic sans ms][/font] I've learned to save (secretly) for the future of the kids kasi in reality, our husbands won't allow us to save something for ourselves.  Kapag nalaman nilang we have our own savings, chances are when things got worse e papakelaman din nila yung savings natin na di naman talaga for us but for the kids hehe.  Besides, kahit naman wala tayong work talaga e may rights din naman tayo financially di ba>

And most importantly: How do you live your everyday life? How do you survive? What keeps you busy everyday?
font=comic sans ms][/font]   i wake up at 630 am to prepare my eldest to his 2-hour nursery class (hatid-sundo) then after going home alternate role as a mompreneur.  i have no time to watch tv or read hehe.  Since my 2 kids are both toddlers, the youngest is w/ d yaya & my eldest is with me at the shop since di naman sya gaano malikot & makulit.  when i have free time, i bond with both of them.

  Honestly, sometimes sa mga ganitong situations, you are so close to insanity lalo na kung ang hubby mo is parang anak mo na rin :o, like when he grew up as a mama's boy...  Eto na lang ang free time ko when everyone else is asleep...
Title: Re: WAHM/SAHM: day-to-day
Post by: khaena on January 31, 2009, 10:08:17 am
What made you decide to do it? - My son was 6 months when I finally decided to resign from work because I felt guilty when my son sleeps with his yaya at night where dapat ako dapat ang katabi niya and when several times na napapabayaan ng yaya ang pagpapadede sa baby ko... Imagine pagdating ko sa bahay makaka 3 bottles straight ang baby ko meaning tinulugan lang ng yaya ang baby ko. Plus the fact yung MIL ko keeps asking money sa hubby ko and my hubby gives them without me knowing. In short secret transactions nila yun ah... akala siguro nila umuulan ng pera ang family naman kaya ganon na lang sila.

How does it feel? Sulit ba? - It feels really good and sulit na sulit talaga. Ang thinking ko kasi is... i"m working hard and investing so much time and energy for the company i work with and who benefits but the company and its owners. BUt if I invest time and effort sa family ko its my family who will benefit and lifetime benefit on my part. Pride and Glory ko pa yun lalo na pag good comments are given by other people.

Do you have any regrets? - None at all.

How do you see yourself in the next 2 years? Do you plan to go back to the workforce? - In the next two years and even for the next lifetime, I don't plan to go to workforce. But if in case instances forced me to go back to work, I would do so for my family.

Do you earn your own money? How? - As for now, I don't earn my own money. But I really make sure that i budget my hubby's remittances

And most importantly: How do you live your everyday life? How do you survive? What keeps you busy everyday? Everyday is a very busy day for me... Feeling ko nga kulang ang 24 hours for my and my 2 kids sa sobrang daming gagawin. But time management survived me everyday. Alam nyo po being a SAHM is a very tough job compare to a corporate job.

Overall, whatever you decide is never wrong as long as you make sure that you balance your work and family. Minsan po kasi parents esp moms unconsciously forget to give time lalo na sa kids but do justify lang that they do so for their children but on the side of it they do it for their own selfish motives (sorry to say this but i dont generalize it to all working moms, i knew some lang po) Meron lang po kasi talagang ganun Mommy na dikaya magpaka mommy coz they don;t know how. And they only know how to be good in their career. Let's just accept the fact that there are three kinds of mothers, those who are family oriented mothers, career oriented mothers and those who can balance both their career and family.




Title: Re: WAHM/SAHM: day-to-day
Post by: tangytomato on March 17, 2009, 10:19:28 am
Haha gusto ko na talaga magresign now that I'm on maternity leave!!!
Title: Re: WAHM/SAHM: day-to-day
Post by: michi247 on March 17, 2009, 03:29:53 pm
What made you decide to do it? nakunan kasi ko sa 1st pregnancy ko and nabedrest ako sa second, so after nung bedrest ko, nung pumasok ko, feeling ko hindi ko pa kaya and yaw ko na mag take ng risk na makunan ulit lalo na graveyard shift ako and laguna to makati work ko. so both decision namin ni hubby yung pagreresign ko.  

How does it feel? Sulit ba? nung una, hindi talaga ko sanay kasi never naman ko napipirmi sa bahay kahit nung dalaga pa ko,and hindi rin ko sanay na walang sweldo every payday.

e no choice ako since di rin ko pd bumiyahe ng malayo. bahya lang talaga, every check up lang ang labas ko and nung nag 4mos preggy, minsan sumasama na ko mag grocery at mag shop ng baby stuff.

syempre after manganak, sulit lahat ng hirap at pagod lalo na pag nakikita mu anak mu.  Do you have any regrets?

wala, kasi iba yung feeling na ako nag-aalaga sa baby ko, masaya na mahirap. tapos nawiwitness ko rin lahat  ng first niya, first smile, first roll over, first crawl, etc. lalo na pag may sakit, syempre mas maganda kung ikaw nasa tabi niya.

How do you see yourself in the next 2 years? Do you plan to go back to the workforce?
before sabi ko, after 6mos siguro, pero now, hindi ko na masabi, parang di ko kaya iwan si baby sa yaya lang, i'm planning na maging WAHM na lang ko.

dami nga nagtatanung sa kin kung kelan ko magwowork ulit, sagot ko na lang, di ko pa alam e.  ;D

Do you earn your own money? How?

nag sideline ko sa real state, so kahit papanu may extra income. tapos nag try ko sa mga online surveys, pero la pa rin kita. hehe! may allowance din ko sa mom ko every month, so bukod sa savings ko, may ginagastos ko sa mga needs ko. p pero syempre hindi naman habang buhay yung savings at padala ng mom ko, so sana soon may magingbusiness na rin ko.

And most importantly: How do you live your everyday life? How do you survive? What keeps you busy everyday?

kala ko hindi ko kakayanin sa bahay lang, pero kung tutuusin hindi nga kaya ng 24hrs yung dapat gawin sa bahay, actually hindi ko pa nga magawa yung dapat gawin ko kasi nauubos sa kakabantay sa baby ko lalo na at nag uumpisa ng gumapang.

pag nasa room lang ko at nagbabantay kay baby, ito lang ginagawa ko, mag chat, magsurf,magblog,mag upload ng pix at sumagot sa SP. pag tulog siya, household chores na.

pag weekend, family day na, so umaalis kami, kaya baby ko, 5mos pa lang, sobrang sanay sa pagtravel.  :)
Title: Re: WAHM/SAHM: day-to-day
Post by: reensky on March 17, 2009, 06:08:10 pm
What made you decide to do it? - i was working then when i found out that i'am conceiving,its hard kasi ang layo ng work place ko then i was bleeding pa...sa takot ko i decided to resign and my hubby was very supported naman...

How does it feel?Sulit ba? - wala.. kasi nakikita ko kung paano magpalaki ng bata,i saw when he first crawl, his first smile and madami pa...but the greatest part was when he first say "mama"...sobrang happy ko and teary eyed... :)

Do you have any regrets? - wala...


How do you see yourself in the next 2 years? Do you plan to go back to the workforce? -sabi ko rin after six months,then after 1 yr..and now, siguro next year na talaga sa hirap ng buhay ngayon...para na rin sa future ni baby... ;)

Do you earn your own money? How? - my sideline and allowance galing sa parents

And most importantly: How do you live your everyday life? How do you survive? What keeps you busy everyday? -dahil dito sa SP di ako nabobore,sa scrapblog,makipaglaro kay baby... like mommy iris halos ganun din sched ko.... :D

Title: Re: WAHM/SAHM: day-to-day
Post by: rowster on March 18, 2009, 09:23:26 pm
I work part-time and am also a WAHM.

What made you decide to do it?
I don't have any relatives who can help look after my baby and I didn't want to just leave my baby with only the yaya and no one else.

How does it feel? Sulit ba?
Absolutely.  Paminsan gusto ko ngang mag-quit ng job ko completely.
 
Do you have any regrets?
I should've done it earlier, haha.

How do you see yourself in the next 2 years? Do you plan to go back to the workforce?
Yes.  I plan to go back to full-time work when my baby is 1-1/2 years old (old enough for playschool).

Do you earn your own money? How?
Part time work.  And I have an online store that sells baby/parenting things (http://store.pinoybaby.com).

And most importantly: How do you live your everyday life? How do you survive? What keeps you busy everyday?
Busy everyday: when you have a baby there's more than enough to keep you busy!  On its own it's already a full-time job.

My son now is 5 months old.  On the days that I don't go to work, when he's awake, we play, I sing to him or read to him, or I carry him in a sling and we walk around the house or take a walk outside.  When he's napping or asleep at night, that's when I do my WAHM work.  At this age he's slowly starting to learn to play on his own already so sometimes I work on my laptop while sitting beside his crib (he plays in his crib) even when he's awake.

On the days that I go to work, sinasama ko siya sa work along with the yaya.

takot kasi ako baka ma-bore ako pag nag quit ako ng job e.
There's actually so much to do when you have a baby so I don't know if "boredom" (as in, nabo-bore ka dahil wala kang magawa) per se will be a problem.  But the negative things are: When I'm not at work I miss adult conversation.  And sometimes sobrang tedious ng mga kailangan gawin sa bahay, feeling ko lagi akong kulang sa pahinga.   

As the other moms have said: sa totoo lang mas mahirap at mas nakakapagod mag-alaga ng baby kaysa magtrabaho.  But of course di hamak na mas rewarding because the joy of watching your child grow and feeling bonded with your child is incomparable.
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: Mariel Arun on August 18, 2009, 09:13:06 am
hi sis. im presently a SAHM without a yaya for 6 months now (and almost 5 months since i gave birth), i chose not to hire help coz i do not want sharing my home to a stranger, nadala kasi ako dun sa last yaya 2 yaya namin.

here are some of my tips:

1. be organized.

2. your baby's sleeping hours is precious to us mommies without yayas, dun natin pwede magawa ang ibang chores.

3. work fast.

4. ask hubby for help, like kaw mag-wash sa kids for bed siya maghugas ng plates things like that, key is TEAMWORK. same with your child if he/she is of age to help or understand responsibility, like packing away toys after playing, or make a "1 toy/ play" rule, etc.

5. minimize being makalat as well, para konti lang lagi ligpitin. i use this rule sa house "kung san kinuha, dun ibalik!"

6. prioritize. those activites that require a lot of time like washing clothes, ironing, defrosting ref, organizing cabinets etc., do them on weekends when hubby is at home para may titingin kay baby while you're doing these para tuloy-tuloy rin paggawa mo mommy.

7. lastly, you have to learn to listen to your body as well, once in awhile kung pagod kana then rest! wag mo pilitin.

hope these would help, good luck!  ;)
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: isayhesez on August 18, 2009, 09:42:58 am
very well said happiemommie. ;)

hi sis. im presently a SAHM without a yaya for 6 months now (and almost 5 months since i gave birth), i chose not to hire help coz i do not want sharing my home to a stranger, nadala kasi ako dun sa last yaya 2 yaya namin.

here are some of my tips:

1. be organized.

2. your baby's sleeping hours is precious to us mommies without yayas, dun natin pwede magawa ang ibang chores.

3. work fast.

4. ask hubby for help, like kaw mag-wash sa kids for bed siya maghugas ng plates things like that, key is TEAMWORK. same with your child if he/she is of age to help or understand responsibility, like packing away toys after playing, or make a "1 toy/ play" rule, etc.

5. minimize being makalat as well, para konti lang lagi ligpitin. i use this rule sa house "kung san kinuha, dun ibalik!"

6. prioritize. those activites that require a lot of time like washing clothes, ironing, defrosting ref, organizing cabinets etc., do them on weekends when hubby is at home para may titingin kay baby while you're doing these para tuloy-tuloy rin paggawa mo mommy.

7. lastly, you have to learn to listen to your body as well, once in awhile kung pagod kana then rest! wag mo pilitin.

hope these would help, good luck!  ;)
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: Mariel Arun on August 18, 2009, 10:26:15 am
  :)
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: riddermark on August 18, 2009, 11:14:28 am

ohhh.... i'm gonna need lots of trainings on this
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: precios on August 18, 2009, 11:41:17 am
hi mommy,,
i am full time mom,no miad,no yaya at all,i do all the household chores,,i have 2 kids,,2.6 years old and
8 months old,,ang ginawa ko lang,,i have daily routine,,araw-araw yon na talaga gagawin ko,,since work ang partner ko daily,,weekend lang wala,,ako lahat sa bahay,sa umaga pgkagising,,cook breakfast sa amin lahat,,asikasuhin ko si hubby bago pumasok,,pgkaalis ni hubby,,kids naman pakainin ko,,after kain paligoan,,my 8 months old after ligo,,matulog na sya while my 2 years old,,palaruin ko lang,,hayaan ko lang mgkalat,,until sleepy na sya,,hejust tell me na mommy im sleepy,,so iiwan ko muna ginagawa ko at ptulogin ko sya,,,,after sa household chores,,rest saglit,,sabayan ng tulog ang mga kids,,i do laundry twice a week,,sa una hirap,,pero pg sanay na sa routine,,okay naman,,minsan pg mg leave si hubby o walang pasok,,sya ang mg alaga sa mga kids,,
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: BASTI on August 18, 2009, 11:43:04 am
ako din I need this...

Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: mumsie_AJ on August 19, 2009, 01:29:12 am
the word is schedule. have a schedule of things that you need to do for the day. like me ala din kameng yaya/helper. i attend to my husband's and 2kids' needs (a 3 year old and a 1year old). maganda din ang may sked/routine kase it helps in disciplining the kid/s. pag nakasanayan na kase ng kid mo na, let's say after breakfast eh bath time, in the long run hindi ka na mahihirapan na makipag-usap sa anak mo para maligo, or to sleep/nap after lunch time.
mahirap at first pero eventually makakasanayan mo na din...tayo pang mga mommy eh mga supermoms tayo hehe. kaya mo yan sis...gudlak!
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: ..chey.. on August 19, 2009, 02:19:01 am
i rily admire mga full time mom... esp those na walang yaya... its rily hard to balance everything... SAHM din ako, but di pa ko expert sa time mgnt... ang galing nyo mga mommies...
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: Katie on August 20, 2009, 01:00:14 pm
OC ako. may dala akong papel everywhere I go. list down ng mga priorities.
 
madamot ako sa time, as in lahat naka schedule, lahat naka timer. kahit pag nagsasaing ako, naka timer. hehe. kaya ayoko ng  mga last minute, gusto ko lahat naka appointment. kase single parent ako pero im still a daughter and a friend.
 
 
 
 
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: Chie77 on August 20, 2009, 09:35:04 pm
sis before our bebe, we dont have helper. so dad and i help each other. we are both working ha. sya kasama ni kuya papasok sa sch at ako magsusundo. he choose night shift kahit nahihirapan sya makatulog para maasikaso si kuya.

sa household chores, hati talga kami. ako ang plantsa, linis. sya ang laba, luto.. ok naman sis. carry lang. basta lang magtulungan kayo..

kaya yan sis. sobrang ok pag kayo na lang (though mahirap, kakayanin..) :)
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: precios on August 20, 2009, 10:30:45 pm
sis before our bebe, we dont have helper. so dad and i help each other. we are both working ha. sya kasama ni kuya papasok sa sch at ako magsusundo. he choose night shift kahit nahihirapan sya makatulog para maasikaso si kuya.

sa household chores, hati talga kami. ako ang plantsa, linis. sya ang laba, luto.. ok naman sis. carry lang. basta lang magtulungan kayo..

kaya yan sis. sobrang ok pag kayo na lang (though mahirap, kakayanin..) :)
you are correct,
buti ka pa nga eh,asawa mo mglaba,,yong partner ko d hehe,,parang pangany lang na dumi kinuha,,talagang di ako kuntinto,,kahit sa laundry,,kaya ako lahat,,pg weekend wala sya work,,mg yayo ka jan,,ako mg linis,,mglaba,mgloto,,hayyyy buhay,,,,hahhaa
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: brownpinay on August 20, 2009, 11:39:20 pm
I am a working mom at wife sa isang OFW na may time difference nang 5 hrs at occupied din in earning online, maintaining 4 blogs at saka isang online shop.

Effective po sa akin yung nililista ko po sa isang notebook ang aking mga dapat gawin....may long term at short term....para syang checklist....

Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: BASTI on August 21, 2009, 12:49:44 am

Napansin ko lang..

sonrang IBA na pala pag may Baby na (anak)

Dati, sarili ko lang iniisp ko...

pero ngayon,,, kahit magsuklay ata hindi ko na din magawa.... (lalo na pag nasa hous elang ako)

ang kilos, mabilis na... kundi mauunahan ka ng Iyak ng bata...

Minsan, aalis ako, dinner with friend or kahit ano lang... wala talaga kaayos ayos...
wahahaha.. sabi ko sa sarili ko this is not me!!!! hahaha

kelan kaya manunumbalik ang sigla sa katawan ko.. simula kasi ng nanganak ako.. yung pagiging malaks ko before.. nawala e.. madali nko mapagod.. hay.......
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: precios on August 21, 2009, 01:11:27 am
pareho tayo momsie,,
pero wag mo naman pabayaan ng todo sarili mo,,baka malosyang ka,,ako 2 kids na,,at walang maid at yaya,,ako lang,,pg tulog sila,thats the time na ayosin ko sarili ko,,,lalo na pg parating na si partner,,pabango hehe,,,minsan naman walang ka ayos ayos,,ganun talaga,,,pg may anak na,,mg bago lahat,,we must accept the reality na mommy na tayo,,,,
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: mariann on August 21, 2009, 08:48:18 am
i'm a working mom with 2 daughters.

i use an organizer for my daily tasks at home and workplace, and future plans.  and i stick to what i've listed to do.
household chores has designated dates.  routine na yan.

my kids have their own routines, too.  and i start training them to be independent at their young age.  my eldest stopped having a yaya at age 4.  she can fend for herself.  she even helps with some chores.

everything is listed.  from grocery list, to daily tasks, to weekly chores, to weekly menu...  even the food in our ref is labeled on when it's supposed to be cooked based on the weekly menu.  even instructions for the helpers aside from their daily tasks.
 
i use the phone for canvassing things to buy, like buying meds to replenish our medicine cabinets.  i employ the "suki" system.  that way, i won't have to fall in line and waste my precious time.  i just have to pick up things i buy.
we also buy in the same supermart for our monthly groceries.  they know me and they know my system at the counter. 
 
hubby and i are also strict with the schedules.  we have to follow what we have scheduled for the day.  we both hate sudden changes in plans.

that way, everything is organized and systematic in our house and in my workplace.  i could have plenty of time for my kids, my hubby and for myself.
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: anne22 on August 25, 2009, 09:15:46 pm
eversince nag for good na kami ng mr ko dito sa pinas naging fulltym house wife na ako n now fulltym mom na din hehe.lahat ako gumagawa  kami 3 lang kc dito sa bahay,mr ko,ako n yung daughter namin 23 months old.diskarte ko lang sis is multi tasking hehe.habang nag cook o linis bahay naka salang din labahin.n lagi me gcing maaga talaga habang tulog pa baby ko lahat ng pwede ko gawin,gagawin ko para pag gcing baby ko tapos na lahat ng gawain ko.mahirap pero la me choice hehe n nasanay na din ako sa ganun.kahit pagod na pagod na k lang din kc masaya naman ako sa ginagawa ko.yung pag silbihan n alagaan yung mag ama ko.
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: BASTI on August 25, 2009, 09:25:33 pm
pareho tayo momsie,,
pero wag mo naman pabayaan ng todo sarili mo,,baka malosyang ka,,ako 2 kids na,,at walang maid at yaya,,ako lang,,pg tulog sila,thats the time na ayosin ko sarili ko,,,lalo na pg parating na si partner,,pabango hehe,,,minsan naman walang ka ayos ayos,,ganun talaga,,,pg may anak na,,mg bago lahat,,we must accept the reality na mommy na tayo,,,,

Hay, nabulok na lang ata lahat ng make up ko..
wala tlaga akong gana sis...

ewan ko ba....




Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: yvaughne on August 31, 2009, 08:08:56 pm
ako i already master that heheh for me kc i made my own schedule kaya walang ligtas even the kids have their own schedule pati yung kasama namin sa bahay they should stick with the schel kc pag me isang nabago dun lahat mag iiba na ang flow.. i usually wake up 6 am just in time to see my kids get into their ride tpos hubby usually wakes up at 8, then sabay na kami aalis sa house.. ako straight sa school ng kids to check on them tpos dapat b4 12 nakabalik na ko sa house para mapatulog yung anak kong babae 1pm i usually start business transactions until 4 pm only i dont make excuses for late basta pag 4 umuuwi na ako para 5pm nasa house na ako.. i value my time kaya alam na ng mga nakapaligid sa akin ugali ko...
Title: stay at home moms
Post by: celganda on May 23, 2010, 06:27:38 pm
Hi Mommies!
Marami po ba sa SP moms ang Stay at Home moms? Kumusta ang buhay stay at home mom? Ako kasi merong 1 yr and 9 mo old at stay at home mom since pinanganak sha. Wala kaming yaya by choice. Mas gusto namin ni hubby na kami mismo mag aalaga kay baby. Enjoy naman kaso minsan talagang nakaka-inip dahil 8 years din akong nag work sa office dati at yon ang nakasanayan ko. Pero over-all, I feel fulfilled being a full time mom.  :)
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: cris25 on May 23, 2010, 06:41:16 pm
hi cel ganda. im a stay at home mom too. during my baby's first 3 months wala din kami yaya but we stayed at my husband's house. pero sobrang pagod ako lagi nun. recovering from cs ako tapos alaga pa. ang hirap. ngayon may yaya na pero hands on pa din. take turns kami ng yaya kasi mabigat si baby eh.. since i dont work, nagiisip ako ng sideline or business na pwede kahit nasa bahay lang ako...
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: michi247 on May 23, 2010, 06:47:43 pm
SAHM din ko since nagkababy, mahirap sa umpisa kasi di ko sanay na nasa bahay lang talaga, pero nasanay na rin, la rin yaya by choice, kasi feeling ko kaya ko pa, pero may time na sumusuko rin ko lalo na pag ako lang at si baby sa house pag out of town or out of the country si hubby. hindi ko na maiwan si baby, 50-50 ko sa decision ko kung magwork o SAHM na lang, sabi ko nga pag 1yr old na lang siguro, pero til now, 19mos na si baby na sa bahay pa rin ko.
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: septamush on May 23, 2010, 07:05:52 pm
Buti ka pa mommy... samin kasi si Hubs ang nasa house... practicality reasons lang.. kasi mas malaki sahod ko.. I wish someday he would understand I wanted him home than hiring yaya... anyways.. mommy marami kang pwede pag kakitaan online.. kaya kung matiyaga ka din.. I envy all Home staying mom.. kasi they are very dedicated and loving moms
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: michi247 on May 23, 2010, 07:10:34 pm
^ sis, minsan naman bilib din ko sa working moms, kasi may career din sila at the same time. hehe!
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: tiny_little_mom on May 23, 2010, 09:41:25 pm
SAHM din po ako but not by choice. Syempre gusto ko rin lagi ko kasama si baby but I have to work sana to save for his schooling and future since I'm a single mom. Kaso wala pang mahanap na yaya kahit 11months na. Nakikisukob muna ako sa kind parents ko. Work na ko pag may yaya na and confident na ko sakanya... When that time comes I'll miss my baby so much but I'm happy I was able to be with him everyday in his first year of life.
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: LiasMum on May 23, 2010, 11:26:16 pm
I welcome myself to the club....
I enjoy being at home, i see  every milestone of my little one kaso sometimes i need break and adult conversation...
i admire those working mums kc they both sides of the world..
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: glitter on May 24, 2010, 04:00:27 am
count me in.. SAHM din but right now, im on my job hunting.. kailangan narin kasi mgSave for my baby's future..
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: hubsch on May 24, 2010, 11:47:42 am
Same here. I am just waiting for my visa then hopefully makapag work na ulit, I've been a sahm for 1 year and 7 months now. I did volunteer jobs, pero once in awhile lang din ang meetings. I enjoy every single of it since I get to spend more time with my baby but at the same time, hindi talaga maiiwasan yung sad thoughts of not doing any work-related thing aside from taking care of Dom.
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: Mommy Ineng on May 24, 2010, 12:41:23 pm
SAHM din po ako for 7 years na,though may mini grocery ako before...ayaw kase akong pag-workin ni hubby.Okay din naman kase nababantayan ko ang mga bata..
But sometimes naiisip ko ding mag-work naman  :)
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: okfine on May 24, 2010, 01:14:28 pm
SAHM din ako..minsan nakakapagod na din yung araw-araw na ginagawa ko..hehe..gusto ko magwork,ayaw naman ni hubby kung maliit lang daw sweldo..hmp!ano magagawa ko,hs grad lang ako eh.. ???
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: Nuna on May 24, 2010, 02:23:24 pm
Ako rin SAHM.  :)
Gusto kasi namin ni hubby na kami talaga yung mag-aalaga sa baby namin. Isa pa, ang hirap na kasi talaga humanap ng kasambahay/yaya na mapagkakatiwalaan kaya ako nalang. Super hands on mommy. Im happy and i enjoy being one kase nakikita at natututukan ko paglaki ng baby ko.

Minsan parang gusto ko rin magwork, para I can help hubby na magsave ng money. Pero dahil hindi pa talaga pwede, i put up an online store.. at iba pang raket. Isa pa pala, nakakamiss din kase yung lumalabas.. yun may social life at ME time. Pero okay lang. Keri na. hehe!
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: celganda on May 24, 2010, 04:13:31 pm
it's nice to hear from the stay at home mommies here in SP. saludo ako sa inyo.  ;) minsan kasi feeling ko ako lang mag-isa. hehe. lahat kasi ng close friends ko puro single and working. pati ang aking mother ay full time worker eversince.
nag work from home din ako before for a little while para lang libangan at extra income. pero nag-stop na ko. siguro maghahanap na lang uli ng ibang opportunities para libangan. for now, chillax muna with the little one.  ;)
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: Nuna on May 24, 2010, 04:31:55 pm
Add ko lang ha. I dont know if meron senyo naka experience nito. Sometimes kasi other people think na pag SAHM ay tamad o pasarap sa buhay. Ako kase naexperience ko to. Na kulang nalang sabihin sakin na 'hoy magtrabaho ka' or ipamuka sakin na wala nako narating dahil SAHM ako. Nakakainis, kase they dont know anything naman. Ayoko nalang din patulan. Para sakin, as long as OK kami ni hubby sa ganito.. hanggat kaya pa, basta hindi ko napapabayaan ang anak at asawa ko.. wala nako pakelam sa sinasabi nila.  ;)
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: tiny_little_mom on May 24, 2010, 06:02:00 pm
^mommy nuna: korek ka dyan, wag nalang patulan. so far di ko pa naman na-experience yan kahit sa mga kapatid ko dito sa bahay wala naman nagsasabi or nagpaparamdam sakin niyan kasi nakikita naman nila yung pagod at puyat sa pag-alaga ng bata (which probably served as a lesson to them) tsaka naawa na nga lang sila sakin na puro palabas ang savings ko ngayon. pero para sakin, ang important ay naaalagaan ang bata at nagagabayan sa paglaki. what other people say are the least of my worries.

kudos to us moms! 24/7 job without pay but with the greatest rewards :D
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: mia317 on May 24, 2010, 06:20:40 pm
i'm a SAHM too. . . hindi pa kase ako nakakabalik sa prepregnancy weight ko kaya hindi pa ako makaraket ulit. okay lang yung work ko kase usually weekends lang siya hindi nga lang permanent. minsan wala. namimiss ko na nga rin magwork eh. pero masgusto ko makita si baby everyday.
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: LiasMum on May 24, 2010, 06:39:52 pm
Add ko lang ha. I dont know if meron senyo naka experience nito. Sometimes kasi other people think na pag SAHM ay tamad o pasarap sa buhay. Ako kase naexperience ko to. Na kulang nalang sabihin sakin na 'hoy magtrabaho ka' or ipamuka sakin na wala nako narating dahil SAHM ako. Nakakainis, kase they dont know anything naman. Ayoko nalang din patulan. Para sakin, as long as OK kami ni hubby sa ganito.. hanggat kaya pa, basta hindi ko napapabayaan ang anak at asawa ko.. wala nako pakelam sa sinasabi nila.  ;)

ay naku sis those comments are insenstive.. according to the survery stay home shud recieve 6 figures of salary kc pinakamahirap na work..imagine 24/7.. well the only perks,we see our tots every minutes....
its
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: septamush on May 24, 2010, 06:40:08 pm
i'm a SAHM too. . . hindi pa kase ako nakakabalik sa prepregnancy weight ko kaya hindi pa ako makaraket ulit. okay lang yung work ko kase usually weekends lang siya hindi nga lang permanent. minsan wala. namimiss ko na nga rin magwork eh. pero masgusto ko makita si baby everyday.

ano work mo mommy.. hope you dont mind me asking... ng hahanap din kasi ako ng ganyan ng light yung required an pasok para I have time for my baby
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: Nuna on May 24, 2010, 07:09:49 pm
@ sis tiny_little_mom - same tayo sis. sa family ko, walang problem. supportive sila sa pagiging sahm ko. Happy sila sa nakikita nila na talagang naaalagaan ko mabuti ang anak ko. And they're proud of me.

But i have this relative na laging may comment at issue. And this other one na everytime makakausap ko sinasabi na i should work na like her kasi bla bla bla. Yah, i may not have the career that she has pero sa isip-isip ko.. "hindi niya din naman kaya yung pag-aalaga na nagagawa ko para sa anak ko" tahimik nalang ako pag ganon. Minsan nakakairita lang talaga.

@ sis LiasMum - correct ka sis. hindi ito madali, pero masaya!
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: tintoink on May 24, 2010, 11:08:02 pm
Add ko lang ha. I dont know if meron senyo naka experience nito. Sometimes kasi other people think na pag SAHM ay tamad o pasarap sa buhay. Ako kase naexperience ko to. Na kulang nalang sabihin sakin na 'hoy magtrabaho ka' or ipamuka sakin na wala nako narating dahil SAHM ako. Nakakainis, kase they dont know anything naman. Ayoko nalang din patulan. Para sakin, as long as OK kami ni hubby sa ganito.. hanggat kaya pa, basta hindi ko napapabayaan ang anak at asawa ko.. wala nako pakelam sa sinasabi nila.  ;)

korek.. grabe nefeel ko yan.. halos ipamuka sakin yan ng MIL ko. grabe siya.. e hello kakaresign ko lang naman. dahil di nako happy sa work ko.plus im preggy pa. so hirap na kasi Callcenter. so mga 1 month akong nasa bahay. tapos walang yaya so ako nagaalaga, enjoy naman ako. tapos halos ipagtulakan ako na magwork, e napagusapan na namin yung ng hubby ko. anyway at that time kasi c hubby ay di pinapasweldo, so ipon ko lang ang ginagastos namin. dec un so may 13th month at money na binigay saken ng mom ko na nasa canada so wala akong kakampi.hmp..  nakikitira lang kasi kami, reason is wala kasing yaya so para lang may titingin sa mga bata if incase need umalis.
tapos aun back to work na ko ngayon kahit mahirap, wala parin yaya. pero pang gabi ako tapos normal na oras ang work ni hubby, so salitan kami sa bata. un nga lang kulang na ko sa tulog. kaya wala maxado pahinga. pero atleast masaya kasi kasama ko c bebe at walang nangengeelam na mil, kasi umalis na kami dun.
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: mishyla on May 24, 2010, 11:40:12 pm
i'm also a SAHM since 3 month old baby ko..umalis kasi yaya niya so we don't have a choice but i have to resign even if i love my job..i'm enjoying it and high salary din..at first dami hesitations, siyempre sa budget and on what am i going to do once i stayed at home...

what can i say..for 6 months now that i'm SAHM..super hirap but super fulfilling coz every milestones or developments ni baby nakikita ko..captured every moment of it sabi nga nila..and mas natuturuan ko siya sa lahat...she's growing to be a good and easy to learn baby...kaya lahat ng pagod napapalitan ng saya ...even though minsan parang gusto ko magday-off (hahaha) just to unwind pero mawala lang baby ko sa paningin ko ng 2 hrs parang ang hirap na..
started April, we managed the sari-sari store business dito sa house and i can say na super nadagdagan lahat ng pagod ko...pero worth it din kasi malakas naman yung benta and super nakakatulong sa gastusin kay baby...once i was able to adjust sa store and pag may katulong na kami nakuha i'll try to work online naman for additional income...super sacrifice and time management lang talaga...

kudos to SAHM and WAHM...full time mommy..i salute u..
mas madali pa din magwork in terms of stress, pagod kaysa sa mag-alaga ng baby 24/7 dagdag pa alaga ng hubby...
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: ♥εïз ♥ ♏ommy_£eng ♥εïз ♥ on May 24, 2010, 11:55:49 pm
SAHM mom din po ako sis for almost 1year and 2 months and before din na wala pa ako baby ever since na nagpakasal kami ni hubby at umuwi dito sakanila sa province di na ko nakapagwork meron siguro dati sideline lang pero short time lang hinahanap hanap din ng katawan ko magwork kasi mga 4years na din akong jobless pero okay naman di kasi ako pwede magwork as of now seaman kasi si hbby so ako lang ang naiiwan to take care of our son ayoko naman iasa sa in-laws ko gusto ko andyan din ako and malayo ako sa side ko wala pa akong relatives dito pero okay naman at least nakakasurvive naman ako at happy and contented being SAHM.
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: soleil_ilove on May 25, 2010, 12:23:39 am
korek mommy tiny and nuna,im also a SAHM and i cant deny the fact na some people will say bad remarks as baket hindi mag-work?ganito..ganyan.Ako naman since nagka-2nd baby nako i chose not to work na talaga for 3 yrs now.Its hard talaga kaya thankful din ako kay hubby kase he is not pressuring me to work and i thank God na kaya naman ng income niya lahat ng expenses yun nga lang hindi din kame gano maka save up kase sa dami ng loans at bills every month.Naisip ko na ding mag-sideline.online job ganyan kaya lang hindi ko pa din gaano matutukan kase talagang hands on mom din talaga me at super todllers pa ng 2 babies ko,my first born pa nga is going to nursery na this pasukan.Another thing is that super hirap maghanap ngayon ng yaya na magtatagal at mapagkakatiwalaan mo talaga swerte lang yung iba they have their moms or MILs to take care of their kids.On my part kase theyre both far asa province kase and theyre old na rin to take care so hindi ko na rin assume na they can help me take care of the kids.
I truly agree na this job is 24/7,no dayoff,no OT pay etc..but i think i have learned to love it na rin,im just always thinking na lang na not all moms can be like us na nabigyan ng opportunity na maalagaan ang ating mga anak mula pagkabata at habang lumalaki sila nasusubaybayan natin.
Cheers mga fellow SAHM!
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: mia317 on May 25, 2010, 12:43:27 am
i'm a SAHM too. . . hindi pa kase ako nakakabalik sa prepregnancy weight ko kaya hindi pa ako makaraket ulit. okay lang yung work ko kase usually weekends lang siya hindi nga lang permanent. minsan wala. namimiss ko na nga rin magwork eh. pero masgusto ko makita si baby everyday.

ano work mo mommy.. hope you dont mind me asking... ng hahanap din kasi ako ng ganyan ng light yung required an pasok para I have time for my baby

hi  :)  modelling mommy, hindi print ad or ramp ah haha. . . hindi ko pa nareach yung level na yun. parang promodizer din masmalaki lang TF. 
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: prettyw!tch on May 25, 2010, 03:30:50 am
hello mommies! I love this thread, count me in, SAHM din ako for almost a year now though two years na ko jobless. I resigned since we want to have baby already and i must say i didn't regret my decisions at all. I had a miscarriage the first time, so ingat kami on the second baby, and now tutok naman sa pagaalaga. Sinabi nyo pa, 24/7, kakapagod talaga, test of  patience talaga, especially etong little boy ko, everything on his crib, he throws, all his toys are in the floor.  Minsan nga gusto ko na din magday off, or magparlor hehe. I just miss yung time na yun and of course intellectual conversation.

I enjoy every moment of being a SAHM. Its our second chance of being child again, ngayon ko nga lang nadiscover yung ibat ibang songs pambata kakatuwa lang :)

Goodluck fellow SAHM's!
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: ilovegabe on May 25, 2010, 06:07:50 am
Same topic threads merged.
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: jareds_m0m on June 15, 2010, 03:27:25 am
hello mommies! I love this thread, count me in, SAHM din ako for almost a year now though two years na ko jobless. I resigned since we want to have baby already and i must say i didn't regret my decisions at all. I had a miscarriage the first time, so ingat kami on the second baby, and now tutok naman sa pagaalaga. Sinabi nyo pa, 24/7, kakapagod talaga, test of  patience talaga, especially etong little boy ko, everything on his crib, he throws, all his toys are in the floor.  Minsan nga gusto ko na din magday off, or magparlor hehe. I just miss yung time na yun and of course intellectual conversation.

I enjoy every moment of being a SAHM. Its our second chance of being child again, ngayon ko nga lang nadiscover yung ibat ibang songs pambata kakatuwa lang :)

Goodluck fellow SAHM's!

i totally agree, love this thread..
i am also a SAHM pero one month pa lang,  i was planning to quit my job since preggie pa lang ako and thankfully i was able to do so..
don't have means of earning here at home but ill be trying some of the onlinejobs SP moms suggested hopefully i might stumble into something lucrative.haha!
so far i have no regrets, being with my son 24/7 is just totally priceless!now i can watch him grow before my very eyes unlike when i was still working, magugulat na lang ako sa mga developments/milestones niya kasi nga i don't have enough time for him..now my son has my full attention, he's my boss now :D
sobrang challenging maging mommy, at mas stressful compared s isang formal job but at the end of the day when your son smiles at you before he sleeps or reaches out to you in his sleep habang ikaw di makatulog kasi you want to watch him sleeping..its heaven..wouldn't trade it for the world..

to all of us SAHMs cheers!! ;)
Title: Re: stay at home moms
Post by: celganda on June 16, 2010, 05:44:21 pm
Add ko lang ha. I dont know if meron senyo naka experience nito. Sometimes kasi other people think na pag SAHM ay tamad o pasarap sa buhay. Ako kase naexperience ko to. Na kulang nalang sabihin sakin na 'hoy magtrabaho ka' or ipamuka sakin na wala nako narating dahil SAHM ako. Nakakainis, kase they dont know anything naman. Ayoko nalang din patulan. Para sakin, as long as OK kami ni hubby sa ganito.. hanggat kaya pa, basta hindi ko napapabayaan ang anak at asawa ko.. wala nako pakelam sa sinasabi nila.  ;)
mommy nuna,
ganon? di lang nila alam na sa totoo lang maraming ginagawa ang mga SAHM. naging ganyan sa ken dati ang mommy ko. sinasagot ko sha na at least ako mismo ang nagpapalaki sa anak ko at hindi lang katulong. sha kasi working her whole life kaya di sha maka-relate. isipin mo na lang na wala silang alam na ibang life kundi ang career or working life kaya sila ganon. basta ang importante naalagaan mo ng husto ang iyong sarili at family.  ;)
Title: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman? (No ads pls.)
Post by: syndyela on June 28, 2010, 09:46:00 pm
For mommies out there, is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman, o pinag-usapan nyo ba yun ng hubby nyo, or napilitan lang kayo?
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: tiny_little_mom on June 28, 2010, 10:05:13 pm
If I had a choice, I'd be working right now. Pero wala akong choice dahil walang mag-aalaga kay baby. So since I have the chance to be SAHM right now, I'm loving every moment I get to spend with my son. Alam ko naman na sooner or later I'll have to work again so I can ensure a bright future for him.
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: ♥_caramel_♥ on June 28, 2010, 10:20:10 pm
ako nagwowork na ko nung nabuntis ako kaya gora pa rin po sa work ko ,. i am supporting my mom who's taking care of my baby eh, yung hubby ko naman eh walang work as in uyng family business lang ang ikinabubuhay niya hehe kaya kayod to the max for my son and for my family (mom and brother)  8) ,., ok lang , masaya din akong napapasaya ko mom ko kasi ang laki ng hirap niya tapos nabuntis ako, but good thing ok na lahat  ;) ,. tsaka ayoko din naman po na matagal nakatengga sa bahay kasi sayang ang pinag-aralan ko ,.  ;D
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: soleil_ilove on June 28, 2010, 11:11:04 pm
At first it was not a choice to be a SAHM,need ko lang resign nung first baby ko because i had a difficult pregnancy then after a while ive worked again and then i got pregnant with my second baby so i resigned again dahil maselan ako magbuntis this time i decided na to be a SAHM.At first it was not easy kase sayang pinagaralan tapos andun ka lang sa bahay,i must admit there was a time na parang ayoko na especially nung maliit pa babies ko as in naiiyak na ako pero as time passed,tama si sis tiny little mom na you will learn to enjoy it din pala especially when you see your kids grow up to be healthy and happy.It is a nice feeling na you see yourself in them and you tell yourself na there is a big part of you in them.Until now im still amazed how I ever took care of them and now I see them growing up before my eyes.Just so thankful im given this privilege of being a SAHM,a role ill never trade to anything in this world. :) :) :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: celganda on June 28, 2010, 11:25:00 pm
Hi Mommy, choice ko to be a SAHM. I was offered a part-time job before and that meant I had to look for a caregiver for my baby. I felt anxious about it. My hubby and I had a talk about whether or not I should take the job. I just decided to continue being a SAHM. I thought that it wasn't worth is to leave my son to strangers just for the little bit of extra income that I'll be taking home. I also felt sad knowing that I won't really be with my son as much as I want to if I was also working. And that in essense, I won't be raising him anymore if he will be spending a LOT of his time with someone else. ;) Sana kung doble pa sa kinikita ng asawa ko ang kikitain ko, baka tinuloy ko na lang ang work. Napag isip isipan ko din na minsan lang naman magiging ganito kaliit ang anak ko kaya lulubusin ko na habang may pagkakataon naman na makasama ko sha full time. Yang work naman pwede uli applyan pag malaki na si baby.  :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: Mommy France on June 29, 2010, 09:55:59 am
It was a mutual decision for I to stay working.
We felt kasi na i needed to stay working because kakasimula ng family and it would be better for the family to have 2 income generating members - than just one.

Although na-fe-feel ko na rin yung need to stay home and just work there pero hindi pa talaga kaya.

Decision making comes from the both of us talaga. para walang sisihan. :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: mamacyd on June 29, 2010, 11:51:30 am
its my choice to be a full time working mom. kasi mahirap buhay ngayon kung isa lang magttrabaho samin with all the expenses we incur every month. but if a had another choice.. i want to be a WAHM. wala lang talaga ko maisip na sideline na ok ngayon kaya tiis2 muna sa office work.  :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: insensitive on June 29, 2010, 11:56:53 am
its my choice...because i have no choice pala haha.walang work si hubby and since wala namang yaya napagusapan namin na sya muna alaga until mag 1year old si baby, and good news sabi ng mother ko sya daw alaga kay baby starting september pra mkapagwork na let si hubby..ayun po :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: kidsrepublik on June 29, 2010, 01:37:13 pm
Gusto ko maging SAHM, from the time I got pregnant. But I decided to stay since ok naman promotion ko and self development na ren having my career. I'm blessed having my Mom coz she takes care our baby. Hatid sundo namen siya ni hubby sa house ng parents ko.
If I choose to be a SAHM or not, future pa ren ng family ko nakasalalay. One way or the other kelangan ng sacrifices, I just have to choose what's best for us. I know my baby is in good hands while kami ni hubby naman tulungan in building our dreams.  :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: mommameya on June 29, 2010, 07:18:31 pm
hi mommies! I used to work and dreamt of being a working mom. But when my daughter was 10 month old her yaya didn't go back from her day off so i have no choice but resign nalang. From then, with my husbands joy of seeing our daughter beeing taken care well by me, my joy and having peace of mind while staying home w/ our daughter and not working made us decide that i'll be a SAHM. I often felt useless for not having to help financially but i then realized that it's like choosing between my own income versus being there for our daughter. It'll break my heart not to see her developments and her firsts. So far, for more than 2 years of being a SAHM, i love it coz i get to take care of my princess and my husband. It's really priceless!
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: syndyela on June 29, 2010, 08:59:03 pm
Hi mommies! It's facinating to know that mommies have different choices and views on motherhood.  Because of this, I added a poll on this thread, please have time to vote nalang po on it.  Thanks! :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: mariann on June 30, 2010, 09:47:46 am
if given a chance, i would rather be a stay-at-home working mom.  but since i have long been an employee of the company where i've been working and the benefits are great, i decided to keep my job.

here are the reasons i chose to be a career woman:
1.  hubby's a practicing lawyer. with his kind of personality (short-tempered and grumpy) plus stressful job, i may never know 3 or 5 or 10 years from now if he'd still be this healthy.  so for financial security reasons, i decided to keep on working.

2.  for self-actualization.  what's the use of studying hard if i'm not going to put it into practice?

3.  i get to buy what i need and what i want (without having to ask from hubby).  though i don't spend anything for the household needs, i still pitch in some projects for the house.  and i get to buy expensive educational toys for the kids.

with the scarcity and low quality of yayas and helpers, it's hard to get by but somehow we've managed.  i trained my daughters early enough to be independent.  at age 3, they don't need a yaya, just someone who will supervise their diet and assist them on their needs.
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: keih liwanag on June 30, 2010, 09:49:55 am
yes, it's my choice to be a career woman. someday soon perhaps, baka mag-iba na decision ko and will choose to stay at home narin.
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: syndyela on June 30, 2010, 11:27:03 am
I'm a career woman right now...and it's 70% not my idea to be in a corporate world again.  I think I'm not really made for corporate culture kasi more than 5 years na akong nagwowork, pero stuck pa rin ako in rank and file level...kasi hindi ako sipsip, hindi malakas ang personality ko.  Masyado kong mabait for a corporate world.  Kaya iniisip ko nalang mas gusto ko sa house nalang ako or create my own business wherein I can be my own boss.

But right now I'm still working because it's what my husband likes...it's what my family and my husband's family likes me to be---  corporate person.  Hindi lang nila talaga maintindihan na my personality does not fit the mala-survivor (minsan dirty tactics talaga) world of corporate.  My values does not align with it.

Siguro kapag makapag-ipon ipon ako ng konti from my bonuses, I'll retire na as career woman...siguro pag mag-30 na ako. :D
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: iyatedi on June 30, 2010, 02:16:42 pm
If i have a choice, i choose to be a SAHM..mas may satisfaction for me ang maging nanay sa anak ko than a career..when i had a miscarriage, for a while naging SAHM ako..kaso umaaray si hubby sa expenses coz we have a house amortization to pay..kaya back to work uli..kaya ngayon todo kayod to pay off our debts..para mas mabilis din makaipon..have at least a passive income..para makapagretire ng mas maaga
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: ravenwillis27 on September 07, 2010, 09:54:45 pm
it's my choice to be a stay at home mom again.. i was in the corporate world for almost 6 years, then i got pregnant.  I had a difficult pregnancy that's why I resigned.  After my baby turned 1 year old, I started looking for a job again.  I tried a different route, the call center industry, kasi ayoko na ng tambak na trabaho at never ending meetings! :-\ I settled for a lower position, sabi ko basta gusto ko 8 hours lang of my day ang nasa office ako.  After a year, we decided to enroll my kid sa toddler school kaya nagresign na ko ulit.   kasi i think he will need all the guidance that he can get.  At the same time, I was diagnosed with PCOS kaya parang rest na rin in preparation of trying to get pregnant for the 2nd time. :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: on September 08, 2010, 12:14:52 am
Me too, I am a career woman, kaso when I reached my 4th month of pregnancy, I had to stop kasi thrice na ako nag spotting. I am used to working that staying at home waiting for my delivery was so maddening. Napag usapan naman namin ni hubby ito (pero kakalungkot pa rin pala hehe) besides takot talaga ako sa yaya. I had a very bad experience for yayas eh. Now that I am an SAHM, I realized how worthy it is to give up your career, to take care of your baby and your husband, watch her grow everyday and feel like a superwoman kahit pagod na pagod kana  ;D

Although I miss my work, the nightlife and friends' gala moments, I know one day magagawa ko rin yung gumala uli kasama na ng pamilya ko. I'm so excited to have a kikay moment with my daughter one day. Especially yung mga pictures and scarpbooking ko ay puro gala na naming 3  ;D ;D

So, YES! IT'S MY CHOICE TO BE AN SAHM!! And proud of it  ;D
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: leilatoto on September 08, 2010, 12:21:21 am
eversince we got married ni hubby he ask me not to work anymore and just stay home daw para daw mabilis ako mabuntis, but then medyo natagalan pa rin..at those times im enjoying pa rin kahit wala kami baby, just to serve my husband, asikasuhin yung damit niya, ipagluto sya and everything, im happy with it, especially when i see him happy also..now with our baby, im still not working and spending every minutes sa mag ama ko and mas enjoy ako ngayon..
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: anhing on September 08, 2010, 01:26:56 am
i'm a career woman by choice. i cant imagine myself not working, parang nanghihina aku. i miss the stressful environment in the office. and yung feeling na after a tough day in the office, you go home and this little angel sweeps off all your pagod with her cute smile and a sweet kiss! heaven!  ;)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: prettyw!tch on September 08, 2010, 07:15:37 pm
It's a mutual decision for me to stay home. When we got married, im still working till i got pregnant but then i had a miscarriage. I'm so stressed then,  we decided for me to stop working so i can easily conceive again. Luckily, we had our little boy na, and from then, i love being a stay home mommy.  Mahirap at mapagod talaga, especially kami lang ni hubby, even right after giving birth kami lang talaga, from day one till now hands on kami.  And its all worth it. Its true that i wouldn't trade for anything every moment with our son. Im so amazed how he easily grows and we're loving it.

Though sometimes, i think of work, i guess what i miss most is the intellectual conversation with my girlfriends and more but thanks to internet, im able to keep in touch with them.

Each day im trying to be the best mom i can be. :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: nixmusic on September 08, 2010, 07:27:32 pm
I'm pregnant with our first baby right now and I can say that I'm a career woman by choice. Like anhing, I also can't imagine myself not working in an office environment. I plan to get household help pag nakaML na ko as I need to train the nanny how I want my baby to be handled pag bumalik na ko sa work. Hindi rin kasi ako sanay ng umaasa sa sweldo ni hubby, sanay akong may sarili kong money palagi :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: MommyPhie on September 08, 2010, 10:05:59 pm
It's my choice to a SAHM, after working for almost 9 years, sabi ko sa sarili ko pag may family na ako, I will stop working and will just take care of my hubby and kids :)
 
I am happy kasi I have all the chances na makita development and progress ng mga anak ako, lahat ng "first" nila ako mismo ang nakasaksi. Kahit may physical stress ok lang, kiss ng mga babies wala na pagod ni mommy.
 
It's been 3 years now na SAHM ako and masaya pa rin ako as it is, pero at the back of my mind gusto ko pa rin mag work, not because boring mag-stay sa bahay at mag-alaga ng mga anak kundi, may gusto pa kasi akong ma-achieve para sa sarili ko, lalo na I wasn't able to reach the peak of my career. So siguro pag pwede ko na ipagkatiwala mga anak ko sa ibang tao, I will go back to corporate world :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: sweetlorry on September 09, 2010, 01:17:12 am
Im a SAHM by choice. at first ayaw ni hubby kc nga sa dami ng expenses. pero ngpumilit ako kc sa dami ng worlkoad namin sa dept where i belong pg dating sa bahay me uwi pa akong work. naisip ko kung ganito pa din kahit me baby na ako kawawa naman yung baby ko. ok lang yun before nung single pa ako. and isa din yun sa lagi naming issue ni hubby. same company kami but diff department. somehow d niya maiintindihan bat ganun kadami ang work sa dept namin. project base kc kami at lagi ng hahabol ng deadline. :( kaya yun after just barely 3 yrs in the corporate world after graduating from college i decide to be a full time mom.

one more reason is la ako mapg-iiwanan ke baby. yoko naman kc na iwan lang sya sa yaya. la na din kc parents hi hubby. mother ko naman working pa that time. kaya pgkatapos na ML ko pg balik ko ng office ng file na ako ng resignation. ;D

medyo mahirap nga lang pg isa lang ng wo-work. sobrang tight ng budget. pero kahit papano nakaksave naman kc d na kailangan bumili ng milk formula, purely mothers milk na lang. ;D

minsan nakakamiss din ang mg work. kaya lang isipin ko pa lang na iwanan baby ko sa isang buong araw parang d ko na kaya. pg maganda business sa dati kung office and marami project i get to work as freelance. kaya lang walang kasiguraduha kung kelan mgkakaroon ng project. pero ok na rin that way d ko masyado mamimiss ang corporate world at the same time d ako burnt out kc d ko kailnangan pumasok sa office 8 hrs per day 5 time a week.
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: cowgirl_mommy on September 24, 2010, 02:43:09 pm
i am a SAHM. it's also by choice. but mostly, my husband's choice.

i was starting to make my way up the corporate ladder soon after i graduated from college. i was working as a project coordinator in manila before, and by my local and foriegn bosses' appraisal i showed a lot of potential. then i got pregnant. hubby leaves in the province, so he asked me to resign and pack my bags to go to his province so he can take care of me and our baby. i consented and thought too, that this would be the best for our family. if i didn't resign, i think i would be asked to leave anyway since i am not married to hubby. it was the company policy. and given the hectic schedule and the traveling to project sites my work entails, it would be so hard to take care of the baby at the same time.

as fate would have it, six months after our daughter was born we found out i was pregnant again. i just gave birth last August 30. i am happy and proud to be a mother of two lovely daughters and at the same time to take care of my hubby, but the financial burden of raising two kids plus the allowance we send to my hubby's daughter by his ex-wife, is just too much. i get crazy worrying how we will make ends meet and budgeting my honey's meager income.

i want to work again, even just part time so we can have a breathing room with our finances. besides, i miss working and to have intelligent conversations with grown-ups and to further my self-development. and i guess what stirs this feeling of uneasiness for me is the fact that i moved to a place where i barely know anyone except my hubby's family and friends. i miss my co workers and friends and the hustle and bustle of life in manila.

i thought of becoming a work-at-home mom but i don't know how to start nor do i have special talents like baking. but i am trying and will continue to try to figure out how i can work and still take care of my babies hands on.

Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: mummyness on September 24, 2010, 03:35:22 pm
Im a WAHM. worked in the corporate world for 3 years then we were blessed with our baby girl. after 4 months of giving birth, went back to work till she was almost 2 years old. but last feb, got preggy again so we decided na enough na. i have to stay at home. it was not an easy choice. i was doing good in my career, earning good money and was just making my way up and i felt a bit sad when i had to resign. but after a few days palang with my daughter, nasabi ko sa sarili ko na ang dami2 ko na miss out sa ilang months ko ng pagwowork. but luckily i can make up for it. so now, we're closer than ever. i was able to let yaya go na. since kaya ko naman gawin lahat and next month due to give birth nako with our son. :) i realized that no amount of money or prestige can make me leave my kids and my hubby. :) i work at home now, and i'm absolutely happy. :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: ❤Xian&Mam ❤ on September 27, 2010, 02:45:52 am
its my choice...because i have no choice pala haha.
ayaw ni hubby maiwan kami sa pinas e,
visa ko dependent,kaya di talaga pwede magwork,
lalo ngayun may baby na kami,
lalo di na talaga pwede kailangan
ko tutukan pagbabantay kay baby e.
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: mommy_of_2 on September 27, 2010, 07:19:28 am
I'm a career woman by choice. After I gave birth with my firstborn, hubby doesn't want me to work yet pero ang hirap magbudget lalo na't you're just dependent on someone else kaya nagdecide akong magwork. I had been in the callcenter industry for 2 years (during those times I got pregnant with my second one) though sometimes I got really torn with my decision of leaving my kids at home with the yaya and all, but I guess di rin namin kakayanin kung isa lang ang magwork lalo na naging 2 na ang kids namin. Luckily, after 2 years of hardwork I got my visa, and I'm here abroad (though I'm not with my family pa) but still working my as* off, hopefully after 2-3 years from now my family will be with me na and  this time I want to be a stay at home na if the budget permits, ang dami ko na din kasing na-miss sa mga kids ko.. :(
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: addicted2jakey on September 27, 2010, 09:31:39 pm
I'm a career woman by choice. eversince i graduated from college, i start working na, and still when we got married. Now, I'm in a govt institution so I like my work now, hindi ako masyado toxic unllike nun nasa private ako, still ok ang sweldo ko (compare to my previous company) and the benefits, magugulat k nalang may ddating ka pera hehe.. it's a choice I choose for my self, mhrap yung walang sariling pera and nkadepend kay hubby (POV ko lang).. at least now i could buy what i want to my baby, myself and my husband without any pagtutol from anyone.. hinahayaan lang ako ni hubby ko, kc kahit kaya niya kame support iba pa din yung may extra diba.. now, we have our own business, nakapagstart na kami, and our parents are so proud of us - we've been married for more than a yr palang pero we have our own accomplishments na as husband and wife - because of hardwork.. we have new business that we manage now, a new car for us (well, mostly because of need in our business), 2 house we maintain (not in full naman), we have a house too (i have no siblings so house n naman tong house ng parents ko)... Just thank God for all the blessings..
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: shadraniaj on October 01, 2010, 04:56:01 pm
Ako, I have no choice..hehe  ;D Wala kasi mag-aalaga sa baby ko kaya dito lang muna ako sa bahay. Pero kahit SAHM ako meron pa rin naman ako income, nagp-payroll ako every week for the employees of my SIL. :) Hawak ko oras ko and naalagaan ko pa ng maayos baby ko. :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: joluessi on October 01, 2010, 05:07:34 pm
I'm currently working.. But given a choice, I would love to be a work-at-home mom nalang.. I want to spend my time with my growing baby boy.. At the same time, may income pa din to share with the expenses..
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: Nunal on October 01, 2010, 05:42:22 pm
Career woman by choice.. madali kasi ako ma bore and i cant even imagine myself doing nothing the whole day. Gusto ko lagi busy, nag iisip ng work, stress and other stuff. but if given the chance i would like also to be WAHM.
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: ondi on October 01, 2010, 07:08:29 pm
pwede bang i don't have a choice? like ShadRaniaj, wala ding magbabantay sa bata. halos two years na akong di nagtuturo. kaya medyo namimiss ko na magwork.

like mommy zhel, madali akong mabagot. kahit sabihing naglalaro kami ni baby, naiinip pa din ako. naalala ko pa yun unang post ko dito sa sp, i asked for help:

http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parentchat/index.php?topic=19062.0

sana sa june 2011 makapagturo ulit. miss ko na din mga preschoolers  :)

Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: prettyann on October 20, 2010, 06:08:25 pm
SAHM here. Not my choice but i have to because there's no one to look for my son at home while me and hubby are at work e. Sila lang kasi ni yaya maiiwan sa house kapag nagwork pko. Di approve kay hubby maiwan si baby mag isa kay yaya. But anyways, i'm enjoying every minute of the day with my son and i get to continue breastfeeding him. ;)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: moonriver on January 23, 2011, 11:46:06 pm
career woman
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: toughmom moderator on July 11, 2011, 12:11:54 am
a must read for SAHMs
A Day in the Life of a Stay-at-Home Mom

A working mom shares her musings on the rewards of being a stay-at-home-mom.
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Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: tangytomato on July 14, 2011, 11:45:29 am
Haha after more than two years, I've stumbled upon this thread which I have started.

I became a work-at-home mom doing oDesk jobs, part-time consultation in my previous company and some online selling.

I am going to end my 2-year "maternity leave" this July as I am going back to regular employment.

What can I say about being a WAHM? It was worth it and I am sure going to miss it. Being able to hug and kiss your child any time of the day is PRICELESS. It's worth sacrificing my career for. But I know that I have to prepare for my children's future (I gave birth to another boy within that 2-year self-imposed "maternity leave"). We've just added another member to our family and I need to help my husband to establish financial stability for our family.

I can say that I'm so happy that I took a couple of years off to stay at home. Definitely worth it.
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: swtgrl_bee on July 14, 2011, 10:37:44 pm
^hi sis congrats sa new baby :) anyways I'm a SAHM for 4 months and counting trying to be a WAHM so help me God. sis ask ko lang bakit ka bumalik sa corporate world? hindi ba kaya sustain ng odesk pay? kasi sis sa oDesk din ako naghahanap ng work. I'm giving myself until end of July na kapag kahit part time walang kumuha sakin, balik BPO na talaga ako. haaaaay!
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: tangytomato on July 15, 2011, 12:08:55 am
@swtgrl_bee - thanks  ;D i'm going back to work kasi i'm having slight panic attacks. i'm 27 now and i'm fast approaching 30, naisip ko i might have a hard time finding a job by then. alam mo naman dito sa pilipinas may age discrimination. just go to jobstreet and you'll find job postings with age limit (candidate must not be more than __ years old). although in other countries bawal yon, pero dito if you reach a certain age mahirap na maghanap ulit ng work.  :(

and i missed working din, yun bang aalis ako for work then i will miss the house. kasi since work-at-home ako, maghapon ako sa bahay. i also miss dressing-up for work hehe. feeling ko din kasi nalolosyang na ako. it might sound selfish but i guess i want to have a sense of accomplishment sa career (i used to work in advertising and market research). pero super worth it talaga yung nag stay ako to take care of my kids. wala na yatang mas masaya pa na kasama mo maghapon yung baby mo, tapos you have time to teach him things.

aside from the self-accomplishment factor na-guilty din ako as a daughter hehe. ang mahal ng tuition ko nung college, gusto ko din naman ipakita sa dad ko na i can achieve things using my education. syempre di ba pride din ng parents na makita na may accomplishment ang anak? he did not impose it, na-guilty lang din ako na hindi ko ginagamit yung napag-aralan ko.  :) na hindi naman nasayang ang pinaghirapan niya.

regarding the odesk pay, nung una ok sya kasi konti palang ang nakaka-alam. ngayon pag sinabi kong  nag-odesk ako lahat nag tatanong kung pano, e hindi ko naman masagot kasi lately wala na din masyadong available work sa dami ng competition. :) i offer services for Apple iWork software na hindi masyadong madami ang competition, matumal pa rin ang jobs. lalo na yung mga virtual assistant na bagsakan din ng presyo kasi nga madami ding competition. so bottom line (i am speaking for myself lang ha), hindi kaya i-sustain ng odesk alone, pang sideline lang talaga sya.

pero in my experience, ok lang na reason yung "taking care of kids full-time" as reason for a gap in your resume. sa mga interview na napuntahan ko, so far ok naman yung reaction nila, valid naman na reason yon for putting your career on hold. HINDI KA NAMAN BUM OR TAMAD lang, nag-aalaga ka naman ng anak mo ano!  :)
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: imeego on July 15, 2011, 12:52:41 am
sahm din ako for 11 months now, quit my job 2 months before i gave birth)...last week of may may tumawag kay hubby asking kung gusto ko na daw ba mag-work, actually di naman ako nag-aapply for a job but i agreed to have a meeting with the employer/boss, the job they were offering was magaan lang actually, 1 hour only but with the preparation sa pagpasok and travel time, it will take up almost half of the day,  but then nag-commit ako na mag-start ng june, then nadelay ng nadelay because of various reasons (but actually i was having second thoughts at that time), then nagpasabi ako na ill start on july na lang....1 day before,  i backed out, told my husband na di ko pala kayang iwan si baby sa yaya, naiiyak na ako maisip pa lang na di na ako ang magpapadede sa kanya at maghehele kahit half day lang ako mawawala...yes nakakahinayang yung education, tuition fee ko dati and all, but my priorities changed totally nung dumating si baby...i may not be earning my own money now, but just taking care of my son and be able to witness his every milestone is so priceless....thankful lang ako to have a husband na sobrang understanding, sya pa nag-explain sa employer since nahiya na ako magpakita, although sobrang bait naman at nagsabi pa na if ever gusto ko na pumasok, they will accept me anytime :)...
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: swtgrl_bee on July 15, 2011, 01:09:56 am
sis tangytomato thanks sa reply, actually ako din 4 months palang akong SAHM parang namimiss ko na din mag dress up for work ;) kapag tinitignan ko yung mga shoes ko parang tinatawag nila ako. Grabe nga competition sa oDesk ngayon, hindi pa ako makapasok kahit bagsak presyo na per hour ko. Pero still enjoying being a SAHM pa ako. Sis goodluck sa new work mo :)

Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: Mariel Arun on July 15, 2011, 09:18:07 am
I've been a SAHM to a working mom to SAHM and now a WAHM  :)

What can I say? its really harder to be a SAHM than a working mom taking into considerations the level of self-fulfillment that is sacrificed in having to stay home and take care of the family. Nandun na rin cyempre minsan pati ang level of self-confidence ay nate-threaten.

However, if we are to talk of the fulfillment as a wife and a mother it sure encompasses the things a woman loses to sacrifice her dreams, lets say as a career woman. Personally, the joy and warmth of having seen my son accepted his merits for academic excellence overrides the happiness I felt when I had my transfer with promotion, my then so-called dream. The memory of my son's beaming face is enough for me to fill my happiness meter until now.

Being a SAHM, doubles the sacrifice and the effort of actually giving and receiving. Giving in the sense, even our so-called 'ME' time are often negotiated in exchange for those left undone chores, kids' school activities, hubby's requests, etc. And not to mention, the budget we allot to ourselves are often times on the bottom of our list(You'll suddenly realize this when you found out your lipstick has reached the bottom of the tube and you have to use your pinky finger to amass what is left of it  ;D) Remember the old cliche, "Isusubo ko nalang ibibigay ko pa sa iyo!" Ito ang classic example. You wanted to buy something for yourself and you'll end up buying a new pair of rubber shoes your child needs. Para sa ating mga moms non-negotiable ang needs ng mga bata. "Tsaka nalang ang new blouse ko nasa bahay lang naman ako", "Tsaka nalang ang new haircut, itatali ko nalang muna buhok ko" . Sounds familiar ano po?  :D

 Receiving on the other hand, has more emotional notes in it. Hubby forgot your date/ anniversary/birthday. "Walang time sa akin?"  :( Child forgot to kiss you or say thank you, "Di man nagpaalam"  :-[..in short,  our we need to feel appreciated is sometimes overlooked. Yon naman talaga reward and compensation natin, hugs, thanks, kisses.

And so i thought, being a SAHM it requires a great amount of creativity and resourcefulness. We are the ones, who will make our lives more livable on top of all the household chores and  kids' activities. We are required to double our being resourceful to enrich ourselves. Mas maraming requirements ang pagiging SAHM.

Job Requirements/ Competencies:

     *Patient
     *Energetic
     *Hardworking, willing to work overtime, fulltime, part time
     *Multi-tasking
     *Excellent organizational skills
     *Excellent leadership skills
     *Excellent communication skills
     *Trustworthy
     *Can work under pressure
     *Innovative
     *Creative
     *Resourceful
     *Flexible
     *(You may add to this... :))

Anyone who's up for the challenge?, Be a SAHM.




Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: tangytomato on July 15, 2011, 09:45:46 am
@imeego - totoo yan, napaka-bigat ng feeling mag-decide. actually ilang months na ako nag procrastinate pero may magandang opportunity na dumating (dati kong officemate ang magiging boss ko, then super family-friendly yung company). and now that i'm about to start working again nakaka-praning talaga kasi you had your system sa house dati e, magbabago yon. i don't know how my kids will adjust but i hope we'll all manage to get through this adjustment. and yung BREASTFEEDING, korek ka jan, sobrang nakaka-attach talaga and i feel sad na hindi na kasi magkadikit ng baby ko most of the day. hopefully makapag-pump ako sa office. iba talaga pag kasama mo mga anak mo. and don't worry i'm sure you'll be able to find work later on. di ba masarap i-enjoy yang ganyang age, hindi pa sila mabaho sa kaka-laro sa labas, hindi pa amoy araw hahaha. super sarap yakapin at halikan all day.

@swtgrl_bee - thanks, grabe nga rin ako maka-pag browse ng femalenetwork at nagd-drool sa mga sapatos and other things hehe. ang ginawa ko para ma-curb yung urge ko to buy, nag-lista ako hehe. sabi nga ni MaritheMom, "Isusubo ko nalang ibibigay ko pa sa iyo!" haha. pero wala tayong magagawa anak natin yang mga yan, matitiis mo ba sila? kaya ang mga pang-sarili ko delayed muna :)

@MaritheMom - totoo yan about self-confidence! i know it's wrong, but you can't help thinking about how other people's career are progressing, lalo na in this age of FACEBOOK! pero come to think of it, dami naiingit sa akin kasi nakapag-WAHM ako. isipin mo, instead of staying at your desk at 2pm you could have been singing the alphabet song with your baby. it's really a privilege pero it also requires a lot from you. if i may add to your list, you also need to be able to deprioritize sleep, lalo na pag may sakit si baby or pag madami pa syang leftover energy at night. hayyyy!!! hahaha yes, totoo yan about haircut and also for spa/massage! minsan i make do with other alternatives, kasi hindi naman talaga necessary e.
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: swtgrl_bee on July 16, 2011, 12:33:23 am
sis MaritheMom tama ka diyan :) ako ang tagal tagal ko ng sinabi sa sarili ko na kapag may extra I'll buy a venti of Mocha Frappe from Starbucks, since sa BPO ako nagwork before nung wala pa si baby halos every other day hala kape dito kape doon. But simula nung dumating na si baby never na :D so almost 2 years na akong hindi nakakainom ng a bit pricey na kape =p Pero kapag dating kay baby all out :) Tipong sasabihin ng ibang tao na bakit ang mahal mahal ng bote ng baby mo eh parepareho lang naman yan :D Iba na kasi talaga priorities kapag mommy na :) Back to the topic, sana maging WAHM na ako. waaaah!

sis tangytomato grabe kasi ngayon sa oDesk, ilan yung nagaapply tapos ilan lang ang kukunin? as in JOBS OPEN 4? tapos yung applicants 200 plus na, woooh! okay lang, still giving myself a lot of time. hehe ;)
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: mommylovesarmil on July 16, 2011, 01:01:09 am
hi join ako SAHM din ako for a year and 8 months now pero will go back na ulit sa work this coming aug.
I enjoyed every bit of it, kasi nga lahat ng milestone and development ni baby andun ako, kaso hubby and I decided na mag work ulit ako since lumalaki na si baby, lumalaki na din mga gastos. kaya yun, kaahit nakaksad isipin ko na alng para kay baby naman yun :)

^swtgrl_bee - same tayo sis, grabe before, all I care about is my things being branded. ngayon na anjan na si baby, halos lahat na lang para sakanya. ganun pala talaga pag mommy na. :)
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: swtgrl_bee on July 18, 2011, 02:44:08 am
^tama sis :) ako din until end of July nalang ang job hunt ko sa oDesk/online jobs after nun back to the real world na ako. haaaaay! need na din kasi ng extra kasi syempre mga babies natin papasok na ng preschool. hehe :D how old na ba baby mo sis my baby's 15months old ;)
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: purple_girl on July 18, 2011, 11:08:55 am
nag SAHM/WAHM ako for a month last month.  buti na lang may mga nakuha akong jobs nung time na yun sa oDesk kasi need din naman namin ni baby ng panggastos namin. this july, i was surprised to receive a call from a multinational company, di naman kasi ako nag-aapply. they gave me an offer that i couldn't resist compensation and benefits wise. i had to be practical din kasi since i'm a single mom and lumalaki din ang gastusin ni baby. ayoko namang iasa sa parents ko ang bills namin, i feel kasi na di tama since my baby baby is my responsibility, not theirs, so i decided to accept the offer. i'm proud to say naman na super hands on pa rin ako kay baby and habol talaga siya sa akin... kailangan lang talaga na mag effort na i-balance out lahat. i make sure na as much as possible ako ang nag aalaga kay baby kahit na super pagod and puyat ako. minsan nga lang inaantok sa work pero carry naman.

inggit ako sa mga SAHM/WAHM kasi talagang nasusubaybayan nila yung kids nila. as much as i want to be one, hindi talaga pwede eh.
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: mommylovesarmil on July 18, 2011, 05:18:14 pm
swtgrl_bee -sis, my baby is 14 months old naman. same naman tayo. sa aug work nko. huhu.
baka mamiss ko si baby :(

Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: swtgrl_bee on July 19, 2011, 12:03:54 am
^dapat sis yung workplace mo isang tumbling lang from your home para mabilis makapasok and makauwi :)
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: mommylovesarmil on July 19, 2011, 09:38:27 am
^ medyo 1 tumbling nga lan from home yung work place ko kaya go na talga ko. hays, if not for my baby. yoko na sana talaga mag work kaso need na eh. dame na gastusin, di na kaya ng si hubby lang nagwwork.
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: swtgrl_bee on July 19, 2011, 07:45:04 pm
^sis good yan, ako sana makahanap din ng work na isang tumbling lang :) goodluck sis :) ang mahal kasi ng preschool nowadays no? grabe
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: betelgeuse on August 25, 2011, 09:10:16 am
I've been weighing things for months now if i'll continue to work or to be sahm. My ils take care of our baby pag sa work kami. I dont want how my mil takes care of her coz yun gusto niya ang nasusunod even we tell her many times how it should be so napaisip na  ko magresign para ako na lang magalaga kay baby but hubby told me na baka mabore daw ako sa bahay. Then i got pregnant with our 2nd baby. Im on bed rest for 2 mos. na so naisip ko dapat na talaga siguro ako magresign. just yesterday i got a call from my manager that my work will be transferred back to US and il be given chance to apply naman to other division of the company. Now, i have made my decision na. God helped me to make it easier to decide. Ang galing talaga ni Lord.
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: momma_33 on August 25, 2011, 09:51:28 am
I'm a career woman this time, it gives me an assurance for the future of my family as well. Besides, being a working mom  somehow gives me an achievement that I will never get by being a housewife ( that's for my POV). But when I gave birth lately to my youngest (10 yrs gap nila ng eldest ko), I feel sad of not being at home, i miss my little baby when I'm at the office, I even drive home just to be with her during lunchbreak even how little time I can spend it with her. There are pro's and cons of bring a working mom, it depends in every family how to decide for it.
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: mommyayie on August 25, 2011, 10:31:17 am
Well, If only I have a choice, I’d rather be a SAHM than spend my whole day in the office. It’s my dream to take care of my baby and hubby, supervising the house, serving them, household chores, 24/7… I’d love to be w/ my baby all the time. I haven’t experience yet to be a SAHM because since I got pregnant, I never stopped working. Since my hubby doesn’t have a job now, I don’t have a choice. But when the time comes that my hubby is earning well, or has an opportunity abroad w/ a pay that could support us, I’ll retire and just have a business at home w/ my child…
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: LLLA on September 03, 2011, 09:48:50 pm
It's my choice to be career woman.. I know how important it is to take care of your child.. Saludo ako sa mga SAHMS.. nut in my case.. I want to stailize our finances kaya i chose to work  ;)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: Momi ni Gab&Migs on September 08, 2011, 10:21:11 pm
Since march 2011, SAHM ako having been 3 months pregnant with our 2nd baby. I decided to resign from my job since my 1st child is going to school already last june. I've been also a SAHM during my 1st child's first  1.5 years before working again. With hubby working abroad and no immediate relatives to take care of my kids, i dont have a choice but to be a SAHM. i do miss having a work, earning your own money and achieving something for yourself. Sometimes  low self esteem creeps in when even the ones closest to you cannot appreciate the sacrifices you are doing for your kids. :( So after recovery, I plan to look for a home-based job and be a WAHM to suffice my needs as a mother, wife  and a woman. Nevertheless, i wouldnt trade for anything all the times I am and will be spending with my kids.  :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: khaki_e on September 20, 2011, 01:39:50 pm
SAHM ako after giving birth to my second child.. i have a 2nd grader daughter, 1 1/2 year old son and a newborn son (exclusive breastfeeding)..I'm the only one who can take good care of them.. may be 1 year or two i'll be back to work.. Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs.. since the payment is pure love. i also  salute all career woman with kids, their sacrifices, it takes a lot of courage to leave your kids at home with their nannies...
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: chester on September 20, 2011, 01:43:31 pm
me and my hubby both agreed na magwork ako.  :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: kissablesam on September 20, 2011, 03:15:32 pm
Hi Mommies, I don't know what SAHM mean's but I'd like to be one. I am working mom, hays! I have no choice but to ensure the future of my daughter. If life will be good in the near future, I would rather be SAHM.. serving my family and enjoying the quality times with them!
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: khaki_e on September 23, 2011, 05:28:42 pm
sis kissablesam SAHM = Stay At Home Mom
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: apple11 on September 23, 2011, 09:36:02 pm
That was my question when I gave birth to my 1st baby. Especially CS operation ako kaya I had 78 days with him. Breastfeeding pa ako that time kaya it's really hard to decide. We talk about it, gusto ni hubby SAHM na lang ako kasi maganda naman kita ng business namin. I also consulted my parent. In the end I decided to continue being a career woman. Total nakasupport naman parents ko sa pagbabantay kay baby. Kumuha lang ako ng maid para may makatulong mother ko pero si mother ang full time kay baby kaya di ako worried. Tsaka madalas ako call sa house at monday to friday lang naman work ko. Si hubby naman anytime pwede magstay sa house. Sa 2nd baby ko nagiisip na naman ako kung magreresign ako kasi masyado malambing baby ko, ayaw sa bottle magmilk kaya umiiyak talaga ako. Pero nasanay din sya magmilk sa bottle. After ilang years nasabi ko sa sarili ko na ok naging decision ko kasi ang hirap ng buhay ngayon at bagsak business. Iba pa din ang may monthly salary. Lalo na ngayon na preggy ako at malapit na manganak.  :). 3rd CS operation ko na kaya masyado magastos. Ngayon pinagsasabay ko work sa office at sariling business ko. Need to work hard for our going to 3 kids. I'm happy naman kasi nabibigay namin needs nila emotionally at financially. Full time kasi kami sa kanila everynight at every weekends... :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: curlysue on September 25, 2011, 09:12:39 am
SAHM advantage/s:
Mas tipid kasi pwedeng wag na kumuha ng yaya for your baby. If you can cook and do other household chores mas lalong tipid kung pati helper hindi kn din kukuha

Maaalagaan mo si baby sa paraang gusto mo. Kasi with yaya kahit nagbibilin ka on what to do in the end sya padin ang nasusunod kung pano niya aalagaan si baby based on her own capabilities. depende pag mas matanda pa sayo yung yaya hindi yan makikinig kasi feeling nila they know better. Kapag medyo hindi maganda ang educational background which is usually the case, walang masyadong maimpart na knowledge sa bata. Pag kamaganak mo yung nagaalaga winner nga sa concern pero mahirap pagsabihan kasi may hiya factor.

Maganda pag sa bahay lang palagi mo kasama si baby ikaw mismo magaalaga.  Kasi minsan nakakasama ng loob minsan uuwi ka from work tulog na baby at aalis ka umaga tulog padin. Lalong badtrip kung mas close pa sya sa yaya kesa sayo parang hindi ka kilala pag dumadating ka from work agaw pumasok sa kwarto with you para matulog kasi si yaya ang gustong katabi. 

Shempre magkakaron ka rin ng time in taking care of your hubby's needs.

SAHM disadvantage/s:
May tendency kang mabore lalo kung sanay ka sa office 

Kung hindi malakas kumita si hubby, may tendency kang mdepress kasi since si hubby lang ang nagwowork kailangan ng matinding pagbubudget. e kung alam mo na you have earning capacity naman more so kung tapos ka naman ng pagaaral, parang nakakalungkot isipin na pati pambili ng shampoo mo ihihingi mo pa sa hubby mo. Sad too if you know you deserve a long champ than a divisoria bag or a full body massage with scrub at a spa than a masahe sa bulag.

May tendency kang malosyang kasi nakakatamad na magayos kapag alam mong sa bahay ka lang naman.

Limited yung capacity mo to help other people specially your family. Hindi kasi maiwasan sa culture nating mga pinoy na yung kapatid or pamangkin mo hihingi ng tulong sayo. Kahit hubby mo at kahit pa sabihin super generous sya parang nakakahiya pdin  hingiin sa kanya yung needs ng family mo kasi alam mo pinaghirapan niya kitain yun for you and your kids tapos he will work harder for others na kung tutuusin hindi nyo naman na obligation.

Lastly, if the marriage didnt work out well and you want to quit mahirap coz you know you dont have money to go on your own. Ang drama mo ngayon magtiis ng bonggang bongga.

As for me? Sana freelancer ako so i can work on my own time  or may magandang home based job para nandyan lang si baby sa tabi ko.

siguro the story will be different kung sobrang yaman sobrang generous at sobrang bait ng hubby mo and he will just let you sit like a princess.
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: MommyMichell on September 25, 2011, 12:00:09 pm
SAHM (it's been over a year since I resigned) ever since nag-ondoy nawindang ako kasi that time pareho kaming nasa office ni mister tas yung kids nasa byenan ko at walang tao sa bahay namin, low batt cel ko, hindi ko sila macontact, nagtry akong umuwi to find out na lagpas tao na pala yung baha kaya no choice but to go back sa office & dun matulog for 2 days, kaya nag-resign na lang ako, ayoko na ma-experience na may mangyaring bad tas i'm not around to protect my kids, nakakaparanoid, wish ko maging work at home mom na lang ako though malamang magwork na ko ulit by january 2012, maghigh school na son namin & we have a grade schooler din, ang mahal ng tuition & other school expenses, ayaw naman namin sila enroll sa public
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: kaijami on September 26, 2011, 09:38:07 pm
I'm a career woman ever since... ngSAHM lang ako when I was 9months preggy kasi malapit na ako manganak nun taz while naka mat leave ako nghomebased ako..now patapos na yung leave ko I'll be going back to work next month.It's a mutual decision for me and my husband if ano step gagawin ko after i gave birth. Okay yung work at home or stay home mom kc namomonitor ko talaga si baby 24/7 but then I have to think na it's for her own good kasi madameng benefits din akong mkukuha from work like healthcard..etc. and dumadame ang expenses habang nggrogrow ang baby. so narealize namen ni hubby na dapat tulungan para good future and we can buy everything for our little angel.  :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: kissablesam on September 28, 2011, 10:13:32 am
sis kissablesam SAHM = Stay At Home Mom

thanks sis :) hehe tagal ko na nababasa 'to wala naman ako ma-ask kung anong meaning ng SAHM now i know! heheh
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: mandyislove on September 29, 2011, 05:17:34 pm
if I have the choice, mas gusto ko maging SAHM, gusto ko kasi maging hands-on kay baby. Pero after almost 11 months of being a SAHM, eto ulit ako back to work, mahirap kasi na si hubby lang may work, aminado kami na mahirap on our part at mahirap din na iasa sa family namin yung needs namin, although malaki rin ginagastos nila for our baby. Kumbaga ba pinasok namin ito eh, kaya dapat kahit papaano panindigan namin, at kakastart pa lang din kasi namin. Siguro one day if we already have enough savings, we'll put up a business na ako ang maghahandle, at least hindi kasing tagal ako mawawala sa tabi ni baby compared sa office job :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: glamorosa_SP on October 01, 2011, 10:45:28 am
I am a SAHM by choice. Although we have a business, I decided not to work muna and let hubby run it alone.

Like in a corporate world, hindi rin madali maging SAHM at household manager. You have to be organized. It's not true that when you stay at home, walang growth, kasi marami. Yun nga lang the growth is not technical that is relevant to your degree. The growth is more of being a great wife, mother and household leader. Challenging din na ibalance silang tatlo. But everytime I make it, sobrang fulfilling.  :)
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: thirds_mom on October 02, 2011, 11:43:19 pm
hi mommies pa join.. ;)

been SAHM for 4 months actually its a hard decision to make for me kasi talagang ayaw ko iwan work ko pero pag dumarating si husband from a 7 months contract kasi seaman siya dun ko na rerealize di ko sila napag sisilbihan ng anak ko buti nalang sobrang bait ng asawa ko during his stay w/ us siya pa naglalaba for us from work kain tulog at pasok na lang ginagawa ko pero pag time na napag uusapan namin ni hubby yung sitwasyong namin dun niya nilalabas na gusto na talaga niya ko to stays at home kaya eto so far nasa stage pa ko ng boredom & minsan panghihinayang pero pag nakikita ko yung milestones ng baby namin naiisip ko na wala pala kong dapat ikahinayang naghahanap na lang ako ng online jobs para during free time may pagkakakitaan pa din nakaka miss din kumita ng sarili mong pera  ;D ;D
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: toughmom moderator on October 05, 2011, 09:04:53 am
When you’re a mom, there are just a million things you’d like to do for your family. So how do we, busy moms, accomplish the many wonderful ideas we have in our heads?
read on
5 Tips to help Busy Moms be More Productive{/b]
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http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/home-living/homebase/5-tips-to-help-busy-moms-be-more-productive

Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: janapot on October 06, 2011, 03:34:06 pm
hala super need ko din nito..
super busy kasi kami ni hubby..
ako nga super payat na.. kasi minsan kahit kumain di na nagagawa.. kasi kasama ang budget sa usaping nanay.. haha..

mahirap talaga.. kasi sa case namin ni hubby, magigising siya 10am.. so maaga pa lang, gising na ko para asikasuhin si baby.. magligpit ng kalat, magluto..

pag dating ng 1pm aalis na si hubby.. ako na lang kay baby.. kasama ng mga kalat na naiwan si hubby..
tapos si baby and house nanaman..
and 9pm pa balik ni hubby..

wala akong regular routine depende kasi sa mood ng bata..
madalas magkakalat.. gusto makipag laro.. so minsan wala kong time mag ayos ng bahay.. kasi gusto niya play.. haha..
pati sarili ko minsan di ko na maayos.. kawawang nilalang..

pag  tulog lang siya ng hapon.. maximum na yung 3 hours dun.. minimum 1 hour.. o diba hirap magayos ng bahay nun..

as in minsan feeling ko, single ako.. kasi si hubby super busy madalas.. pero naiintindihan ko naman.. kaya lang, sadyang nakakapagod talaga. at nakakastress mommy..

in case na ganun din mangyari sayo mommy, payo ko lang, "patience" and you need to ADAPT it! because we have no choice.. and that is our responsibility as a mother and as a wife..
dont be scared..
and pag di talaga kaya gawin ang mga dapat gawin, huwag ipilit.. and ask for help.. make sure kung magaask kay hubby ng help, in a nice way..

minsan kasi tendency pag sobrang stressed na tayo, we tend to get mad and shout.. ayan ang iwasan mo mommy..

lagi naman may time.. hindi yan nauubos.. basta prioritize ang dapat iprioritize..
goodluck po
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: Mommy France on October 06, 2011, 03:46:55 pm
Nung bago ako sa SP sobrang hirap na hirap ako sa oras....
Pero ngayon medyo kaya na.. may mga palpak pa rin pero at least di na ako super haggard.

Talagang isa sa mga tips eh i-accept na kailangan natin ng tulong.
Either sa kasama sa bahay, sa asawa or sa mga magulang.

Alam ko may super tayong mga mommies pero hindi naman tayo immortal. :D
I simplified my life and let go of the things na nagpapatagal lang sa oras ko.

Si miggy tinuruan kong magbalik ng toys niya sa lagayan. Nung bata siya ginagawa ko for him pero now that he's old enough, kailangan siya na mag-ayos ng gamit niya.
Malaki rin ang naitutulong ng maliit na bahay. Habang nag-aayos ako ng gamit, hindi kalayuan ang anak ko. So nakakakilos ako nang hindi siya totally ininiiwanan.

Also, nagigising ako ng maaga kapag weekdays. Pag weekends, lahat ng chores ginagawa na namen sa umaga para more time to rest sa hapon.
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman?
Post by: miejaide on October 13, 2011, 07:45:04 pm
its not my choice to be a SAHM.. but i have to..
now im thankful ive found a company who accepts part time / homebase.. now i can enjoy time with my son and works at the same time..
Title: Re: Is it your choice to be SAHM or career woman? (No ads pls.)
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Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: Anne Mercado on October 18, 2011, 12:09:27 am

1. Get organized and schedule your chores (spread them out during the week). For example, M-W-S (depending on how big your household is) do laundry. T-Th-Sun clean 1-2 parts of your home each day.

2. Ask your other family members to pitch in! It will help greatly.

3. Don't sweat it if you are unable to do a chore or two. Learn to be flexible and relax. With children around, somethings always come up, like doctor appointments and other events. So if you miss doing the laundry because you had to line up half a day at the clinic, it's okay. Nothing bad will happen :)
Title: Re: any tips on managing time?
Post by: jam9178 on October 30, 2011, 09:56:51 pm
Prioritize! fundamental yan talaga sa time management ;)
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: toughmom moderator on December 01, 2012, 06:01:11 pm
Financial Independence: Is it a Reality for Work-at-Home Moms?
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Moms share how working from home impacts their family budget and finances.

http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/home-living/moneywise/financial-independence-is-it-a-reality-for-work-at-home-moms
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: toughmom moderator on March 14, 2013, 12:43:31 am
 Some choose to put their careers on hold so that they can focus on bringing up their children, while some mothers are able to successfully balance a career and family. Each mother is different because each child, each family or each situation is not the same for everyone. 
Mothers as Empowered Women
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http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/mom-dad/taking-care-of-mom/mothers-as-empowered-women
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: momchronicles on March 25, 2013, 05:44:50 pm
Hi, fellow mommies! I used to be a banker who decided to give up her job to be a full time mom. How and why I came up with the decision to give up the job I so loved to stay at home and take care of my son? Here's my article.  Hope you'll find some inspiration here. :)

How I Became a Jobless Working Mom
http://momchronicles.com/how-i-became-a-jobless-working-mom

On the Other Side of the Pasture
http://momchronicles.com/on-the-other-side-of-the-pasture
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: Mommy Jazz on October 25, 2013, 11:00:04 pm
Become an empowered WAHM (work-at-home mom). October 27, 2013
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http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/home-living/travel-trips-activities/family-weekender-guide-things-to-do-on-october-25-to-27
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: pollenchois on March 06, 2014, 11:09:01 am
if i would have a choice, i would give up my career to be a SAHM. gusto ko ako magaalaga sa anak ko 24/7. this is my dream job, to become a SAHM. mataas ang tingin ko sa mga SAHM. pero sa hirap ng buhay ngayon, hindi lahat pwedeng maging SAHM. kung mayaman lang kami matagal na kong nagresign. until now napapaisip pa din ako. gustong gusto kong makasama baby ko all day, all night. haaay..  :-[
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: Angelynn on March 06, 2014, 01:29:39 pm
WAHM for 2 years already.  Super hands-on ako kay Baby.  It's my choice not to have a yaya.  Kasi lumaki ako sa yaya and ayokong ganoon din si Baby.  Ang saya na nakikita ko first-hand mga milestones ni Baby.  And marami kaming moments together.
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: joanalpny on July 02, 2014, 08:08:56 pm
Planning to be a WAHM also. Soon! Iwas na rin sa stress sa work at mga plastic na ka officemate.  ;D
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: thesweetmom on September 19, 2014, 12:58:15 am
i'm a work at home mom. i can say that it's mahirap pero fulfilling. you still get the same stress even if you're working outside home, lalo na kung full time naman yong job mo at home. i'd say it's all about how you manage your time din naman. kudos to all sahm and wahm out there!
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: Mommy Lai on March 01, 2015, 10:56:26 pm
Hello, mommies!

I would like to ask the WAHMs out there for a fraction of their time to participate in my survey. This is for my thesis paper entitled, "Telecommuting: Job Opportunities for Stay-at-home Mothers in the Philippines".

I, too, was a SAHM before. I had my daughter when I was young and I had to take a break from college to take care of her. When she turned 3 I went back to finish my degree and fast forward 2 years later, I'm finally graduating. :) As a SAHM, I used to read blogs of moms who worked from home. I admired them for their passion and ability to juggle everything yet still hold it together. A part of me wanted to be like them– strong, successful, yet still a hands-on mom; while the other part of me was scared and clueless. Hence, my thesis was born.

Kindly head over to this link to answer the Telecommuting Survey: http://goo.gl/forms/UNLBkQRfZ0

I would really appreciate your responses!  :D
Title: Re: All About Being a SAHM/WAHM
Post by: MrsPractical on September 18, 2017, 12:37:34 pm
Pano po ang pagbabayad ng tax para sa work at home mom?