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Title: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: lady_torque on November 29, 2010, 12:08:45 pm
am nearing 1 yr of my CS birth of the youngest & i fear that i need to see a psyciatrist.  so many things have happened to me - getting more forgetful, sensitivity at times to my children, mainitin ang ulo... do you think that physical & verbal abuse & a somewhat-bipolar-husband greatly contributes to what I'm experiencing now?  i've been a victim of domestic violence, yung huling pinakamatindi was when we didn't know that i'm 1 month old pregnant, good thing nothing happened.

it stopped during my pregnancy & 3 months after giving a CS birth to my youngest, afterwhich, nag resume na naman.

kaya ba di napapagod kapag parang "doormat" na lang ang tingin sa inyo ng hubby nyo na kapag may problema sa iba e kayo ang gagawing labasan ng galit?

can you suggest any online advise group/forums for my situation?  sometimes i feel like quitting after 7 yrs of marriage to a "bipolar" hubby who refused to be analyzed by a professional or seek marriage counselling....
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: mimi27 on November 29, 2010, 11:35:04 pm
Sis,I feel your pain.In some way or another pareho tayo ng situation.Pls try to watch Susi sa Tagumpay at Channel 11 @ 11pm.(700club dati) prayers can move mountains.
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: tiggerlily on December 08, 2010, 10:48:15 pm
hindi rason na may problema ang husband nyo kaya niya kayo sasaktan - pregnant or not. wala silang karapatan para saktan kayo. i don't think you need to talk to a professional to solve this problem. hindi naman kayo ang problem kundi ang asawa nyo. nagwowork ba kayo pareho?
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: MommyJammy on December 09, 2010, 01:33:03 pm
he or both of you needs counseling, abusive people are very stubborn, hindi mo makukuha sa usapan. i've been there. they don't feel any guilt with what they do, and tell you everything is your fault kung bakit niya nagagawa yun, talking won't do the trick. yes you need to seek professional help. mas maganda kung pareho kayo.
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: jhoicee_01 on February 21, 2011, 11:48:39 am
hi lady_torque, how are u doing?
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: on February 22, 2011, 11:37:53 pm
post na din sis,nauuwi talaga sa psychosis pag  di nagamot ang post partum depression sis.ganun din ako,lumala sa akin dahil sa iniiwan ako mag isa at nang bebe ko,pinaparinggan ako,sinisigawan,pinagdadabugan ako pag uuwi pa ama nang anak ko wala akong ibang maririnig kundi 'baka mag away kayo ni mommy kasi', 'masyado kang sensitive','kaaway mo  lahat' wala man lang kung kumain na ba ako o kumusta na ako maghapon.worst naging karanasan di na ako nakakatulog,kahit di ako kumilos pagod na pagod ako pakiramdam ko,lagi akong tulala at nag iisip,umiiyak parati,wala akong gana,di ako pinapaligo kasi bawal daw (di ko alam kung sinadya para umakyat init sa ulo ko),pinapakain ako anng may gata=.madami sis reason kung pagbabasehan kailangan talaga magamot mo PPD mo kasi ang psychosis masyado nang malal kung baga kailangan mo nang gamot para dun though di ko pa naman sinakal anak ko etc. takot lang ako sa kanya at pag umiyak sya sumasabay ako lahat nang nangyayari sa kanya iniiyakan ko (weird no?) pero totoo sis kinailangan akong  gamutin para bumalik ako sa dati pero pansin ko madami na nagbago sa akin lalo ang mood swings ko,mainitin pa din ulo ko.kinailangan kong magtake nang gamot panghabambuhay na sis yung ang masaklap na katotohanan.7 mos ako take non taz nahinto binalik ko na ngaung month na to sis.
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: two_angels'_mom on March 05, 2011, 07:39:33 pm
sis marriage counselling is not going to work since sabi mo nga bipolar si hubby he needs to be treated first kasi otherwise hindi rin niya pakikinggan lahat ng sasabihin ng counsellor..at yes sis domestic violence could lead to a psychological disorder, not necessarily pychosis, pero yung trauma that you take everytime that your being battered masama yan sa mental health..im saying this becoz iv been there too kaya kame naghiwalay ni SD because of that..he know that has psychiatric problem but he wont seek counselling so ang kinalabasan lagi kame nag-aaway..

you need to do something to stop that sis otherwise health mo na ang nakasalalay..hubby needs to be treated yun nga lang sa ganyang mga case dapat kusang loob sila magseek ng medical help..pero dapat kung mahal niya talaga kayo ni baby gawin niya yun kasi baka dumating panahon pati si baby saktan niya na..you never know what he can do kasi after may psychiatric problem nga sya..
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: lady_torque on May 20, 2011, 06:26:31 pm
Thank you mga sis, for your concerns. Sa sobrang dami problem, forgot ko na nga rin na nag start ako ng thread na to, hehe.

It's been more than a year & nothing's really changed.  Pinapalala pa ng bruhang MIL ko. Instead na maging mediator sya, sya pa ang nagsasabi ng kung ano ano kay hubby.  Nawawalan na talaga ako ng drive in everything, naaawa nga ako sa 3 kids ko.  Ginagawa ko na lang mind over matter para di maapektuhan gaano ang mga kids, pero super hirap talaga.

Sis hon3ykow, saan ka nagpatingin  regarding your condition? I really feel that I'm getting worse, don't want totell it to my mom, baka sya naman ang maapektuhan sa condition ko.  Kanina lang, i had a 80/60 BP but inspite of that, pinatao pa ako ni hubby sa shop.  Can't eat that much, as well, lalo na pag naririnig ko bibig ng MIL kong super eskandalosa.  Since affected na rin ang youngest G6PD baby ko sa katigasan ng ulo ng MIL, i've learned to be brutally frank.  Alam na ni hubby na super bad trip na ako sa mom niya. Dun sya wala masabi pag nabad trip ako.

The verbal & psychological abuses are now getting worse to the point that hubby has FULL CONTROL of our finances ( I know dahil sa mga sinasabi ng mom nyang over insecure sa akin ). Di na ako magtataka why ganun ang upbringing ni hubby, blame it sa kunsintidor na ina na di rin alam ang term na "discipline".  Kapal nga ng mukhang sabihing pera lang ang habol ko... Haller... wala kayang pera ang anak nila nung kinasal kami...  Pinahiram nga nila kami ng fund for the business pero matagal nang  bayad un.  Pasalamat sila at napalaki pa nga ng ilang times pa yun, kasi kung sa anak lang nila maiiwan un, tyak mapupunta rin sa kawalan sa pagiging impulsive spender nun...

Hubby doesn't want any counselling or psychological treatment, kasing arrogant sya ng mom niya na di ma admit na sa kanila lagi nagsisimula ang kung anong gulo magkaroon dito.  Sabi pa nga sa kondisyon ko kanina na super hilo ako sa baba ng bp, "Kawawa ka naman" - sarcastically. 

Siguro ang choice ko na lang is for me to seek help - on my own. Sobra hirap mga sis...
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: on May 21, 2011, 03:52:04 am
@ lady_torque

sis sa northen luzon ako pinagamot  nang family ko sa baguio city (Roseville Rehabilitation Complex Company)  pero alam ko meron din sila sa Pampanga refer lang din to sis nang good samaritan kasi di ko kaya ang gov na hos lalo akong naging worst.

SERVICES:
-Roseville Rehabilitation Complex Co. offers its services on these functional levels.
-Psychopaharmacology including detoxification (for drug and alcohol related disorders)
-Rehabilitation facilities,occupational therapy,psychodrama,recreational dynamics,sublimation (e.g. sports,music,dance,etc.)
-Family therapy interactions
-Outpatient Services for Psychotic,Mood,Anxiety,Sleep,and other Psychiatric Disorders
-Occupational Therapy
-it also offers a good referal system with other government and private hospitals along with the highly specialized line of endeavor.

Mental disturbance is not a disease but an affliction of the modern times.It is therefore wrong to think that mentally disturbed people have failed.It is just that in a world that is becoming more complex by passing minute,their internal psychological defense mechanism has chosen to protect them from the looming frustration by altering their sense of reality-- sometimes blocking it out partially.

I'll pm you the Psychiatrists sis along his contact numbers.all the best!
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: on May 21, 2011, 04:02:24 am
PM sent sis.
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: lady_torque on May 22, 2011, 11:17:25 pm
thank you so much, hon3ykow!

sarap ding ibigay ang # si MIL ko kasi sa kanya nagsisimula lahat ng gulo dito... hehe...

God Bless! :)
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: FighterDad Rob on July 15, 2011, 04:54:30 am
Is it too late to post my two cents?  This may help others...

As a psychologist, go back a few steps first before moving forward.  This is clearly a bad situation that nobody deserves to be in.  Plus, this is your point of view.  How are you feeling for and treating your husband?  Are you staying in the marriage in the hopes of change or simply "for the kids"?

First of all domestic abuse is already a green light for you to end things, if this is truly the case.  Whether verbal or physical. 

Marriage counseling at this point is unnecessary as you need to seek help for yourself first for the sake of your child.  If you can't find support groups, it's best to consult a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist (easy to google) for this particular situation.  He/She can help you sort through your thoughts.

There are also church groups.  I attend at CCF and it's great to share and listen.  If you choose to go non-sectarian, go online here and make a support group and meet initially at public places in day time for safety.

No man should ever, EVER strike a woman.  I fight in various martial arts disciplines, MMA also, and my wife is a competitive shooter...delikado pag may away sa bahay! ;D  But seriously, stay happy.  Life is waiting for you.
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: Mommy Jazz on July 15, 2011, 01:54:18 pm
Wow, we have a psychologist on board pala. Hope to read more advice from you FighterDad.
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: FighterDad Rob on July 17, 2011, 11:37:55 pm
Hi Mommyjazz!    Hope all is well.  : )  Social Psychology nga lang.  But yeah I'm most willing to help! :)
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: tashasabs on May 12, 2012, 07:34:45 am
Kumusta ka na lady_torque? Nakakalungkot naman mabasa 'yung situation mo. :( Sana may improvement na, it's been almost a year na rin yata.

...  I fight in various martial arts disciplines, MMA also, and my wife is a competitive shooter...delikado pag may away sa bahay! ;D

-- FighterDad Rob made me laugh with this.  ;D
Title: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis (continuation from my old thread)
Post by: lady_torque on November 14, 2012, 09:57:14 pm
I was really touched with the concern you've all shown me.  Thank you all since you're one of God's angels from heaven.

Things have improved in the past months but he became more violent just this week ~ accusing things which I know is from talking constantly from my MIL since we're in the same compound.  He accused me of stealing (MAGNANAKAW RAW AKO). In  2 hours or so, he found the amount that I supposedly stole (daw) ~ in the form of a check from one of our customers.  Since lumaki sya in an environment wherein nauuna ang pambibintang kesa alamin ang totoo, he alternately cursed, accused, shouted & hit me. 

My left upper arm has bruises, good thing that I can cover it with long sleeves or big shirts. But I can't hide the bruises on the right side of the face, including the eye area.  MIL was even "happy" when her son hit me, unknowing of the real situation.  Maybe the 2 of them needed the much-sought-counselling since my MIL is also a problem of my FIL (walang pakelam kahit may sakit sya).  MIL is also the problem of the entire household since she always wants to be the center of attention & ayaw na maapawan ang galing.

Planning to leave & find a job when I'm ready to talk about the situation to my parents.  I would like my children to grow up with my parents since my MIL is really terrible about good manners & right conduct...  Hoping that things will get ok, thru God's help...

Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: two_angels'_mom on November 16, 2012, 02:51:18 pm
hi sis! its good to know u are now planning to leave him and start anew..kaya mo yan sis..were all here to support u and also with Gods help and guidance everything will be okay..i know..coz iv been there..looking back now naiisip ko na lang bakit nga ba hinayaan ko gawin ni SD sa kin yun but then again i know the answer to that i love him too much ive hoped he will change and also for our daughter..kaya naiintindihan kita kung bakit pinatagal mo pa ng ganito..kaya lang even love and our kids welfare is not enough to hold on..kasi sa huli sila din naman magsasuffer seeing their parents fight..you would not want your kids to live in the environment that is all violence db..ako yan ang ginawa kong motivation..natiis kong sinasaktan ako ni SD nun, verbally and sometimes physically pero nung nakita ng anak ko what he is doing to me dun ako natauhan..kasi nakita ko epekto nun sa anak ko..muntik na sya matrauma and sabi ko tama na..and so 2 years after that..eto ako mas me peace of mind, i cant say things are great kasi syempre iba pa din sana kung meron kalalakihang ama anak ko but then we are getting by and i can say that things are better now..so rest-assured everything will be okay..

dun naman sa part ng family mo..i can understand u..ayaw mo kasi magworry sila kaya hindi mo sinasabi..pero u better start telling them..kasi you will be needing a lot of help from them..in bringing up your kids..whether it be just moral support or financial help..wag ka matakot..kasi at the end of the day sila lang naman talaga ang matatakbuhan mo..ang talagang tutulong sayo..

so goodluck sis..and God bless..
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: eloytski on November 16, 2012, 03:12:09 pm
...kasi sa huli sila din naman magsasuffer seeing their parents fight..you would not want your kids to live in the environment that is all violence db..

Sis, I agree with two_angels'_mom -- think of the kids and the impact of such an environment.

I'm not an expert, but I guess malaki ang matutulong if you indeed have your own job, and even your own place. If you're self-reliant, you will not be afraid, and maybe you can even fight back (hindi naman physically, pero you can assert your rights and maybe even report your husband to the authorities).

You need love and support from the people who truly care about you, and that's your own family. Kaya don't hesitate to ask for their help and protection. And of course, always seek God's blessings and enlightenment.

God bless you Sis!
Title: Re: PPD that's nearly leading to psychosis due to domestic violence
Post by: imiyeeyesiam on February 12, 2013, 08:50:31 pm
How are you now Lady_torque?