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Title: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: ☆♥♡unica hija☆♥♡ on January 02, 2011, 03:52:31 am
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help!  My son is so addicted to computer...computer games at that. Di na nga nag aaral eh. I even put parental control on the pc. Pero on the time na pwede siya maglaro ayun nakatutok at di na umaalis sa harap ng computer. Kanina nga nakatulog na siya sa harap ng computer eh. Ano ba magandang gawin?

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Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: mommy_of_2 on January 02, 2011, 05:47:58 am
Limit mo sis yung time frame niya sa PC, like you can set it as a reward, study first and finish all his homework for the day and then that's the time he can use the PC but may limit pa din. Talk to him and make him realize his duties first and then maybe spend more time and have at least a family moment with him maybe on weekends para naman you could have more interaction with your kid. Mahirap din kasi ang tutok sa games esp. if it contains violence may chance pa na he might get isolated sa real world kaya make sure ka lang din na he interacts with everyone (friends and family) and maybe make him join sports too para medyo ma-divert yung attention niya with other things. Goodluck mommy..  :)
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: Mommy Jazz on January 02, 2011, 09:19:21 am
How old is your son po? Mine is turning 4. Nakakagulat na ang generation ngayon ang bilis matuto. He learned to use the PC when he turned 3. Ngayon nagugulat nalang ako kasi ang dami na niyang controls na alam without me teaching him.

I give him a warning before I stop him like "last 2 minutes" or deny privileges pag hindi siya sumunod. As for my 7yo daughter, I make sure her assignments are finished and I check kung tama ang ginawa niya. Dati kasi, basta matapos lang para makapag computer. Bukod sa schedule, dapat din may rules. They need to know what is more important like eating, duties at home, etc. If playing with the computer causes them to overlook these, then hindi sila pwedeng gumamit. Lesson ito that they need to learn til they become adults.

May password din ang computer. I still have to figure kung may pwedeng i-set na auto shut off. So far namomonitor ko naman ang gamit kasi nasa house lang ako.
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: ☆♥♡unica hija☆♥♡ on January 02, 2011, 04:17:08 pm
thanks for your suggestions mommies! I'm always at work kaya mother ko naiiwan sa anak ko. He's 8 years old and may katigasan ng ulo. Tomorrow, back to school na. I'll do what you've suggested.
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: JoshuaGummies on January 08, 2011, 11:12:41 am
hi sis Unica Hija, happy new year! di na naman tayo nagkita, nasa CDO ako ng 2 weeks:(

 sis ka age nga lang pala Josh natin at parehong gadget/computer addict :o..
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Josh ko kahit computer addict na cocontrol naman ng mader ko, may schedule talaga kung kelan sya pwede..like pwede sya mag computer pagdating sa bahay from school.. (weekdays 3:30-5pm) 5-7pm tapos na niya homeworks niya and review ng konti and sleep na sya 8pm.. lunch time sa school kasi sya nag study with his tutor kaya may free time niya na ang hapon para mag enjoy as kid:) weekend naman starting friday afternoon and sunday 5pm pwede sya maglaro.. di namin sya pinagbabawalan pero sinusunod talaga strictly ang sked kasi lalong higpitan lalong naaddict, nakikita naman namin na nagsasawa rin ;D..

pero if exam week wala talagang PC/PSP or any games at alam niya at sinusunod naman niya ;)

Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: sweet&spice on January 11, 2011, 01:35:33 pm
^kilala ko ang baby na yan!!! kamukha mo na sis, sabi ko nga, especially in that pic. he has your look and smile.

try watching the movie, RPG (yung sa MMMF) movie nina santino nung christmas. for me, it is a portrays just the right balance on playing the computer, and playing outside and being involved with the real world. panoorin mo muna mommy, and see for yourself, if this movie, imparts the value that your son might get.
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: ☆♥♡unica hija☆♥♡ on January 23, 2011, 06:35:48 pm
@°º¤ø,¸GreenMoM¸,ø¤º° - sayang di tayo nagkita.

@funnyarte - nanood kaming dalawa ng RPG Metanoia - walang effect.
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: Mommy Jazz on January 25, 2011, 09:56:36 pm
I recently attended a Parenting Seminar conducted by Mr. Sonnie Santos (you can google him).
He put up a website http://websafetyforparents.org/ (http://websafetyforparents.org/) Listening to his lecture. Etong thread na ito ang nasa isip ko and can't wait to share with you what I've learned.


There's this program called Parental Control Software by Norton
https://onlinefamily.norton.com/ (http://websafetyforparents.org/)


With this, you can monitor you kid's use of the PC, even has a time blocker so you can manage your kid's computer time. There's more than just that.  You can block websites that you don't want him to go to or let the system block all websites they know can be harmful, you can also monitor which websites they visit.


I haven't tried it yet kasi I can personally monitor my kid's use.
Two important things I want to share that I learned from the seminar, "Keep the PC at a common place at home." This way, the kids can be monitored. Second, do not share infos about the family, you can never tell when someone wants to strike you. If they can't hit you, they can google your kids.













Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: toughmom moderator on April 30, 2011, 09:42:44 am
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Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: toughmom moderator on May 26, 2011, 02:45:43 pm
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Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: kootsie on July 28, 2011, 12:49:48 pm
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I want to create an advocacy po kasi for teens about cyber safety awareness. much like the "think before you click" campaign of GMA7 pero mas broad yung range. gusto ko rin makinig ang boses ng mga parents in regards to this matter. maraming salamat po sa inyo  ;D
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: Errych on July 28, 2011, 05:03:27 pm
I cannot say that my 4-year old daughter is addicted to computer, atleast not yet. She likes Nick jr. and Disney junior sites. She spends about 30 minutes playing and watching her fave games which are all about numbers, coloring, shapes, etc. Moreover, she even knows our PC's password and knows how to go to the website all by herself. She can turn-on and off the PC properly. But still as a parent I don't want her to get hooked. So, I constantly monitor her and even reminded her that she should spend time reading her books. So far no problem yet. Thanks for the safety tips mommies.  :)
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: platinumangel on October 25, 2011, 02:53:08 pm
Ako din Mommy mariasans naghahanap ng mga websites para sa 3yo ko :)  Super into computer games kasi sya and medyo nasasawa na sya sa mga games na in-install namin sa laptop.  So thanks dito sa Jollitown link!  Kita ko nga may mga games sila na swak na swak and enjoyable!  Yung ibang websites kasi ng mga games medyo may mga kahalong games na may pagkabrutal eh hahaha! 
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: Anne Mercado on November 09, 2011, 08:34:03 pm
help!  My son is so addicted to computer...computer games at that. Di na nga nag aaral eh. I even put parental control on the pc. Pero on the time na pwede siya maglaro ayun nakatutok at di na umaalis sa harap ng computer. Kanina nga nakatulog na siya sa harap ng computer eh. Ano ba magandang gawin?

Limit his use of the computer. Maybe 1 hour a day. When I was young, I could not watch TV during school days. Which is why I used to read a lot back when I was younger.

It's all about setting boundaries and teaching kids that there is a proper time for everything :)
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: mommyJQ on November 12, 2011, 01:11:12 am
My 8 years old daughter, Jodee is addicted to iPad naman. Pa'no kasi yung Daddy niya, binilhan bilhan pa siya! Ngayon, pati pag-tulog, katabi na niya yun. Kinukuha ko nga, pero ayaw naman ibigay, mag ta-tantrums lang. Pero siya naman, she never forget her studies. Pinapagalitan kasi siya ng Daddy niya if she got low grades at kukunin yung iPad niya.
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: Anne Mercado on November 12, 2011, 03:47:08 pm
@mommyJQ - pwede palang maging good motivator yung iPad. I shall try it nga sometime hehe
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: mommyJQ on November 12, 2011, 05:19:52 pm
@AnneM:

Kaso hindi nakikinig sakin, pag kinukuha ko nga, nagta-tantrums. Mas takot kasi sa Daddy.
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: Anne Mercado on November 13, 2011, 10:33:19 pm
@mommyJQ - ako minsan tinitiis ko yung tantrums when I take away the iPad from my son. Kahit na galit na galit siya sakin, I try my best na di nalang pansinin yung galit niya. But as for you, kung mas takot siya sa daddy niya, then good :) At least she will listen. :)

Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: mommyJQ on November 14, 2011, 01:37:40 pm
@Anne M:

Di ko kasi matiis, baka mag-tampo sakin. Minsan nalang din kasi ako talaga may time para makasama sila eh. Yes, buti nga takot sa Daddy niya kesa naman wala samin. :)
Title: How to Use the Parental Controls on Internet Explorer?
Post by: maryparker on November 22, 2011, 05:00:50 am
Let's face it, the Internet can be a great place for learning and interacting with friends, but it is also a wild place with lots of content that can be unsuitable for kids. Fortunately, Internet Explorer has parental controls that you can adjust according to what you do and do not want your children to be exposed to online. These parental controls can be adjusted according to a child's age and your own values.

Control What Your Children See Online

1.Go to Internet Explorer on your computer. Click on 'Tools' from the toolbar in the upper right-hand corner of the Web browser.

2.Select the 'Content' tab.

3.Find the 'Content Advisor' heading and click on the button labeled 'Enable.'

4.Choose a category from the list. This list will present you with a variety of content categories that you may not want your children to see, such as sites depicting drug or alcohol use, violent images, nudity or bad language.

5.Click on the category you want to control. Then use your mouse to move the slider below the list to set the degree of restriction you want on that type of site. the degree of restriction can range from no restriction at all to the complete blocking of those sorts of sites.

6.Click 'OK.'

7.Set a password. You will be prompted to do so at this point. Setting a password will ensure that no one but you is able to adjust the parental control settings.

Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: trisha88 on February 03, 2012, 03:03:03 am
i only learned about that Jollitown sa pamangkin ko. may ganyan palang site
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: toughmom moderator on March 03, 2012, 02:33:54 pm
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Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: Mommy Jazz on January 17, 2013, 09:06:25 pm
My panganay, I give her 30 mins a day if she has finished all her assignments. Kasama na yung time ng pag download, everything she's working on. It's also a big factor na nasa common area yung PC so I can see if she really is doing her assignments (research) or is hiding an FB tab.
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: kiz_me1109 on March 19, 2013, 05:54:01 am
Grabe na talaga ang mga bata ngayon. We bought a tablet for our 3 year old son kasi wala kaming yaya ngayon. And we need something na pwede niyang gawin while we were asleep. Grabe, ang galing na niya gumamit ng tablet. Tapos, minsan pa e hirap na kami pakainin siya kasi nakatutuok sa table niya. Ok lang naman kasi Hi-5 lang naman ang pinapanood niya ng paulit ulit and baby games lang naman ang nilalaro. Kaso, ang hirap na niyang pagsabihan ngayon. =(

We have to start na i limit siya sa paglalarao kasi mags start na siya sa school this year.
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: sweetpumpkin on March 19, 2013, 09:47:51 am
my son is also turning 8 yrs old. mahilig din sya sa mga games...noong usong uso ang psp naisip namen bilhan sya..kaso hindi talaga pwede kasi makakasira sa studies niya...pagnapabayaan talaga ang bata na maglaro ng maglaro e hindi talaga titigil.nakikihiram lang ang anak ko sa amin ng iphone, laptop at ipad. pag tapos na tapos na lahat ng assignments niya saka lang sya pwede gumamit. pero limited time lang talaga.
pero mas gusto ko pa talaga limitahan ang pag gamit niya ng mga gadgets na ito. so ang ginawa ko bumili ako ng mga notebooks at drawing books niya na pag bored sya e yun na lang gawin niya. so far effective naman.
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: ❤Xian&Mam ❤ on April 16, 2013, 03:39:28 am
anak ko mula nung 6mos. palang sya lagi na hawak ipad e.
nanunuod at nakikinig na sya music dun.mag ngangawa yun pag tinanggal mo ipad.
lalo ngayon 3 y/o na na sya!
lalo pa nakikita din niya samin lagi kaming nasa harap ng computer...haha ;D
pero napapansin ko kapag nasa bakasyon kami sa pinas.nawawalan sya
ng time mag ipad,kasi busy sa pamamasyal gusto niya nasa labas lagi.sabik sa gala ;D
siguro kung marami sila kalaro o may ibang paglilibangan,mababalance naman siguro.
medyo wala palang choice sa ngayon kasi nasa loob ng bahay lang lagi eh.di naman pwede
basta nalang kami lalabas dito.bawal kung di kasama ang daddy,yun lang mahirap dito sa ME!kaya babad talaga kami sa computer.
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: mworx on April 16, 2013, 07:58:39 am
My 11yo son used to be so addicted to Ipad and when his eyes...  "kumukurap ng kumukurap" then we had an issue.  Ipad's brightness causes eye strain.  I am also addicted to games kaya nasasabayan ko mga anak ko (I am using Ipad.) pero kapag nararamdaman ng bata (o ako mismo) na medyo pagod na ang mata nila (ko), they (we) should give it a rest else.....

My son, tutal summer naman, simula paggising hanggang pagtulog ayun nakatutok sa laptop niya (Minecraft game).

Just make sure, they are playing the right games like my daughter.  Sa Ipad siyang natuto ng Phonetics and she can even tell 8 stories at one sitting.  Old fairytale stories with lessons are good kaya lang may bayad pag download.

Parental Guidance is a must. 

Lagi ko sinasabi sa anak ko (my 11yo son), don't watch movies/videos that is not right for your age.  When the right time comes, I will be the one to show you.  Responsibility and Trust should follow.



Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: Mommy Jazz on April 23, 2013, 12:45:02 pm
Ngayong bakasyon walang magawa mga kids sa bahay, I let them use computer pero after our study time. It helps if they are enrolled in a summer class para busy sila.
Title: Re: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: trish_avellana on April 23, 2013, 02:11:12 pm
I agree that kids today are learning to use the gadgets easily.  Kahit 2 yrs. old ko natuto na rin ng computer and touch screen cellphones.  But I always have to check on them na dapat limited lang ang time nila in computers and TVs.

They can start watching TV by 10am na so the time they wake up till 10am, they are able to play with their toys or go out and have some outdoor play.  Before it was 9AM but I observed ang haba na ng time watching TV so I moved it to 10AM para hindi naman stationary palagi.  Then in the afternoon they should take naps talaga.

If they act up and have tantrums, I simply ignore them para hindi ako ma-stress or ma irritate at the same time.  After some time I talk to my sons in a gentle manner and let them understand why they have limitations.  In the long run, the kids do understand naman.  As a parent, you have to discipline the kids talaga.  Yes, minsan naaawa kasi umiiyak but when you think about it, what you do is to mold them into great kids and eventually adults diba?

Hope this helps.


Title: My son is addicted to computer!
Post by: Tara Sazs on February 16, 2018, 09:53:53 pm
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I just want to know if any of you are facing this issue with any of your kids that are big enough to be using a laptop.