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Title: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: J0 on November 09, 2010, 07:39:25 pm
Dear everyone,

Please post here any immediate source of support (financial, etc.) that you are aware of or have tried so that we can help other single parents out there.  I will try to collate and organize the information on this first message.

You see I've been encountering a lot of single parents who need help and I know that they can find them if they only know how and where to look.

I have a former high school classmate with two kids who decided to leave her husband because he remained jobless, they lived in his mother's house and has not made any efforts to improve  their condition/situation.  She has not been working for quite a long time (so her credentials may not get her a job that pays enough, and provide the time she needs to attend to her children). 

Recently, I realized that my officemate, who had been separated from her husband for years now, has only been working half day to attend to her three children.

Basically, imagine this situation: If a woman decides today to end her relationship with her man and raise their child/children by herself, what support can she get, where can she get it and how fast.

I am thinking that we could collaborate into creating a sort of cheat sheet.

Examples:

A program by a non profit organization.

A project of a government agency

A church-based advocacy

A job, livelihood or source of income, preferably home-based

Non-profit Organizations that specialize on the welfare of women

§ May I request for the moderator of this thread to please pin this or if there's already one, to merge this with that and have this available at the top.
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: Mommy Jazz on November 09, 2010, 08:54:39 pm
A lot has been shared by different members but are scattered in different topics. I can post links to other topics discussed that mention programs, support groups and centers. Will look into it when I get a chance (once I find time).
In the mean time, I'll leave this topic as it is to encourage other members to contribute.
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: Mommy Jazz on November 10, 2010, 01:37:45 pm
Do check this out. It's an article from Inquirer today about Workshop for Solo Parents  and here's an excerpt:

If successful, SAS will continue with workshop series that will tackle other aspects of solo parenthood: financial management and budgeting, finding the right yaya, legalities, blended families and dating again.

http://lifestyle.inquirer.net/homeandentertaining/homeandentertaining/view/20101110-302353/Workshop-for-parents (http://lifestyle.inquirer.net/homeandentertaining/homeandentertaining/view/20101110-302353/Workshop-for-parents)
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: mommy ni gwen on November 10, 2010, 01:42:22 pm
wow! this is a nice project daddy jojo! tama ka, ang hirap pag single parent ka, at one the biggest challenges is the financial part. i know the feeling and i'm willing to participate po dito. just tell me how can i help.  :)
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: Katie on November 15, 2010, 08:23:30 am
Thanks for this, Daddy Jojo. :)

I have read before na may mga call centers na part time. For those who are interested to apply, I can do meet ups ( hopefully within makati or LRT 1 area sana para malapit lang), for pep talk :) If you want to apply sa company namin, I can submit your resume for you, so they can schedule an interview. Hindi ko na kukunin ang referral, sau na lahat yun. At least, para makatulong.

Thanks! :)
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: neondust on November 15, 2010, 08:59:11 am
^ nice.. part time.. pero CVG ba yan?

maganda rin po sana kung may mag-suggest dito ng mga work from home online jobs.. mukhang mas madali yun para sa mga single moms. ;)
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: Mommy Jazz on November 15, 2010, 10:35:56 am
Work-at-home is a good start. We have online jobs topic at Other Items for sale under Marketplace. I hope it can help a lot of members here specially single moms.
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: mommy ni gwen on November 15, 2010, 11:56:23 am
i can offer a mini business that single moms can do at home at a very minimal capital... they can pm me for details
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: sweet&spice on November 20, 2010, 04:11:18 pm
COUNSELLING:
1. Center for Family Ministries (CEFAM)
       a. Loyola - main branch;
       b.  Don Bosco Makati - for south clients.

They offer counselling for all sorts of predicaments, one of which is single parenthood.
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: sweet&spice on November 25, 2010, 11:45:24 am
i found this site --- for single moms: please check the link: http://www.filipinovolunteer.com/2010/10/every-single-mom-needs-help.html

NAZARETH HOME (KAISAHANG BUHAY FOUNDATION, INC.)
56 10th Avenue, Cubao, Quezon City
1109 Philippines
Tel. Nos. +63.2.9114180, +63.2.9121159, +63.2.9131469, and +63.2.4214075
E-mail: kbf@monzon.com

SINGLE MOMS SUPPORT GROUP
Ms. Maria Amor Moran
Tel. Nos. +63.2.4743544 and +63.932.9187404
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: toughmom moderator on April 12, 2011, 02:46:35 pm
This might interest you: "According to the Law: Flexible Time for Solo Parents"
The article mentions benefits a solo parent can avail under "Flexi-time" - solo parenting act.
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/home-living/homebase/according-to-the-law-flexible-time-for-solo-parents
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: toughmom moderator on July 10, 2011, 11:43:24 pm
This is a sound news for Gov't employed Single Parent
House Bill Filed for Maternity Benefits of Unmarried Govít Employees (http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/community/news/house-bill-filed-for-maternity-benefits-of-unmarried-gov-t-employees)

Pregnant but unmarried government workers may just have the chance to avail of a maternity leave, should a house bill filed in Congress recently be approved.
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/community/news/house-bill-filed-for-maternity-benefits-of-unmarried-gov-t-employees
Title: Hi all
Post by: Loving Rach on October 18, 2011, 03:28:25 pm
Hi.
I am Rachelle. I have 1 child. A 2 month old prem baby girl Minnie (cause she was mini lol)  :). I am a single young mum. Can you please give me same link on this forum that may help me. Thanks and hope to join you soon. From Rachelle.  :D
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: jealousygirl on October 22, 2011, 08:27:45 am
HI to everyone...


I agree that its really diffucult to be a single parents, because lahat ng
pasanin dala dala mo,,
- i also a single mom, and currently living separated to my fam,then my daughter is turning 7
so now shes studying,.
ive read some article about single mom in Us, that their government is supportive to those single parents.
- i hope dito rin satin, though we have a solo parent act, but it seems it doesnt exist, yung iba alam, yung iba hindi.. :(  like me, i do have an id, but lack of knowledge kung pano ko maggmit yung mga benefits nila.. :-[
kaya daddy jojo ur right n sana aside from it, meron pang other NGO's or something na makakatulong
sa mga solo parent , most especialy sa financial burden..

Note: Of course hindi naman po manghhngi ng money sa knila,what we are asking is the additional
financial income that can help us to lessen tha financial burden..  :)
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: ♫jam.with.me♪ on October 23, 2011, 03:44:15 pm
Thanks Daddy Jojo, by separating this thread from the others makes it easier for us single moms to check what help we can get if we want to raise our kid/s alone.

I am a full-time employee, but of course I want to be a full-time mom as well so I can watch my baby grow up (not with yaya). I wish there's a program that will help us start a business at home.. If not asking too much, an organization that would lend us a capital :) as we are not all capable of starting a business, most of which has only enough funds for their kids' everyday needs.

Hope to get more info here.
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: aian on November 22, 2011, 12:27:23 pm
super agree ako kay sis JAMnLUCAS para kahit small business maka apag simula ang mga single mom na tulad namin tulad ng sa akin minimum lang salary and hindi enough para ma-provide ko needs ng baby ko
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: ahyzeyuh on November 23, 2011, 05:41:57 am
for some other single mom / parent like me
- theres an additional 7paid leaves for us
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: jealousygirl on November 23, 2011, 06:09:12 am
 @ mommy ahyzeyuh.. yan po ba yung solo parent act.??
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: mommycheska on November 23, 2011, 06:55:31 am
This is a great thread! I have single-parent friends and they struggle so much. I once created a thread also (different site) asking if there are support groups or government agencies who cater to single parents but I was in no luck. A few responses only with less information. I told myself, kung magiging single parent pala ako, naku... kailangan ko ng super hero powers at napakaraming pera dahil 3 ang anak ko.  Tsk Tsk.

I saw in tv before (the place is in US), they have a community for single-parents and they can also leave the kids while the parents go to work or school. They have parties and house rules. Lahat sila they treat each other as families. Sana meron din tayong ganito dito. I admire also companies who have daycares so that their employees specially single parents can work while someone is taking care of their kids. At least meron silang naitutulong kahit papaano.

Great Job Daddy Jojo! This is going to be one-stop-thread for all!
To all single parents: Saludo ako sa inyo!!!  ;)
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: ahyzeyuh on March 13, 2012, 01:21:37 pm
@ jealousygirl
sis just go to your local DSWD and file a solo parent ID..
there might be some requirements but its all very handy
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: jealousygirl on March 14, 2012, 06:57:24 am
^ sis may solo parent Id na po ko,, what im asking from them po is yung other benefits na naklagay sa journal nila.. labo kasi eh,,  for now ang sinasabi lang yung additional 7 days leave lang.
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: ahyzeyuh on March 15, 2012, 05:28:15 am
7days paid leaves on top of the given VLs- yun ang practice sa company namin

maybe you can ask your HR kung ano process nila.
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: drrubencflores on April 24, 2012, 07:15:10 pm
I as a single parent knows what it is and how it is to be the only one raising a child. Well, in this case. Any single parent can start in a small business. Some single parents are afraid to start a business due to a limited income. For that matter, he or she can apply for an employment and at the same time find sidelines to earn more money.
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: toughmom moderator on May 07, 2012, 12:58:15 am
Q: I just want to ask if I can legally ask for financial support from my child's father. Should I file a case against him?

Read the expert's answer here:
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/home-living/homebase/according-to-the-law-establishing-paternity
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: toughmom moderator on January 12, 2013, 08:45:01 pm
"Perhaps the government could also consider giving solo parents privileges similar to the senior citizen's discount, but on education, school supplies, kid's clothes and medicines. Maybe banks can also have a different set of loans for solo parents, with lower interest rates or longer payment terms.Ē
-Katrina Villareal

Moms Weigh In: Do Single Moms Raise Inferior Kids?
(http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/images/site-alpha/articles/solomom-web.jpg)
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parenting/pinoy-parenting/do-single-moms-raise-inferior-kids/page/1 (http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parenting/pinoy-parenting/do-single-moms-raise-inferior-kids/page/1)
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: ahyzeyuh on January 14, 2013, 08:09:53 am
thanks for sharing the link
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: slickmom on January 28, 2013, 02:50:59 pm
hi mga sis (and bros), newbie here to smart parenting, and a single mom also. i'm glad that there is a section here in smart parenting that is devoted to single parents.  :)

i agree with the post from sis toughmom - for single parents to have certain privileges similar to those of senior citizens - especially the discounts on medicines, school supplies, kid's clothes, and even tuition. i also hope that there will be more work at home opportunities for single parents.
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: Myangeljzd2ofus on January 30, 2013, 02:20:33 am
sa mga kapwa ko solo parent i fully understand the need for support...solo parent act natin masyadong simple. madaming benefits na nakalagay sa solo parent act pero ang nagagamit lang ay and 7 days leave sa mga empleyado. for some reason di applicable and discounts sa gatas and damit ng babys, schools at and karapatan ng mga solo parents na makapag aral. for some reason di ito nagagamit. sana nga makaruon ng tamang forum para sa solo parent to petition na ito naman ang bigyang pansin ng senado at kongreso...madami rin naman kasi ang solo parents na matutulungan ng mga benepisyong naka paloob sa solo parent act...sayang...para sa atin ang mga yun...
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: jealousygirl on January 30, 2013, 08:22:38 pm
^ indeed.. nakaka Inis lang na LAW nga pero bakit ganun, hindi naman napapatupad ng maayos..
parang siguro naman dapat rin pagtuunan nila ng pansin ang ganitong LAW . . ako nga hindi ko rin masyado nagagamit yung 7days leave na un, kasi nababawas lang sa existing leave ko yung fna file ko,, unfair ano..parang LAw lang but not existing.
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: Chickiedee on February 06, 2013, 04:25:20 pm
Ditto!  :D

I'm an expectant mom and I'm anticipating that I would be rearing for my unborn child by myself since my live in partner will be leaving as an immigrant this coming Feb. 25th.

Though we talked about how he plans to support my pregnancy and my baby, I am still considering how I will be alone most of the time which is the reason why I've read the Solo Parent's Welfare Act and Parental Leave.

The process as I've understood is very simple and I've known a lot of my friends who has applied for the Solo Parent ID and they told me that they didn't experience any hassle so long as the documents that are being requested are given.

Thru this link : http://www.census.gov.ph/content/q-solo-parents-welfare-act-and-parental-leave (http://www.census.gov.ph/content/q-solo-parents-welfare-act-and-parental-leave), you can learn all the basic things you need to know when and if you're planning to avail of the said act.

There are special provisions that stated that you would only be able to avail of the 7-day parental leave + 3-day special leave + other mandatory leave (even flexible work schedule which depends on your employer) should your income fall above the poverty threshold set by NEDA; else you get to avail all inclusive privileges once you've been granted support.

For the comprehensive package of social development and welfare services for solo parents and their families, you may want to check this link : http://www.lawphil.net/statutes/repacts/ra2000/ra_8972_2000.html (http://www.lawphil.net/statutes/repacts/ra2000/ra_8972_2000.html)
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: toughmom moderator on September 27, 2013, 12:56:15 am
10 Inspirational Books for Solo Parents
(http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/images/site-alpha/articles/being-a-parent/books_for_solo_parents/4-the-single-mothers-guide-to-raising-remarkable-boys.jpg)
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/home-living/homebase/10-inspirational-books-for-solo-parents/page/2
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: sweet&spice on October 08, 2013, 02:38:04 pm
Is this book locally available?
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: J0 on October 26, 2013, 05:47:24 am
Hi everyone, I searched the website of the Securities and Exchange Commission and found the following:

Query: "Single Mother"

List of Registered Company Names that matched your query.
AKO SINGLE MOTHER INC.
SAN ROQUE MOTHERS & SINGLES GROUP INC.
SINGLE MOTHERS INC.

Query: "Solo Parent"

List of Reserved Company Names that matched your query.
 BENGUET FEDERATION OF SOLO PARENTS ASSOCIATION INC.
 GUINAOANG SOLO PARENTS ORGANIZATION INC.
 MANKAYAN SOLO PARENTS FEDERATED ASSOCIATION INC.
 NATONIN ASSOCIATION OF SOLO PARENTS INC.
 SOLO PARENTS ASSN OF CEBU PHILS., INC.
 SOLO PARENTS EMPOWERMENT GROUP (ME & MY KIDS) INC.

List of Registered Company Names that matched your query.
 1 ALYANSA NG MGA SOLO PARENTS' (1ASOP) ASSOCIATION INC.
 BENGUET PROVINCIAL FEDERATION OF SOLO PARENTS ASSOCIATIONS INC.
 D'MANGGAGAWA BALO SOLO PARENT SENIOR CITIZEN CIVIC COMMUNITY (MBS) INC.
 METAMORPHOSIS-PSALMS 30:15 (SOLO PARENTS SUPPORT GROUP) INC.
 NATIONAL CONFEDERATION OF SOLO PARENTS, INC.
 NATIONIN ASSOCIATION OF SOLO PARENTS INC.
 PANABO SOLO-PARENTS LIVELIHOOD ASSOCIATION, INC.
 PARENTS TEACHERS COMMUNITY ASSN. PASOLO ELEMENTARY SCHOOL INC.
 RAGAY SOLO PARENTS ASSOCIATION, INC.
 SAPID MANKAYAN SOLO PARENT ASSOCIATION, INC.
 SHADOW SOLO PARENT ASSOCIATION BAGONG SILANGAN Q.C. INC.
 SOLO PARENT ASSOCIATION OF DAVAO DEL SUR INCORPORATED
 SOLO PARENT'S BRGY. GULOD ASSOCIATION INC.
 SOLO PARENTS ASSN. INC.
 SOLO PARENTS FEDERATION-MALABON CITY INC.
 SOLO PARENTS MINISTRY FOUNDATION OF THE PHILIPPINES INC.
 SOLOC ELEMENTARY SCHOOL PARENTS & TEACHERS COMMUNITY ASSOCIATION INC.
 SOLOTSOLOT HIGH SCHOOL PARENTS TEACHERS ASSOCIATION INC.
 SPAP SOLO PARENTS ASSOCIATION PHILIPPINES, INC.
 SUNSHINE LADIES-SOLO PARENT ASSOCIATION, INC.
Title: Re: Immediate help thread please for Single Parents
Post by: J0 on October 26, 2013, 06:26:25 am
SPAP SOLO PARENTS ASSOCIATION PHILIPPINES INC.
started last January of 2010 with SEC Registration No: CN201005697

Location   4035-A P.Gomez st.Brgy.LNW, 2009 Angeles City

Products   free training, Seminars ,Recycled material, Single parents souvenir items and others...

Contact Info: Phone   (045) 323 5225

Email   spap.inc@gmail.com

Website: http://singleparentphilippines.webs.com/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Solo-Parents-Association-PhilippinesInc/119424531443362

Mission
SOLO PARENTS ASSOCIATION PHILS. INC. provides single parents and their children with an opportunity for enhancing personal growth, self-confidence and sensitivity towards others by offering an environment for support, friendship and the exchange of parenting techniques. For the small children of single parents, it offers them the opportunity to meet friends living within the same family structure. No more standing out in the crowd or feeling isolated because they are part of the single parent family.

Company Overview
Hundreds of members in the Philippines.
Membersí ages range from 14 to 80.
Custody or ages of the child(ren) is not a factor.
Members are unexpected mother that is never been married, widowed,separated or annulled
SPAP members come from all walks of life, interests and educational attainment.
Some SPAP members have only recently become single parents, while others have been single for some time. Some have young children, others have grown children, and some are grandparents raising grandchildren. Some members are sophisticated, while others have led sheltered lives. All are in a process of transition and change, and seek help from SPAP.
SPAP members are of all faiths and political beliefs.

All chapter members are verified as being single parents by being sponsored by current members

Description
ALL SOLO PARENTS ARE WELCOME

Problems are many in bringing up our children alone, contending with the emotional and spiritual conflicts of annulment , separation,never married or widowhood. SPAP Inc. is the only association that provides real help in the way of discussions, publications, study groups and social activities for families and adults. Through the exchange of ideas and companionship, we hope to further our common welfare and the well being of our children.

General Information
SPAP SOLO PARENTS ASSOCIATION PHILIPPINES INC. started last January of 2010 with SEC Registration No: CN201005697 at Angeles City ,Pampanga by single parents: Elayne Onanad, single parent for almost 10 years. She graduated BS Education major in Economics at Republic Central Colleges and she also graduated a 6 months caregiver course at Skill Power Institute and completed massage training at PESO city hall of Angeles. As concerned citizens, Elayne felt isolated from society because of her marital status, and decided to form a support organization.

SPAP Inc.,is a nonprofit membership organization devoted to the welfare and interests of single parents and their children. Single parents may join ; they may be male or female, widowed or never married, separated, annulled,custodial or non-custodial. The member-at-large membership is offered to any qualified individual