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Title: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: alec_18 on September 22, 2011, 03:27:51 pm
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hi mga mommies..sana happy pa rin kahit di sinwerte sa lovelife..i know may nakalaan si Lord para saten..question lang, why are you single, have been married and got separated or never been married, preggy pa lang ng separate na like me..:(..i don't know kung makikilala pa sya ng baby ko..

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Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: cottoncandy on October 13, 2011, 04:02:19 pm
I am single and a mother by choice :) SD and I separated the day before I found out I was pregnant. So far, so good. Being in a relationship is not a priority. Super happy and contented with my baby.
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: patsypat03 on October 14, 2011, 11:21:30 pm
Proud single mom-to-be. :D

SD broke up with me nung naconfirm ng OB na preggy na ako - ayaw daw niya, di pa daw kaya maging tatay. two days later, sila na uli ni ex niya. Oh well, I think may idea kayo what happened in between.  ::)
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: cheena on November 10, 2011, 02:55:11 pm
ako naman wish ko single nalang ako, kahit single mom ok lang, at least my baby ako, kaysa having a husband na wa naman care sayo.
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: aian on November 22, 2011, 11:04:14 am
proud single mom hehe


Mas pinili ni SD other woman niya kaysa sa amin ng anak ko..at 1st sobrang sakit nakakasira pala ng ulo pero with GOD's help and mga friends ko and  sa mga advice ng mga sis natin dito sa SP nkapag move on na ako pero hindi pa totally kasi pag naiisip ko pa ang mga ngyari at naiisip ko yung babae bumabalik lahat ng galit gusto ko gumanti gusto sabihn sa kanya kung gaano kasakit yung ginawa nila sa akin..wala na magagawa yun dahil pareho sila manhid at wala sila paki kung may na sasaktan sila na tao..kaya focus ko na lang sa baby ko na pinag kukunan ko ng lakas at inspiration ko..

darating din yung time magigiging free din ako sa lahat ng galit..




Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: ahyzeyuh on November 22, 2011, 01:08:44 pm
on my case ako yung other woman
the moment na i texted him that im pregnant- ayun tanggi si SD na hindi daw kanya

but since ginusto ko naman majuntis kaya okay lang

after i gave birth i texted him na nanganak na ako- he wants to come over but hindi ako pumayag

1st glimpse ni SD sa baby ko nong mag 1year old- he invited himself sa birthday

3yrs old na anak namin and 4times pa lang sila nagkita
we tried to work it out, pumayag ako maging other woman uli kahit walang sustento peru it didnt worked

just nov. 4. 2011 he finally ended it
siya pa my ganang magalit sakin
Single Mom Rocks  :D
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: Lizza on November 23, 2011, 04:26:46 pm
     My son is 1 year & 1 month when i finally decided to say goodbye to SD, mahirap i work out yung isang relationship na alam kong hindi na masaya yung partner ko and he's happy na with someone else. Actually during my pregnany were not getting okay parang were trying na maging maayos yung  relationship pero mahirap i work out kapag malaki na yung nasira especially the "TRUST".
     SD is not ready to be a father. He's not ready for the big "R" ( responsibility ). It's okay !! I can be a mother and a father to my son.... Go!!Go!!Go!!
      Ang sarap kaya ng feeling na nakikita and witness ka sa  every milestone ni baby. Lahat ng "first" andun ka sa tabi ni baby....
       Proud to be a Single Mom!!! Girl Power!!!! ;) :) ;)
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: aian on November 24, 2011, 10:01:09 am
@ sis Lizza agree ako sayo masarap talga yung feeling na w-witness mu yung bawat development ni baby tska unti- unti niya pag laki wala tulong galing kay SD..super fulfilling pakiramdam..  :)
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: 1sttimemom on December 12, 2011, 11:44:10 am
for me naman bago ko pa ma confirm na i was pregnant nagkawalaan na kami ni ex. when i informed him about it he told me he didnt want the responsibility from then on it was decided that i will be a single mom. its really tough but i get by with the help of family and friends. no regrets coz i have a handsome baby boy now. im a proud hot single momma!!! :)
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: moi angels on January 04, 2012, 06:43:06 pm
i am a very proud solo parent to 3 lovely angels! :)

it's my choice... i realized that i'm not really at my best when i'm in a relationship, even with the fathers of my kids. i'm enjoying the fact that i can raise my kids alone, tipong wala akong dapat alalahanin na gusto ng kabilang side. it's not that hard naman kasi i have my mom & dad to ask advises from in rearing my kids. :D
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: mariadj on January 19, 2012, 11:13:01 pm
kasi our relationship is not right on every angle....pero im hoping na sana one day ibigay na sa akin ni God yung right man na mamahalin din pati anak ko like his own
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: cye_20 on January 22, 2012, 03:27:13 am
I am single by CHOICE!!!! i don't want to tkae chances kasi, nagcclashed kami palage so might as well wag na lang di ba?? i am happy naman being single.. may lovelife naman ako, my SON...



Cheers to us, SINGLE MOMS!!!!  :)
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: Kuya Xtian on January 25, 2012, 05:38:06 pm
Most of the SingleMom are by choice. For sure sympre nag-iingat na sila. Mahirap nga naman mag invest ng feelings tapos in the end iiwan ka din ng irresponsible guy
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: princess cazzi on January 26, 2012, 10:24:40 am
despite of being single mom, I am so proud and grateful to have a daughter and supportive family around.

Pinili ko n lamang maging single mom kesa lagi n lamang ako mangunsumi sa kanya kaya iniwan ko n lamang siya sa palda ng kanyang nanay.mahirap makipagsapalaran sa isang taong walang "R" responsibility sa knyang buhay napaka easy go lucky p din niya despite all na meron n cia anak.

Ngayon mag 4 yrs old n anak ko sa  Jan 29, talagang naka move on n ako.Kahit makita ko cia deaad ma lang, magkasalubungan wala lang.Dahil wala naman cia sa aming buhay ng aming anak eh.

Bakit pa?

Sa ating mga Single Mom's, Go Go Go lang tayo meron nakalaaan sa atin...God Bless!
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: mommylovesyou on January 27, 2012, 01:57:38 pm
Hi fellow Single moms! 
Im single by choice. Mas pinili kong maging friends na lang kame ni SD, mas ngkakasundo kasi kami if we just remain as friends n lang. Saka ayoko magpakasal sa kanya, especially now na napaka-immature niya to the fact na mas matanda sya saken ng 3 yrs and napakairesponsable pa niya, kht p sbhin mong ok n kami pati sa parents niya, e ni isang kusing wala pang naiaabot saken cmula nung nbuntis ako.. At babaero pa sya. Di ako ttgal s kanya, di ko maimagine sarili ko kasi sa panghabang buhay.. And Ayokong ngpkastress s kanya.. And im proud to say i'm happy to be single and very excited for my baby. :)
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: KCs_mum on February 03, 2012, 01:26:36 pm
Hi, sissies! :) I'm new lang dito sa SP, but I'll post narin anyway. :)

I'm SINGLE by choice. I'm turning 20 na next month, I got preggy when I was 17 and gave birth at 18. Before ko pa malaman na preggy ako, SD and I broke up na. I won't go into details na, pero it was mainly because trust was broken. When I found out that I was preggy, I informed him. Hindi niya ito tinalikuran, in fact he even offered marriage. Pero alam niyo yun mga sis, hindi ko na kayang ibalik yung tiwala na nasira na. Tsaka I believe na hindi dahilan ang may anak kayo para magpakasal, kasi you'll end up separating din kung ipipilit niyo ang hindi dapat diba.

So yun. We should be proud! We're all strong ladies para harapin itong responsibility as a parent magisa. :)
Title: Re: why are you single??
Post by: bellamortem on February 22, 2012, 10:36:01 am
I am a single mom by choice din...I feel like im wastin my time with my husband. We always have a huge fight mas matagal pa kaming hiwalay kaysa sa magkasama kami..i'm better off without him kaya i decided to be on my own with my daughter. I did give him last chance nung nahuli ko sya may babae, but yung saktan niya ako ulit was too much for me.

so true na mas masaya pa pag wala kang konsumisyon sa buhay.
Title: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: nathzkimeme on March 11, 2012, 11:04:35 pm
Just wanted to share my story: [at para din maglabas din ng sama ng loob] :)

I was very much inlove with an indie film director and we were going steady for a year in a half. We had an on and off relationship when i got a job at a very known agency in makati and he felt that i didnt have enough time for him. Till finally we got back together for the last time and promised to make our relationship work. We were so happy together, even decided to get married after two years to only find out that i got pregnant, I was so happy until he told me to abort our baby. He said that if i kept the baby, i would lose him and if i aborted it; he'll still be in my life. I resented him so much because i saw my future with him even before we became an item, i saw myself walking down the aisle and waking up every morning with his face next to mine. I was so hurt and sought help from his family, i told them my case and his sister at first was siding with me; but to no avail, blood is always thicker than water finally shunned me aside and washed her hands clean of my unborn child.

I then found out that he started dating his ex girlfriend and made a big farce about how i was sleeping around with a lot of men and knowing how thomasian girls are, we swoon over men. I hated them both and out of that hate and anger, the pain ate me and i almost had a miscarriage during my 3rd month. He was dismayed to know that i was still carrying and wished that my baby had a defect. It was such a disgust to have a child with me and he resents ever getting into a relationship with me. He couldnt believe that he left his ex-gf for me. Then now I heard he's dating a younger girl who he just enjoys sleeping with because of her absolute willingness not to mention that she was from my college except she was in a lower batch. This young girl, so aware of my pregnancy, still allowed my ex to maim her and even supported the idea to not provide even provide us with financial support!! Hearing and knowing such hurtful words and actions from a person you loved ever so dearly, fought for, gave everything to; just ate me up and thus i decided to move on.

I can admit moving on isn't easy, like this morning; i cried remembering how I used to wake up and he would give me this mocking face but then realized; if you can't be with me nor our son why the hell should i waste my tears and effort on you. I was raised by a single mother that fought tooth and nail for my happiness and supported my dreams till my graduation day. I may have never wished or imagined myself to be a single mother, but I can daresay that I have the courage and strength to do every possible right decision that came my way.

During the start of my third trimester, the donor messaged me after so long, asking about how i was, how my pregnancy has been shaping up and how he wanted to see me. i simply sent him a message stating that he knew where i worked, he knew where i lived, he knew my friends, he knew how to reach me, he knew my work schedule. He could easily find me but he just chose not to, so why say that he wanted to see me if he couldve made an effort.

I am about to give birth in a couple of days, hoping for a successful one, i know God always gave me tests and knowing that this is another, i know i can go through this on my own with or without him. My son and i will have each other, he can have his other women and be irresponsible - i can't even bother.  It just angers me that there are still cowardly jerks out and about the city crawling with their tails between their legs. I just wish the films that he makes will never see the light of the indie scenes ever again. :) I just hope that every inch of pain, sacrifice and hurt i felt will return to him 100x more.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: Mrs. Anderson on March 11, 2012, 11:16:20 pm
Same topics merged.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: megamalls on March 16, 2012, 11:01:22 pm
(http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=112655398857302&set=a.112620072194168.14734.100003385281378&type=3&theater) sobra hinabol ako ni SD haha di ko kasi sinabi na preggy ako dahil sinaktan niya ako ng sobra.
Im super happy na with my new relationship ngayon :) (http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=112655398857302&set=a.112620072194168.14734.100003385281378&type=3&theater)
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: margauxmarx on March 29, 2012, 11:15:27 am
hello momies!!

newbie po ako pero sali na din ako. single na din po ako by choice..
married ako, then after ilang moths preggy na, hangang sa ilang months
ulit, nahuli ko si hubby mag chiks, pinag bignayn, nahuli naman ng dadi ko
with the same woman, pinag bigyan ulit, at ater ilang months.. ako  na ang
naka huli... tapos!!! umalis kami ni baby sa kanila..
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: meisan21 on March 31, 2012, 08:56:18 pm
hi mommies!

single din ako kasi di ko kaya ginagawa niya sakin eh. preggy pa lang nag decide na ko makipaghiwalay. panu naman kasi everyday niya akong inaaway, sensitive pagbubuntis ko tapos sinasabihan akong maarte e buntis lang naman daw ako. while preggy kasi we've talked na dito muna ko sa parents ko to spend time with them since hihiwalay na ko sa kanila. and at the same time makaipon sya ng pang gastos for hospital etc. Tinanggap sya ng family ko at minahal ko sya kahit ang life niya ay sinasabi nilang "isang kahig isang tuka".
sinisisi niya ko sa lahat ng bad experiences na nangyayari sa kanya. example na lang, umiinom sya at nalalasing kasi di daw kami magkasama.
another example, wala syang makain at baon sa utang at kasalanan ko pa un. e wala naman syang binibigay na kahit anung support or kahit pang prenatal vitamins lang.
Eto pa, hinihingan ako ng mom niya ng pera pambayad daw sa rent ng bahay na kinuha nila. Grabe!
He even told me na I dont deserve to be a mom and isa akong masamang mom!?
Super dami ng reasons para di kami magkatuluyan.
Basta nakakainis. nung pinutol ko na communication with him, naging maganda at maaliwalas pa ang pagbubuntis ko.

Thanks to my loving family for the love and support!
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: lovecrislyn on April 17, 2012, 10:27:05 pm
Hello po mga sis. I'm a single mom naman po since pregnancy. Nung nalaman ko na I'm pregnant and sinabi ko kay SD (first and only bf that i had) parang ayaw niya at hindi niya alam gagawin and i felt he is driving me away pa nga. At hindi na rin ok ang relationship namin noon. So nag alsa balutan ako at umuwi sa province. My parents accepted me naman. I changed my number din and never tried to contact him. Pero iyak ako iyak almost everyday. Pero pinipigil ko rin maging sad dahil masama sa baby. Alam naman niya add ko sa province pero hindi talaga siya nagpakita. Then one time ginamit ko yung old number ko, nagtext sya ng quote about love ganyan (quote?! hehe) pero ayoko na talaga sa kanya kaya hindi ko na ulit ginamit sim na yun. News blockout til ngayong 2yrs na si baby. Hehe. Ok na po ako, nakamove on na with baby. Pero takot na po ako mainlove ulit. Hehe.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: lovecrislyn on April 17, 2012, 10:27:46 pm
Hello po mga sis. I'm a single mom naman po since pregnancy. Nung nalaman ko na I'm pregnant and sinabi ko kay SD (first and only bf that i had) parang ayaw niya at hindi niya alam gagawin and i felt he is driving me away pa nga. At hindi na rin ok ang relationship namin noon. So nag alsa balutan ako at umuwi sa province. My parents accepted me naman. I changed my number din and never tried to contact him. Pero iyak ako iyak almost everyday. Pero pinipigil ko rin maging sad dahil masama sa baby. Alam naman niya add ko sa province pero hindi talaga siya nagpakita. Then one time ginamit ko yung old number ko, nagtext sya ng quote about love ganyan (quote?! hehe) pero ayoko na talaga sa kanya kaya hindi ko na ulit ginamit sim na yun. News blockout til ngayong 2yrs na si baby. Hehe. Ok na po ako, nakamove on na with baby. Pero takot na po ako mainlove ulit. Hehe.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: ilovemybaby on April 20, 2012, 08:10:19 am
Hi mga sis, pajoin din ako. To be honest, I'm still half hearted about being a single mom. Hindi ko alam kung bakit im still hoping na magiging maayos lahat between me and my husband kasi siguro bago pa lang. Anyway, mahirap lang talaga siguro yung taking that first step. My story, si husband had an affair before and naulit ulit pero with a different girl. Di ko sila nahuli pero a trusted friend told me. As usual, deny ng bongga. Hanggang sa isang araw, siya na mismo ang nagsabi na gusto niya ng tahimik na buhay at ayaw na niya sa kin. I had to let him go.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: Errych on May 30, 2012, 11:30:13 am
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Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: tharti_moan on June 18, 2012, 05:56:48 pm
Hi Mommies,

Me naman... I think, I'll be Single Mom because I have no choice =) 

I was impregnated by a married man, and currently separated with my so-called husband.  I thank God that SD didn't deny the baby, and he's willing to support financially (depende kung anong kaya niyang ibigay since siyempre, prioritize ang first family).  Pero since our love affair is discreet, hanggang dun na lang role niya.  Honestly hanggang ngayon, hindi ko matanggap yung ganung set up lalo na, we love naman each other, pero I have no choice.  He has an 11 year old son, and married for 11 years.  Civil lang sila ng legal wife niya since they know naman that they're just being together for the sake of their son.  Ako naman, blindly in love pa rin and hinihintay lang siguro yung time na mawala na yung love ko sa kanya sa sobrang dami na ng heartaches ko sa sitwasyon at kung sa ano ano pa. 

Hopefully by October 2012, ma divert na fully lahat ng pagmamahal ko sa katawan sa baby girl ko para makapagsimulang maka move on sa sitwasyon.

Alam ko, mas marami pang Mommies out there ang mas mabigat ang dinadala sakin for being a single Mom, and my highest respect to all of them! 
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: mattimaldita on June 22, 2012, 09:45:15 am
Hello! Super Fab Mommies! Just wanna share my story on how i became a single parent.

I became a single mom by choice. I was in a relationship with a man that is Non-Filipino and a Muslim. I know from the start that we will never end up in the altar and live happily ever after. But, still we continued our relationship until i get pregnant. We talked about the situation that he will support me (except financially) until i give birth and after that he doesn't want to be associated with the baby anymore. He just wants to be updated through facebook and email by sending photos of the baby. Right now, we are still communicating but we are no longer in a relationship. I don't know if i am doing the right thing of sending him photos and still keeping in touch with him... My friends and relatives are telling me that i should stop sending photos since he's not supporting us financially. What should i do?
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: zhie on June 24, 2012, 06:59:10 pm
Hello SP mommies.. :D

Naging single mom ako kasi nakipaghiwalay ako kay SD nung buntis palang ako. Plano ko kasi magtapos ng pag-aaral kaya pinapili ako ng parents ko kung magsasama kami o hindi. As of now, kalmado lang ako lahat ng kaya at pwede kong ibigay kay baby binibigay ko. At makatapos lang ako ipapakilala ko si baby kay SD. Selfish ako kung iisipin pero mas gusto ko makatapos para maibigay ko yung THE BEST kay baby.. :D
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: kiko18 on June 26, 2012, 01:08:53 pm
a single parent. got separated by my hubby for almost 2 years now (10 yrs kaming married). asusual sumakabilang bahay siya. haay naku ang lakas ng loob umalis tapos now nag eentertain nako ng bagong lovelife parang ako pa yun me fault kung bakit hindi kami magkakabalikan. hindi ko kelangan ipilit sarili ko sa ayaw and besides siya ang umalis.
at first i was devastated for months. good thing nalang eh umayos yung record ko sa office lagi kasi akong late at absent nun kami pa at mas naging sexy ako kasi pumayat ako  ;) kaw ba naman hindi makakain at makatulog eh.
im now okay and contented na ko na ako nalang with my kids. i just realize na it made me stronger as a person and i really don't need a man like him.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: fennylane on June 26, 2012, 09:57:18 pm
^
hahaha..thats good!atleast sumexy ka...lol.super feeling naman c xhubby mo..kakatuwa sarap sakalin...hehhehe..go sa new lovelife sis!!Goodluck!!(but be sure all is legally on its place para walang bulilyaso..alm mo na ;) )
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: fennylane on June 26, 2012, 10:07:28 pm
im a single mom with no choice hehe..kw ba naman umbagin ng kaliwat kanan!kahit gusto mong ikeep yung family db?kung isa lang ang nagawa ng paraan para mbuo yung pamilya wala ding mangyayari.and so i ended up a 15yr old marriage.by the way,we were seperated for more than 7yrs now.lst yr i gave birth to a cute baby boy courtesy of my bf..pero sad to say di na kami..mahirap mgtaguyod ng 3bata..tpos magisa ka lang...dumarating yung time na lonely pero andyan naman c Lord na ngreremind that im not alone...malungkot db mga single moms?pero nkakaalis ng pagod at lungkot yung mga babies ntin...
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: kiko18 on June 27, 2012, 01:07:05 pm
dumarating yung time na lonely pero andyan naman c Lord na ngreremind that im not alone...malungkot db mga single moms?pero nkakaalis ng pagod at lungkot yung mga babies ntin...

haay oo nga eh. pero pag tween na yung kids ang sakit sa bangs!!! akala ata tropa lang kami hehe
oh well buti na lang me ganitong forums..addict ako sa forums..lol

hoping parin na me makilala ako for a new lovelife  :)
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: Blake on June 27, 2012, 01:58:01 pm
sakit no? ako  nasa stage pa lang ng pagddecide kung magiging single parent ba ako o tatanggapin ko ng paulit ulit ang babaero kong bf. nasa tan** tangahan stage pa rin ako.
i swear, i know the right thing to do pero ang hirap gawin.
di ko alam kung love talaga ang reasong ng bf ko kaya di niya ako mapakawalan or revenge.
wala na kasi kaming trust sa isat isa. will that still work for us?
im the happiest pag magkasama kaming tatlo, without care in the world, just happy.
di ko alam kung ano na next step.
sa ngayon nagooffer syang alagaan anak namin. ssama daw sya sa amin. sakto kasi naghhanap talaga ako ng yaya para makahanap na ako ng work. eto ang punch line, ako pa magbibigay ng pamasahe niya papunta dito. saklap. ang effort.


kinig kayo kay papa jack sometime ha. :)) kkarelate minsan.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: kiko18 on June 27, 2012, 03:11:10 pm
kung walang trust..what's the use of living together.
eh di lagi kang in doubt during your time together..tapos worry ka pa lagi kung totoo ba sinasabi niya.
maybe you're just happy pag magkasama kayo kaso superficial lang yun eh.
you need a foundation sa relationship niyo kung ano ba talaga balak niya.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: Blake on June 27, 2012, 04:02:50 pm
i heard of other couples who regained their trust to each other. siguro that'll take Time. Mahirap na process yun, But im going to give myself another chance. my mga mistakes din kasi ako, i mean, may part din ako sa pagkasira ng relationship at trust namin. kaya ganito. so basically, if i change,  he will change also. it's just that hindi pa kami masyadong mature siguro. kahit ako, i always let my anger consume me to the point na nasasaktan ko sya physically. sometime in the past dahil sa sobrang hurt, frustration, at bitterness i let myself Hurt and ruin myself just to get revenge. parang ganun nangyari.
im building my life again kasi. with my kid. we're just young. and stupid. kailangan lang talga ng initiative.
at plano na rin. medyo strong na din kasi ako, so siguro not bad to give us another chance.
malay natin magwork na this time. if not, then, again, move on, at least i tried to change and do good sa relationship namin.
so sa ngayon kasi, iniisip na din namin anak namin.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: mommynifm on July 09, 2012, 09:31:53 pm
hi mommies :)  newbie here first time ko lang din magpost.. hmm single momy with no choice din ako like mommy tharti_moan he has 3kids and they're still together ng kanyang wife they were married for 3years kasi lately lang sila nagpakasal sa huwes dahil na rin sa eagerness ni wife niya since matagal na silang live in  my family knows him dahil he's my superior from my previous work pero they've decided na putulin lahat ng communication na meron kami dahil sa sobrang galit nila kay SD kahit willing pa si SD na magbigay ng support kay baby. nung may communication pa kami before he gave me his other atm at dun siya nagiipon para sana sa panganganak ko at sa baby namin but never ko pa ginalaw. walang alam family ko dito dahil ayaw na talaga nila humingi ng anything kay SD since sabi nila kaya naman nila kami buhayin. kaya ayun.. we love each other but since he's married.. single mom with no choice.. waiting for me na lang na mawala na sana yung love ko sa kanya para tuluyan ding makamove on sa sitwasyon..
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: tharti_moan on July 10, 2012, 09:59:52 am
Hi mommynimaicon!  :)

It's good to know that there's someone like you na almost same ng situation ko.  My S.D. is also my superior at work but prior to that, we're from the same circle of friends.  Ang difference lang natin, my family and my ex-husband have no idea what I'm going through.  By the way, I'm currently 6 months pregnant now courtesy of my S.D.  ;)

Same din S.D. natin na willing mag support financially kay baby.  Plano rin niyang mag deposit ng financial support through ATM, but currently, nagbibigay na siya ng cash pero pareho din tayo, never ko rin ginalaw in a sense na hindi ko nababawasan pero whenever na gipit ako, kumukuha ako dun then binabalik ko din agad yung nakuha ko kapag pay day.  hehe...

Same din tayo na S.D. and I love each other talaga but since he's married, and his wife is a good friend of mine... single Mom with no choice.  :(

Lastly, same din tayo na waiting lang din ako na mawala na sana yung love kay SD para maka-move on na sa sitwasyon.

Sis, you can PM me anytime.   :)

Nice meeting you in SP.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: iamananey on May 07, 2013, 03:18:20 pm
My husband and I separated three (3) years ago. He is five (5) years younger than me.  I was 26 years old and he was turning 21 years old when we got married.  I thought even he is still young he is matured enough to stand for our relationship. After the birth of our son, he suddenly changed. Super gulo. We do not talk to each other. He always come home late.  There was a time na nakasabay ko sya pag-uwi with his office mate hindi niya ako pinakilala na asawa niya.  I feel like ikinahihiya niya ako.  May mga babaeng tumatawag sa phone niya and saying that my husband and I had something which truly hurts me. These girls were telling me na matanda na daw ako. huhuhuhu Hindi na ako mahal ng asawa ko. Pinili niya yung babae na anak over us.  I was so stressed then. Pakiramdam ko hindi niya kayang magpakatatay sa anak ko pero dun sa ibang tao kaya niya.  I know na time would come magkakahiwalay kami.  I thought i would be ready pag nangyari yun pero hindi.  Nasaktan pa din ako ng todo-todo. Nadepress pa din ako.

Hindi ko pa din sya napapatawad but for my son i need to re-open our communication. Recently, my son met his father and my son was so happy.  That was the time i realized na I need to forget myself. Am not doing this for reconciliation but just for my son.  Ayokong maging selfish and unfair sa kanya.

Forgiveness is not easy to do.  It would take time. We will never be friends again but we need to be parents for our son.

Now, i am continuously praying for guidance and strength for my son.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: Jijiera on July 09, 2013, 09:19:42 am
Hi mommies! Im currently starting to embrace single mommyhood at the moment. Im 3mos preggy and the SD denied the baby kesyo baog daw sya and that I dated someone else bago maging kami which I personally think is a desperate move para lang matalikuran yung responsibility niya. Irresponsible guys could say anything and everything para lang makatakas sa responsibilidad. Sobrang mama's boy at takot maghirap. Wala na ako contact sa guy and his family kasi i dont think may mangyayari pa dahil walang kwentang lalaki naman sya. My family decided to not include him in my baby's life at hindi kami desperado para ipilit yung bata sa taong walang bayag at takot sa nanay niya. Para saan pa sa sustento? Il just work double time kaysa naman humingi ako sa pamilya niya. Baka isumbat pa nila sakin kada pisong ibibigay nila sa anak ko. Wag na lang noh!

Sa una lang masakit ang abandonment mommies. When you come to realize that you and your baby would be better off na kayong dalawa lang mas matatanggap nyo yung nangyari. Advise ko lang sa mga iniwanan din ng mga SD nilang walang kwenta, wag na wag kayo maghahabol no matter what. Pinakamasakit sa kanila makita na kinaya natin magpalaki ng healthy, smart at cute na mga bata without a single cent from them. Out of sight out of mind. That was the greatest advise na binigay sakin. Time heal all wounds so lilipas din lahat ng ginawa nila satin. Dadating din yung time na makakarecover tayo at mawawalan na tayo ng pakialam sa kanila kahit pa mag syota sila ng sampu sampu after nila tayo iwanan. May karma naman mga sis. They will have their turn soon :)
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: rhovie on July 19, 2013, 11:11:41 am
hello mommies :) i'm a newbee here and im really glad i had found out this page because it really helps me a lot. :) anyways, im sharing my story, 6 years ago, I was the so-called considered by my friends and family as a model college student, not because i'm beautiful or pretty, but because i had an outstanding scholastic record at school, and then I've met SD, we easily been attach to each other because we have a lot of similarities, most especially in music in which he is the bridge on how I was become a part of our School marching band. We had a year of being together, until I found out that I was pregnant, I feel like I'm the worst people in the world, and the SD also wants me to abort my unborn baby, but due to the values that my parents had establish on me, i disaggree, and then eventually, he became cold, I had to stop studying because being pregnant is not allowed in our school since its a strict catholic school, so i had to bare all the pain of carrying the sadness, depression, and anger from my parents, my friends didn't know that i was pregnant and i didn't tell them either because i was so afraid of critism, I was on my 6month of pergnancy when i found out from a friend, that SD got his girl best friend pregnant, and the girl had a miscarriage and SD didn't support her all along, it was that time i really decided to become a single mom, and few months had passed and my own bundle of joy was born :) after giving birth I decided to just work for the future of my baby, but then, my parents said, most especially my mom told me to continue my study in the same school where SD is on his terminal year in college. since our school is  not that big compare to other schools, most of the time, our path had crossed and he ignores me, and i was found out that he spread a news to our school that I had an affair with other guy and got pregnant that is why he leave me. I just laugh upon hearing this because he tried to defend himself on something that is not really know. But I had to continue, I just look at him and looking him in the eye like i was telling him that THIS IS THE GIRL YOU LEFT. and then i walked away. With God's grace, I graduated from college with a bachelor's degree and im now currently working for the future of my child.


I was really a blessing in disguise to become a SINGLE MOM :)
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: papa_bear on July 19, 2013, 11:28:43 pm
Hello mommies,

I admit while I'm reading all your stories I felt so down and heart-broken. I was raised and loved by a single mother and I can feel all your emotions. Everytime I hear stories about girls na iniiwan ng mga lalake dahil nabuntis nila at ayaw umako ng responsibilidad, nanggagalaiti na ako sa galit. What more yung mga kung ano-anong rason at kasinungalingan pa ang sasabihin para siraan ang mga babaeng nabuntis nila at para magmalinis sila ng ganon. Minsan ako pa ang mas galit kesa dun sa nagkwento. Ang hirap kasi sa mga t@r@nt@d*ng mga lalake yan eh magaling lang sila sa sex tapos pag nagbunga na yung kalibug@n nila eh atras mga itlog nila. (I'm very sorry for my words, can't help it). Hindi naman sa sinasabi kong perpekto ako pero alam ko kasi yung hirap ng mother ko sakin. At tinaga ko sa bungo ko na hinding hindi ito mangyayari sa magiging anak ko. Hinding hindi ko ipaparanas yung dinanas ko noon na lumaking walang ama. Gusto ko maging example sa anak ko kung pano maging responsable. Pero sobrang saludo naman ako sa mga single moms. Iba kasi yung mapalaki mo yung anak mo ng hindi na kelangan maghanap pa ng kalinga ng ama. OO, andyang minsan naghanap ako ng father figure kasi sa school halos lahat ng mga classmates ko kumpleto family nila pero ni minsan hindi ko sinumbat sa nanay ko na bakit wala akong ama kasi ang alaga niya daig ko pa ang kumpletong pamilya. Fulfilling kasi sa pakiramdam ng ina yung kahit sayo lang masaya at kuntento na ang anak.

Mga mommies, based on my experience di hamak na mas malalakas at matatapang pa kayo kesa sa mga ama ng anak nyo. Walang duda na mas may itlog pa kayo sa kanila (nasa loob nga lang at hindi nakalaylay) kasi kinaya nyong akuin yung responsibilidad na tinalikuran nila. Be strong and focus sa anak ang susi sa matagumpay na pagpapalaki sa anak. Ilapit nyo sila kay God kasi Siya ang tatayong tatay nila. Sa tuwing kailangan nila ng support, patawagin mo sila sa Kanya. I guarantee it's 100% effective. Sabihin nyo "Sumalangit na ang iyong ama, at parehas pa kayo ng ama ni Jesus" =)

Sa ganitong sitwasyon lagi namang talo ang mga babae, pero mas panalo kayo sa laban kasi kasama nyo yung batang bunga ng inyong pagmamahal at sa paglaki ng bata hinding hindi kailanman makakamit ng buo at totoo ng mga ama nila yung feeling ng tunay na pagmamahal mula sa anak. Hinding hindi madadaan ng ama sa pagbili ng mga laruan o sustenong pinansyal na mahalin sila ng anak nila gaya ng pagmamahal ng anak sa ina. Yan ang karma nila sa pagtalikod sa mga anak nila. Kayang kaya niyo yan mommies! Always look at the positive side of the story at sa mga nabasa ko naman eh alam kong nakita nyo na. God bless single moms! Bilib na bilib ako sa inyo.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: leegirl on July 26, 2013, 08:29:30 am
Hi. I never thought na magbabasa ako ng stories about single moms. pero ito na. nangyari na sakin.
iniwan din ako ng bf ko for 3 years. umalis lang ako ng 1month bakasyon pagbalik ko, sabi niya baka daw hindi kami para sa isat isa kasi lagi kami nagtatalo. normal lang naman ang away diba lalo samin kasi 23 at 24 palang kami. hindi na niya ko kinakausap kapag nagdadrama ako sakanya. at ito nagpapakatatag ako palagi. naiiyak ako minsan natatawa na ewan. pero nung sya yung mali hindi ko sya iniwan. kahit di sya nagsusupport samin financially since mabuhay ang anak niya, sinama pa namin sya sa SG at KL nung nagbakasyon kami tapos ngayon ang dinadahilan niya baka daw pag pumunta sya ng canada may mameet sya.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: violet.crumble on August 09, 2013, 12:36:02 am
hi everyone.  I'm a new single mom.  My husband passed away just 2 weeks ago in the Cagayan de Oro blast.

I have no idea what to do, or where to begin.  I have two boys ( a 3 year old and an 8 month old).  I have been very dependent on my husband , who was a very devoted husband and father.  I am devasted, I am grieving, yet people tell me i need to be strong for my boys.  How?  When my strength was my husband.

I don't know what prompted me to join this thread.  I guess, I'm reaching out to other single moms, hoping you can guide me on how to do it... how to be both a mom and a dad.  I don't know how you do it, and i sure admire you all for your strength.

Thanks and hope i can meet new friends and mentors here.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: dontcallmebarbie on September 15, 2013, 09:29:13 pm
Hi mommies, my story is quite different from all of you...

Ive always been a lesbian, had 7 lesbian relationships before i met SD, He's already married and already had 3kids, when we became lovers I know what im getting myself into, maybe out of curiousity or i just cant resist his charms. our relationship lasted for 3years. When i told him I was pregnant he was happy and sad, alam niya kasi yun na ang start ng downfall ng relationship namin.

When my family found out about my pregnancy bantay sarado na ako, my parents were scared that his wife would find out and sugudin kami, i dont think my parents are ready for that. my parents are conservative and catholics, abortion is out of the question, my parents and siblings supported me all the way, with only one request, for me to stop communicating with SD. I stopped seeing SD and told him id rather break his heart than break my parents heart again. I told him when i give birth he cant come to the hospital, that he would not have any  part/role in my baby's life, that theres noneed to give any financial support. He has no choice so pumayag na sya.

I gave birth last may to a baby boy who looks exactly like me, everynow and then SD texts and ask how we are. Smetimes i reply and sometimes i dont. I told SD we can be friends but not lovers anymore and that he cant see the baby for now.

Right now some of my exes are asking if im still interested in lesbian rels. I know i am, but im not alone anymore, i have a baby to think of so relaionships are a no no for now...


Thats my story mommies :-))

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Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: ahyzeyuh on September 26, 2013, 01:08:39 pm
MODS promote ko lang yung isang thread or pwedi din siya merge

hi mommies,
Meron po kami single mom group sa FB.
its more on expanding our network of friends.

some mommies are single by choice others are by chance

all single parent is welcome to join

its not available thru searching. its a private group coz other mommies are too open about personal info and issues. they can rant and express anything they have in mind.

if interested please check this thread http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parentchat/index.php/topic,53321.msg893040.html#msg893040

or look for the topic >  support group on fb for single moms 
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: psyche17 on October 24, 2013, 06:15:10 pm
i'm a newbie here. i just want to share my story
my bf and i were only together for 6months when i found out that i was pregnant. i thought that it is the start of our happy life together. i was so wrong.
he had a past (2 kids with different mothers). my family and i accepted it. we got married. and during the my last trimester suddenly things were different. hindi na sya pumupunta sa bahay namin. we didn't live together since wala naman kame ipon to get our own house and malayo yung house niya sa work ko and yung house rin namin malayo sa work niya.
his ex-gf (mother of his first child) texted me one night saying na nakikipagbalikan sa kanya ang husband ko and madalas sa kanila umuuwi. i asked him about it and he denied it. until the day that i gave birth. hindi sya pumunta sa ospital. he changed his number. i was so hurt and devastated.
dinala ko sa house nila ang baby ko after 4 months and wala pa rin. i was hoping that we can patch things up but andun pa rin sya sa "first family" niya.
now i've decided na i will no longer ask for financial support for my child (wala naman talaga sya naibigay since we learned that i was pregnant). all i asked from him is annulment of our marriage so he can marry the person that he is with.

sometimes i'm thinking what if i made a different choice about him. what we were never together and i am with someone else. but then if we were not together i wouldn't have a very handsome baby boy now.
in time i will be ok
Title: Why you're a SINGLE MOM?
Post by: maia2013 on November 11, 2013, 05:13:35 pm
Hi mga sis! what's the reason why you are a single mom? I know marami tayo dito na single mom, share your stories...and let's exchange ideas and thoughts. Lets say, anong age ka when you became a single mom, what did you do...etchetera...

I'm excited to read your stories! thanks :)
Title: Re: Why you're a SINGLE MOM?
Post by: MaraMeow on November 12, 2013, 08:12:20 am
Im a single mom because dineny kami ng father ng baby ko. Hindi daw sakanya ito. Hayy kaloka! nanganak ako 2 months ago, 19 years old lang ako. Ang ginawa ko na lang is nagpakatatag ako. Hindi ko na hinabol pa yung lalaki kasi alam ko sa sarili ko wala akong mapapala kasi we are both young, nagpapakasaya pa siya sa buhay niya ngayon. pero ako I am matured enough to face the consequences ng ginawa namin at accept the responsibility na alagaan ang baby ko. Ayaw ko ipilit sarili ko sakanya, masaya naman ako ngayon eh. Ang ganda ng baby ko, healthy pa. :) Malaking tulong talaga kung may support, love and care ng family mo. kaya ngayon happy ako sa buhay ko kasi binigyan ako ni papa God ng isang cute na blessing. :)

how about you sis maia2013 what's your story?
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: maia2013 on November 12, 2013, 09:15:34 am
Hi sis @MaraMeow... I gave birth last June, noong una delightful naman si X, sya pa nga nagpiprisinta na magbigay ng name kay baby since we already know na girl ang magiging baby namin, then when I'm on my 5th month hindi na sya nagpakita, never din ako naghabol kahit alam ko bahay at work niya, I even changed my contact numbers, ayaw kase saken ng mom niya as if mayaman sila, kaloka!hahaha!

Then I found out na my ka-live in na pala sya na una pa saken, at may tatlo silang anak. Imagine ginawa akong mistress without my knowledge!

Yes, super mahalaga ang support ng family. They never fail to show love and support samin ni baby. Sobrang saya ko din ngayon, kasi I have more reasons to live. Masama man ang nangyari sa lovelife ko, I still have reason to be thankful and that's my daughter na super cute din at healthy :)

the funny part is, lately may naririnig pa ako na hindi daw sa kanya ang anak ko while unfortunately eh kamukhang kamukha niya. Nakakatawa lang na ang dami ko naririnig na para bang naghahabol ako? sila ang hindi maka-move on! while ako super happy and contented. At wala naman ako balak humingi kahit pisong duling sa kanya no...that's not so me :)
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: proud_daddy on July 10, 2014, 06:39:31 am
Proud of you mga single mom... soon enough you will bless..keep on standing on your baby.. two thumbs up..
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: Godiswithme on September 19, 2014, 10:03:58 pm
Single Mom of 2. Let him go because of his kaadikan sa Sabong.
He's always out on Saturdays and Sundays which is Family Day dapat.
When we fight tungkol sa pag alis alis niya, nagbabago saglit pero after a while balik ulit sa dati.

He doesn't inform me where he's going and who's with him.
Even I know na pupunta sya sa Sabungan but mas ok parin na alam ko kung san at sino kasama.
Laging ubos ang pera when I ask him to buy Milk for the kids.

He worked in a Cruise ship for 3 Years and pag uwi wala naman inaabot na pera (Last pay), wala na daw syang money so ag tendency lahat ng inipon ko sa mga padala niya yun ang nagagastos ko which is supposed to be for our vacation.
So yung plan namin na trip to Bali and Palawan walang natupad.

He even planned for our Wedding, pagiipunan daw niya paguwi from Cruise pero wala na din.

We decided na umuwi na sya for good and he was jobless for 8months kasi ang hirap makahanap ng work.
But I shouldered every gastusin and never obliged him na tumulong cos I know kapag nagka work na sya, magtutulungan kaming dalawa.

Just this July nagka work na sya but out of 13k na salary niya per payday, 1 to 4k lang ang binibigay niya then ayun wala na laging pera.

I am thinking na hindi talaga matutupad lahat ng dreams at plans kapag ganun sya. HIhilahin niya lang ako pababa when I just wanted to have a Happy Family. But he is sensing that I'll ask him na iwanan ang pagsasabong kaya siguro when we had a fight, he said na "Sige wag kang mag-alala bukas aalis nko". He's 33 but still immature.

I hope I made the right decision.  ;)
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: gara0630 on March 04, 2015, 03:16:27 pm
Hi Single Mommies!

I'm one of the few women who has the same fate as you guys are. I've been a single mom since I gave birth last June. Medyo tragic ang story ng buhay ko starting from the time that I knew I was pregnant up until I gave birth. THe father of my kid made a fool out of me. Nakilala ko lang sha online and we started our "relationship" days pa lang ng magkita kami, I got pregnant 3 months pa lang kami nun. At first he was saying okay lang walang problema, but after the long run, madalas na kaming mag-away. He's even asking money from me kahit nung buntis na ako. Hindi niya rin pinaramdam sakin na supportive sya at all during my pregnancy to the point na sobrang stressed ako nung malaman ko na nakikipag-kita pa pala sha sa iba. Marami ng times na nakikipag-break sha ayaw kong pmayag kasi nga mahal ko sha and magkaka-baby kami. Ni hindi sha dumalaw sa hospital nung nanganak ako ( so for sure, hindi rin niya tanda birthday ng baby namin )

After kong manganak nakikipag-communicate sha hindi dahil gusto niyang makita ang bata kundi nanghihingi sha sakin ng pera, kung hindi ko daw bigay gusto niya, hindi ko na sha makokontak kahit kelan. DUmatng kasi talaga sa point na hinahabol ko sha para sa bata.

Ii tried to search his account sa FB and there I found na may girlfriend na pala sha even before pa kami nagkakilala. Ngayon, ex na rin niya daddy ng baby ko and sa kanya ko nalaman na 14 pala lahat-lahat ng anak niya ( inamin lang niya sa akin is 2 ang anak niya) Ayon sa awa ng Diyos ngayon, may bago na shang girlfriend na for sure pineperahan niya and masayang-masaya sila.

First few months I felt na nagpo-post partum ako sa sobrang stress sa kanya na dumating sa point na ikinapayat ko ng bongga. Supposedly kapag na-CS mataba after manganak, kabaligtaran ang nangyari sakin.. Kaya nahihirapan akong mag-move on. But now, i'm still having a hard itme pero at least wala na akong nararamdamang masyadong sakit kasi tanggap ko na yung kapalaran ko na magiging SIngle Mom ako and tanggap ko na rin na hindi kami importante sa kanya.

ILike what other felt, gusto kong gumanti sa kanya but naicip ko na sakit lang sa ulo yun. Hintayin ko na lang yung karma niya. Sa ngayon kapg nakikita ko ang baby namin, masaya sa pakiramdam kasi despite na sobrang stress ako nung pinagbubuntis ko sha, hindi sya sakitin and masayahing baby sha, yun nga lang sobrang kamukha niya ang daddy niya.

Tanggap ko na Single Mom ako and I'm trying my best to be able to provide what my kid needs. I'm also looking forward for future bonding namin especially kapag malaki na sha ( girl ang baby ko).  I was so happy na girl and anak ko kasi yun talga ang gusto ko, kahit hindi na ako magka-anak ulit, sha lang...sapat na.

Medyo magulo ang kuwento ko, pagtiyagaan niyo na lang. Bilib ako sa mga single moms na hindi takot humarap sa responsibilty. CHeers to Us!
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: jhenzky13 on March 22, 2015, 11:36:31 pm
Hi Single MomZ..

Bago lang ako dito.. pero this past 3 months nakahiligan ko magbasa basa dito sa SP..

Anyways, share ko lang story ko.. OFW ako, nagwowork ako sa UAE before I got pregnant.. My baby's daddy is a Syrian.. and he is a Muslim.. di ko alam kung masasabi ko bang single mom ba talaga ako o hindi.. but simula nung umuwi ako ng Pinas i already put on my mind na I belong to that group.. the single moms..

I started to live with him when we were just a month its June 2013.. ang saya ang sweet niya at super maalaga.. he is treating me like a queen.. super! lahat ng gusto ko binibigay niya sakin.. then after 6 months i am going back to Pinas for vacation and he also had his vacation sa Syria.. Dec. 2013 kami umalis nauna lang sya ng 2 days.. after a month Jan 2014 balik UAE na ako.. during our vacation di kami madalas mag usap.. not araw araw ha.. then nagstart na ko sa work.. im asking him kung kelan sya babalik lagi niya sinasabi next week... hanggang naka 1 month na.. one time sa whatsapp my nag message sakin ang sabi "Congratulations and Best wishes" before kasi kami magvacation sya nagamit ng number ko.. so dun ko nalaman kinasal na pala sya sa pinsan niya.. grabe! sobrang sakit.. tinanong ko sya kung bakit di niya sinabi sakin agad sabi niya ayaw niya daw ako saktan kasi mahal niya ako at napilitan lang daw sya.. para sa nanay niya.. medyo nawalan na ako ng pag asa na babalik pa sya.. at nawala na rin kami ng communcation.. sabi ko sa sarili ko mag move on na ako.. kaya nagchange ako ng number.. then Feb 2014 nagtext kapatid ko sabi sakin tawag daw ng daw ang bf ko sa kanya tinatanong kung nasan ako.. at dahil memorize ko number niya tinext ko sya.. nagpunta sya agad sa bldg ko at nag usap kami.. dapat di ba ako ang iiyak? pero naubos na yata luha ko kakaiyak nun wala pa sya.. kaya nung nag usap kami sya ang nagluluhod at nag iiyak.. nagmamakaawa na balikan ko sya.. mula nun niligawan niya ulit ako binigyan ng mga pangako na pakakasalan niya ako.. ako naman si tan** nagpauto nanaman.. March 2014 nagsama ulit kami.. now im not a gf coz now im a mistress.. masaya, enjoy parang nakalimutan namin na may nangyari.. di niya pinararamdam sakin na may asawa sya.. kapag nakikita ko sa phone niya n nagtetext asawa niya di naman niya tinatago.. kaso di niya nirereplyan o tinatawagan man lang.. ako pa nagpupush sa kanya na kahit once a week tawagan niya kasi babae din ako.. kwento niya pa sakin ng 1 month daw sila nagsama pro 3 times lang sila nag sex.. kasi nga ako ang mahal niya.. syempre di ako naniwala.. lalaki sya eh.. then April 2014 nag ayos kami ng papers para sa court marriage namin.. nagpamedical na din kami.. pero suddenly sinadya ko idelay.. nagbago isip ko.. kung ano ano dahilan ginawa ko para di kami matuloy.. para kasing di ko kakayanin may kahati forever.. un nafeel ko that time.. then June 2014 nagvisit yung Mom niya.. pinakilala niya ako.. magkakatabi kami natutulog sa hotel.. enjoy super saya.. feeling ko ok ang lahat.. pinaliwanag niya kubg bakit sila pinakasal.. at Mom niya pa mismo nag swear sakin na gusto talga ako ng anak niya at gusto ako pakasalan.. magaan sa feeling..

Then sabi ng bf ko need muna daw namin maghiwalay ng bahay kasi para makatipid kami.. at makaipon pang pakasal.. sakin naman ok lang para di ko need ipaaalam lahat ng gagawin ko.. July 2014 separate house na kami.. pero everyday niya ako sinusundo at hinahatid after work.. then dumating yung time na after niya ako ihatid nag ooff sya ng phone binibuksan niya na lang pag susunduin niya na ako para ihatid sa work.. so nagtataka na ako, di naman sya ganun dati.. then suddenly naisip ko icheck yung whatsapp ng wife niya.. nakita ko yung status na masaya sya.. kasi madalas status nun lonely at sad sya.. nagmessage ako ask ko sya kung nasa UAE sya.. FYI kilala niya ako na gf ng asawa niya kasi may pic kami sa fb ng bf ko.. at alam niya din number ko.. then nag reply sya sabi niya oo kaya mag meet daw kami at magusap..

Then nagmeet nga kami at nag usap.. nung una akala ko sasampalin niya ako o sasaktan o pagsasalitaan ng masama.. pero di niya ginawa yun.. mabait sya.. at sa kanya ko lahat nalaman na lahat ng kwento sakin ng bf ko about sa kanila eh totoo.. sya na mismo nagsabi sakin na naiingit sya sakin kasi ako ang mahal ng asawa niya.. pinakasalan nga sya pero di sya magawang mahalin.. di ko alam dapat ko sabihin pagkatapos ko marinig yun sa aswa ng bf ko.. at eto pa habang nag uusap kami tawag ng tawag bf ko sakin.. samantalang 5 hrs kami magkausap ng asawa niya never tumawag sa kanya.. grabe! puro reklamo narinig ko sa asawa niya 1 week na daw sya sa UAE pero nasa bahay lang sya para daw sya estatwa.. kaya sa awa ko ako ang nagtour sa kanya.. di ako pumapasok para maitour lang sya.. kasi at least mapasaya ko man lang sya kahit papaano..

Nagulat ang bf ko nung nakita niya mga pics namin ng asawa niya na magkasama.. abot langit nanaman ang pag sosorry niya sakin.. then pag alis ng aswa niya August 2014 sabi ko parang ayoko na kasi naguguilty na ako may nasasaktan kami.. kung kailan ready na ako mag move on.. kahit mahirap kasi mahal ko talaga sya at alam kong mahal niya rin ako.. saka naman kami nakabuo.....

Oct 7, 2014 i knew i was pregnant for 6 weeks.. then end of the month umuwi na ko ng Pinas.. until now may communication pa kami.. mostly everyday kami nag skype.. i dont have work here so i dont have income kaya pinapadalhan niya ako allowance and allowance for our baby..

Honestly gusto niya magpunta dito to marry me.. pero my Mom refuses.. ayaw niya.. my Mom knows that he is married already.. kaya ganun.. and now im 7 months preggy at inaaccept na magiging single mom na talaga ako..

Pasensya sobrang haba yata..  at nakakainip.. pero gusto ko lang ishare.. Anyways, im just 25 at kayang kaya ko pa buhayin baby ko.. sabi ko nga i dont need a husband but my baby needs a father.. then what i need to do.. ayoko naman maging selfish eh.. at ayoko din naman maging martir.. i have an option that me stay as single and he will still be my baby's father.. kaya ganun set up namin ngayon..

Sana advice naman dyan kung tama ba yung gagawin ko.. for me and for my baby..
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: ahyzeyuh on March 25, 2015, 07:00:34 am
mahirap mag advise sis sa totoo lang. ur making a great deal of decision making.
ipagpray mo kung ano ba talaga ang dapat mong gawin, hinge ka ng guidance.
in making decision, think about the future... not because ur pregnant or not because of ur moms decision

Update lang ako, hihi tagal na rin pala since huling post ko sa thread- i gues 2yrs ago pa
my baby is now 6 years old
Civil pa rin kami ni SD.
walang allowance si baby from him

i survive the single mommyhood, with friends and family around me.
its not easy, but kaya naman  :D
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: nikkiniks on May 25, 2015, 10:37:45 pm
I am a young and single mom. Before I gave birth, malabo na talaga relationship namin ng ex-bf ko because of third party thingy.. but then, when I gave birth to my baby girl it suddenly changed. The guy who used to be my ex reconciled with me again... That time, I was really happy because i'm on my way in achieving my dream of having a happy family yet I was wrong pala.... hindi pa rin pala dun ang tuloy, a week before my baby's 1st bday, he left and decided to be with the other woman.... no communication, wala ng kumusta o anuman, walang pakialamanan ba..... so then, I decided to take all the responsibilities of a parent, being the mom and dad at the same time, kahit alam ko that time that I was broken and pained...... Pero I am lucky and blessed that God gave me my daughter that became my strength and life.... ngayon mas happy kasi alam ko naman sa sarili ko na napapalaki ko ang anak ko ng tama at maayos...  :) Single mothers are the most strongest person in the world! :) ;)
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: sweetlove on February 28, 2016, 07:32:14 pm
Hi mga mommies,Bagó lang po ako dito sa site na to..single mom din ako for 8 years,wala na ako work ngayon però sustentado kami ng SD ko.ok po kami ng dad ng són ko.thankful pa rin ako kasi Hindi niya pinabayaan ang anak ko.nakilala ko siya na may asawa na pala.that time Hindi ko Alam.
Title: Re: Single-mommy-hood, what's your story?
Post by: mommyleon on April 03, 2017, 03:28:42 am
Hi everyone! My son is turning 3 this May and I've been a single mom for almost 2 years. Son's father found another love and I guess she's his true love so I let them be. We ended our relationship the day after our son's first birthday since I found out that he's still seeing the girl she fell in love with, but we were already on rough ride before that and we tried to keep up for our son. Tried hard at begging him and the girl to give my son a family but didn't work. Since the break up, my son got the chance to see his dad once that was Christmas 2015. I'm a proud working single mom. I know I can survive all hardship in my life as long as I have my son's smile and giggles.  ;)