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Title: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mami che on March 24, 2012, 08:13:28 am
I really cant decide mga sis...  :o

My hubby doesnt like me sana to go back to work para i could take care of our kids. Tutok kung baga :)  but kung kaya financially ni hubby (tho' surviving/struggling)  - why go back to work?...

if i will go back to work, i could give "more" to my kids... more pasyal & vacations, more stuffs (toys, clothes,etc), could enroll them to summer classes (even 2 activities of their choice), i could renovate the house of my parents little by little, i could have my monthly beauty regimen without asking from hubby, i could help hubby in our monthly expenses... etc... parang ako yung sa side ng "more"...

Dilemma : i doubt if my preschoolers will still be no.1 in their respective classes kung less tutok na ko... if we could still do assignments together when i arrive from office...if i could still asikaso the needs of hubby early in the morning before going to office... My mom would be here naman to look after the yayas and kids but still not confident with my kasambahays right now but anjan naman mama...

Tingin nyo sis?  :-[

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Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: missheizy on March 24, 2012, 08:49:12 am
Work sis ;) God has its own way to provide good people around you to guide the kids like your mom and kasambahay, lay down the rules siguro sa yaya, never stop working, plus , yun nga , you could help hubby to augment needs ng mga bata and the house ;)
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mika-madz on March 24, 2012, 08:58:33 am
if it's okay with hubby, then work... :) i'm a SAHM, ganyan din worries ko, but good for you, you have your Mom to look after the yayas.. ako kase hindi ko maiwan kids ko dahil wala akong yaya makuha n maayos at busy din ang Mom ko with her business kaya wala din titingin sa mga mag aalaga ng kids kung sakali.. supportive naman ata si hubby e, go na sis... just make sure you could still perform your duties as a wife and mother., that's more important.. time management lang yan at diskarte  ;)
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: lovemybabe on March 24, 2012, 09:07:51 am
Sis, if you're mom will be there all the time to check on your kids and yaya then its ok if you go back to work. Maybe you can find a job that is only from monday to friday, so you can still spend quality time with your kids on weekends. If your husband supports you on your decision to go back to work, then go!
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: chococream on March 24, 2012, 09:28:07 am
in this sentence pa lang sis " My hubby doesnt like me sana to go back to work " ayaw ni hubby mo na bumalik ka sa work it says a lot already.

though you need a lot of financial help kasi struggling kayu, point out muna siguro to your hubby the pro's and con's of the situation. Lumalaki na ang mga anak nyo, its high time that you both should set up savings na din for emergency and future needs. Lumalaki din sabay ang gastos the more years naggrow ang mga anak.

masinsinan lang na usapan sis sa hubby mo, mahirap naman kasi if babalik ka sa work tapos hindi talaga pumayag si hubby...malaki ang epekto sa pamilya nyan. mas masarap maghanap buhay if whole heart na supportive si hubby sa choice na bumalik ka sa work, mas tutulongan ka din niya sa mga bata after work mo.
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mami che on March 24, 2012, 02:53:12 pm
Na enlighten ako - sobra-  sa replies nyo mga sis...  ::) many many thanks...
My kids are ages 5,4,3 & 1.... will they be really ok without mommy beside them?  :-[  some are saying "maliliit pa sila kaya wag mo munang iwanan"... others naman "habang maliit pa, magwork ka na ulit habang kaya pa silang ihandle"... Honestly, grabe yung dilemma sa akin mga sis... pero mas nagiging clear na ngayon than before... haaaaay... Thanks a lot!
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: ♥♥♥ RXmom ♥♥♥ on March 30, 2012, 01:21:37 pm
Although I think late na yung comment ko.. wanna share din tutal yung experience ko medyo similar syo..
well isa lang naman anak ko but about sa pag-aalaga sa kanya naiiwan sya sa mil ko. si mil ang hands on
sa kanya but kapag dumating naman ako ng house.. ako na ang nag-aasikaso. okay lang magwork if feel mo
magwork and if hindi kaya ng salary ni hubby. ako nagwork ako kasi sayang din naman kinikita ko dito and hindi
pa ako pressured but planning to stop na din and magfull time na lang ako sa home base business ko kasi
may times na mas malaki pa kita ko sa home base business ko kesa sa full time ko. hindi din naman ako
pressured sa home base ko kasi may mga tao akong hire para magtrabaho sa akin. minsan kumikita ako ng
minimum na 30k per month sa home base ko.. ang iniisip ko lang naman sa work ko is yung benefits like
insurance and yung sa SSS, pag-ibigand phil health.

ikaw naman mom mo magbabantay sa mga anak mo so mas panatag loob mo not like sa iba yaya kaya it's up
to you pa din.. but if hindi ka magwork edi magbusiness ka na lang.. tulungan pa kita :D
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mami che on March 30, 2012, 03:50:52 pm
Hi Sis! parang interesting yung home- based business mo ha... puwede bang malaman bka kaya ng powers ko :)
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: ainge88 on March 30, 2012, 08:46:02 pm
Yan din ang drama ko sis dati. :) marami tayong ganyan ang dilemma. Kaso baliktad tayo. Si hubby ang gusto ako magwork. Ako naman I wanted to be a SAHM. Kaya naman kasi kami buhayin ni hubby ng hindi na ako nagwowork needs pati mga wants at luho namin kaya. But pumayag ako na magwork muna, tulungan ko siya mag save tapos pag mataas na position niya, full time housewife na ule ako. Kaso sa kasamaang palad, umuwi yaya namin. And wala magaalaga kay baby so ayun, resign ako.

Personally, in my opinion, I won't go to work. I'll stay home :) but that's just me ha. Kasi ako hindi ako career driven. Kung kaya ni hubby na tustusan kayo, I'd rather spend my time at home. Being your kids are babies pa pala :) mabilis lang lumaki yang mga yan hehe with yung mga summer activites, you can do activities that are free! Ikaw ang tumayo na art teacher nila, dance teacher etc. Bonding time niyo pa yan :) sa mga pasyal pasyal naman, in my case mas nakakapasyal pa kami nung sahm ako kesa working haha kasi nung weekends pagod ako and minsan may work pa so ganun. No more time kahit may money naman hehe pray ka lang. Offer mo kay God yung situation mo. I'm sure you'll get the answer :) God bless sis!
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mami che on March 30, 2012, 10:13:44 pm
Thanks so much sis ainge88  ha :) another eye-opener  ;)
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: Anne Mercado on April 09, 2012, 05:12:23 pm
Mami Che, it really depends on what fulfills you or what your priorities are RIGHT NOW.

If I were in your place, I would opt to stay home with my kids and just work from there (even part time). There are a lot of jobs online.

Because honestly, my kids might remember all the fancy clothes, vacations and activities I can provide them if I work in an office when they're grown BUT I'm a firm believer that what will impact them the most is quality time.

Not only do I believe in this but there are a few studies that have looked into the positive effects of mom's nurturing their children. It's not about the vacations or toys but the time spent together.

If I may, here is one post about how nurturing affects a child's brain development: http://goo.gl/GNeiv (http://goo.gl/GNeiv). Here's another one about mother-child relationship affecting obesity chances: [urlh]ttp://goo.gl/9Bgs2[/url]

But Mami Che-- if it will give fulfillment to work outside the home go ahead. Nurturing is all about quality and not quantity :D Hope it helps. Good luck!
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mami che on April 09, 2012, 09:57:11 pm
Many thanks sis anne! ill keep all what you've said in mind...  ;)
Parang nahirapan ulit ako magdecide hehe  ;D
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mami che on April 15, 2012, 07:34:13 pm
Had a little Q&A with hubby a while ago... Discussing my plans of going back to work... Tho parang galing sa ilong  (:D) he said again (& again daw...) "basta hindi magsa-suffer welfare ng mga bata, go ahead"...
How will i take it mga sis?
A challenge that i can be a great working mom or
should i read between the lines : he is worried na bka nga magkaproblema with the kids if im not around or
stay put wifey-just stay at home & take care of our kids?  ::)
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: chococream on April 16, 2012, 04:20:35 am
Im not sure lang sis ah (benefit of the doubt) pero As I understand the comment of your husband ang dating sa AKIN is

STAY PUT WIFEY-JUST STAY AT HOME AND TAKE CARE OF OUR KIDS...

ewan ko lang kasi based sa pagka kapal na ego and pride ng hubby ko and among the super many men in the family, pagsabi ng husband na CEGE KUNG IKAW BAHALA, yan kasi sasabihin most of the time pag luwag sa loob ang approval pero pag hindi madaming sweet coating ang words pero ang mean is ayoko talaga.
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mami che on April 19, 2012, 10:03:52 pm
Waaaaahhhh sis chococream!!! Korek na korek ka   ::)
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: Mommy France on April 20, 2012, 12:28:56 am
Ask ka sis kahit 1 year. Kasi kailangan mo rin masagot yung sarili mo kung mas gusto mo ba sa bahay or mag-work.
mas maganda kung sa'yo manggaling yung sagot para hindi ka nahihirapan.

Probation period. Kung sa tingin niya hindi mo manage together then choose. pero ask him to give you a chance.
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mami che on April 20, 2012, 05:54:35 am
Pero mommy france, kung ayaw talaga ni hubby (and i want to try if i can juggle), do i have to be submissive with hubby's decision or fight for what i want?

Naalala ko tuloy yung "secrets of fascinating womanhood"  :D
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: chococream on April 20, 2012, 07:24:11 am
work around the situation siguro sis, negotiate nalang muna and try it out while wala pa ang back to school
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mami che on April 20, 2012, 12:27:27 pm
sige sis chococream, will try ulit  ::)
Many thanks!
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mami che on April 22, 2012, 06:35:27 am
After all the talkies with  lambing, explanation & tempting offers  ::) hubby told me indirectly na wag nko magwork  :-\ medyo nalungkot ako kasi parang naexcite din kasi ako bumalik ng work... namimiss ko na din gumawa ng projects ... parang i have a lot to offer pa sana ... but i remember, hubby asked me nung mag bf-gf pa lang kami, "are you the kind of person na kayang igive-up ang career for ur family?" ... haaay ... Now i know...
but still, mga sis, try & try pa rin bko? Tama ka mommy france, i want to know kung masaya pa rin bko kung magwowork ulit ako or baka naman ako naman din ang aayaw... i want to have that chance sana pero parang firm c hubby. Yoko naman mamilit... Mali ba kaya approach ko? Super light naman na style ko... masaya naman ako being sahm, no questions about it pero parang may small empty part in me lang...

Haaaaay mga sis... Thank you talaga.  :)
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: MommyPupu on April 22, 2012, 05:30:02 pm
din ba pwede meet halfway? parang try muna at least 3mos of working then decide?

Pero kasi sa case mo it seems you have 2 or more kids , reason why your hubby wants you to stay at home na lang

ako naman natatamad na mag work but due to budget constraints, i need to go back after giving birth :-\ :-\
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: chococream on April 22, 2012, 08:39:39 pm

"but i remember, hubby asked me nung mag bf-gf pa lang kami, "are you the kind of person na kayang igive-up ang career for ur family?" ... haaay ... Now i know..."

sorry sis ha, pero natatawa lang kasi ako  ganito din ang minsan tinanong ni hubby sa akin, now i remember din ang sagot ko, Yes, but meron akong freedom na gawin gusto ko, not too much strict or all my life sa bahay ...bsta yon...

SAHM din naman ako sis nasa bahay lang talaga ako as in, 2 to 3 hours lang ako nakaka labas and thats market, grocery or meron bibilhin na kung ano. Pero happy ako sa situation ko kasi fulfilled, and im free to do what I want in the boundaries of moral and means namin. Hindi naman din sya nag restrict sa akin now at busy ako sa work ko homebased and online marketer kaya ok lang din kay hubby.

seaman si hubby sis, kaya I understand na gusto niya talaga bahay lang ako to take care of our daughter. Kawawa kasi anak namin walang natitira parent to supervise her upbringing, its not that i undermine those that work both parents pero iba iba tlaga kasi ang calling natin.

cheer up sis, Don't give up.
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: finnmore20 on April 23, 2012, 04:44:14 pm
I'd rather be a stay at home mom. Hindi naman sa tamad. Pero we all know na being a mom, marami tayo responsibilities, cleaning, cooking, taking care of our child. But I also want to have a part-time work if there's one :)
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: syndyela on April 24, 2012, 09:36:20 am
Wow, sis, buti ka pa pinagsstay at home ka ng hubby mo...ako nga kinaladkad sa trabaho na hindi ko ginusto or hindi man lang namin pinag-usapan e...hehe.

Siguro ang payo ko is to do something na hindi mo ire-regret in the future.  My mom wanted to work noon pero pinag-stay at home siya ng dad ko...wala namang naging problema sa pagpapalaki sa amin ng mommy ko pero minsan naririndi ako sa kanya (nung college na kami nito ha) evertime she nags about not having enough money para ipangbayad sa loans nila ng dad ko noon and mga reklamo na ang baba daw ng tingin sa kanya ng mga kamag-anak ng dad ko kasi wala siyang trabaho, na sana daw pinayagan nalang siya magtrabaho para nakatulong siya financially sa dad ko and hindi siya mamaliitin ng mga tao sa paligid (nagkaroon kasi ng time na nagresign dad ko sa work and sobrang walang wala kami nun and mom ko ang sobrang stressed kasi siya ang gumagawa ng paraan para magkapera kami-- as in utang dito, utang doon para lang may makain kami).  Kahit hindi niya sabihin, alam ko sobrang sinisisi niya dad ko na hindi siya pinagtrabaho.  Kaya gusto niya ako maging working mom para hindi ako magaya sa kanya.

But then, as her daughter, wala naman akong reklamo sa way na pagpapalaki niya sa akin.  Sobrang nakita ko naman sacrifice na ginawa niya sa aming magkakapatid, kaya ngayon, sobrang nitrtreat ko lagi siya and lagi siya may gifts from me, hehe.  Sobrang close kami ng madear ko and sobrang love ko siya.

You may work naman pero piliin mo nalang yung kind of work na kukunin mo, yung hindi maaapektuhan ng sobra ang family mo para wala ding masabi si hubby na pinapabayaan mo ang famliy.  The last thing na gusto nating mangyari is si hubby naman ang may masabi sa chosen career mo.  Sobrang time management skills ang needed pag magwork ka.  And sobrang patience.  Goodluck sis! :)
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: arla on April 28, 2012, 12:35:24 pm
@ hi mami che   if your still looking for work especially kung home based lang, i know one. i am a homebased english tutor for japanese. flexible ang time, kaw bahala kung ilang hours in a day or how many days in a month mo lang gusto mgturo. actually pwd mo din syang gwing full time job or part time job kung gusto mo. when it comes to salary i can say mas ok sya compare sa magwork ka ng 8 hours sa office. I am also a SAHM, my son is only one year old, wala rin akong mapag-iwanan ayaw ko naman kumuha ng yaya. di ako palagay pag di ko masyadong kilala yung mag-aalaga sa anak ko. My husband din ayaw ako magwork mas gusto niya tutok ako sa family namin. if your interested here's my email address arla.vicencio@gmail.com
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mami che on April 30, 2012, 05:50:04 am
@ mommypupu, d kasi puwede na 3mos lang. Sana nga kahit 1month trial period  lang muna noh?  It wud be a lot easier to decide ;D

@ sis chococream, thanks ha.. You're right. Ito ang calling natin... maybe i just need to iron my thoughts kasi dami dami iniisip  :) and kayong mga sisses ang nagcclear ng mga options ko.

@ sis finmore20, same tayo. Im looking for part-time... might work for me too  :) we have plenty sisses here who offer good part-time jobs.

@ sis syndela, thanks sis... i'll keep that in mind. Yung sobrang time management and patience.. actually, sa time ako nagwoworry... kung sakaling magwowork ako sana kaya ko... whew!   ;)

@ sis arla, sent you an email. Thanks!

Many many thanks sa inyo mga mommies... Lapit na May so i gotta decide soon. My boss is waiting na din kasi for my decision.... goodluck to me  ;)


Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: syndyela on April 30, 2012, 02:34:22 pm
@ mami che, you're welcome and God bless sa pipiliin mong career :)

@ arla, pwede din ba akong mag-email sayo?  I would like to try din kasi homebased work.  Nung before ako magka-work ulit, nag-apply ako sa Rarejob, pero tumawag sila after ako natanggap sa corporate job ko ngayon kaya I had to decline it.  Pero I really wished na yun nalang yung career na kinuha ko.  Anyway, I'd like to try it this time, para naman may gawin ako after ko mag-resign sa current work ko.
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: arla on May 01, 2012, 10:29:17 am
@ mami che, sis already send you an email

@ syndyela, sis actually sa rarejob ako ngayon. :) apply ka ulit sis, every evening lang naman ang lessons di ba. so far ok naman ako sa job ko ngayon. i still have more time sa son ko.=)
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mami che on August 04, 2012, 02:05:10 pm
Guess what mga sis... August na and im still a SAHM  ;D
Hirap talaga magdecide... Cant leave my kutings. Kaya naghahanap  ako ng mga online stuffs na puwede pagkakitaan lately para naman hindi parasite sa hubby...
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: aries_momma on October 24, 2012, 04:04:21 pm
ito rin pinag-iisipan ko ngayon, I'm still pregnant pero iniisip ko na kung magwwork pa ba ko after I give birth or help out hubby sa business. Meron ako work ngayon, home based siya madali lang naman pero ang pay is not more than P20k a month. Ayaw din ni hubby magwork ako sa office set up lalo na't bagsak ko callcenter or bpo kasi undergrad ako. Ang hirap lang sa work ko ngayon since freelance wala talaga ako maternity leave, kamusta naman kapag nanganak na ko kaya gusto ko na rin give up yun. ganito lang kasi mangyayari if I decide to go back to work na office set up:

1. kung makahanap man ako work na more than p20k salary ibig sabihin ayaw ko yun nature of work na nasa phone the whole shift, susuko rin agad ako. kung makahanap man akong work na hindi nasa phone expected salary is less than p20k parang hindi rin worth it.
 -- isipin mo kung malaki ba talaga kikitain mo if ever magwork ka. worth it ba yun sweldo sa effort mo sa work? kung ngarag ka tas sa ending di mo mapigilan magreklamo sa sweldo, it's not worth it.

2. kung magwwork ako ulit halos 9hours a day or worse 9hours a night shift ko nun. matagal diba?
 -- worth it ba yun ganun katagal sa work para sa sweldo? sa case ko parang hindi worth it.

3. kung magwwork ako papano yun compensation vs. expenses ko?
 -- yun fare papasok ng work and food mo for work. sa case ko sabi ni hubby ang mangyayari hatid-sundo ako pero kung iba sa case mo mapapagastos ka rin ba if you work?

4. kung tumulong ba ko sa business ni hubby, mas malaki kaya kikitain namin 2? mas okay ba mag manage ng time if I choose to stay at home?
 -- una syempre ang negosyo may ups and downs pero may idea naman na ko sa nature of business ni hubby kaya napakiramdaman kong kapag 2 kaming magtutulungan dun kesa hiwalay na work ako mas malaki kikitain namin AND hawak ko pa oras ko.

Pero case to case basis din kasi yan.. sa set up kasi namin ni hubby he assured me na he can provide for us kahit na di na ko magwork, kung tutuusin tama naman kasi talaga siya kasi siya ang may mas malaking kita sa amin. kailangan alamin mo rin kung sa papasukan mong work ma-compensate ba niya yun oras and efforts mo? kasi para sa akin kung super pagod ka rin sa magiging work mo tas mahabang oras ka sa office tas di naman kalakihan sweldo, worth it ba? yun siguro maganda basis kung magwwork ka or hindi. actually kahit kanino tao naman hindi lang din for mothers applicable yun ganun. lagi kasi dapat iisipin ng tao na kung well compensated ka ba sa effort and time mo. kung sa case mo kaya ni hubby buhayin family niyo that's a plus. kung naghahanap ka naman for self fulfillment and may sarili ka pera pwede ka magpart time work or sideline lang na business.
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: jem.sexy@yahoo.com on October 24, 2012, 04:27:31 pm
^i really liked what you've posted

" lagi kasi dapat iisipin ng tao na kung well compensated ka ba sa effort and time mo. kung sa case mo kaya ni hubby buhayin family niyo that's a plus. kung naghahanap ka naman for self fulfillment and may sarili ka pera pwede ka magpart time work or sideline lang na business."

parang light bulb moment itong statement na ito for me, ty.

Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: mami che on October 24, 2012, 04:37:02 pm
Actually sis aries_momma, yan ang target ko ... at least 30k ang salary kung babalik ako ng work... But still, ayaw pa din ni hubby... pag 70k daw ang salary ko baka sakali pang magbago daw isip niya  ;D

Mahirap na talaga mag magdecide sa life once you become a mom because your children changes your priorities... Mas worried ka kung kamusta ang mga kids mo sa bahay than the deadliest deadlines to meet sa work mo... kaya up to now, SAHM pa din ako :D
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: jem.sexy@yahoo.com on October 24, 2012, 04:54:05 pm
^so true you're post

"Mahirap na talaga mag magdecide sa life once you become a mom because your children changes your priorities... Mas worried ka kung kamusta ang mga kids mo sa bahay than the deadliest deadlines to meet sa work mo..."
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: saissey_kaikai on October 24, 2012, 06:13:25 pm
Thankful ako kay hubby kasi he's been so supportive with my career. ayaw niya akong tumigil sa work not because hindi namin kaya financialy, but because for my own personal growth. ayaw niya daw na balang araw malosyang ako sa house at kalawangin ang utak ko. alam niya kasi na hindi ako yung tipo ng babae na pambahay lang. I want to keep on going, I love adrenalin rush.
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
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Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: Momsi on May 16, 2013, 09:12:31 am
If you hubby allows you to work at okay lang sa kanya, why not? Ganyan din ang worries ko before (nung may office work pa ako). Do you have relatives ba to look after sa yaya? Para no worries ka rin na all is well kapag nasa office ka. just make sure you could still perform your duties as a wife and mother., that's more important.. time management lang yan at diskarte

But there's other way naman sis, you can try looking for online work. Work sa bahay, para you don't have to leave the kids with other people/yaya. Pwede rin you can hired one,  you're there naman to look after the yaya.

You can work anytime at the comfort of your home, Plus you also have more time sa kids mo. May income ka pa.

Why don't you try sis.
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: Momsi on May 27, 2013, 07:20:21 pm
Hi Sis,

For me, stay at home ka na lang. Para you have more time with your kids. Ako ilang years
din nag office work. Pero dumating yung point sa buhay ko na gusto ko family naman ang
priority ko. Yung anak ang uunahin kesa sa work.

Hindi naman ako nagsisi. After 1 year na sa bahay lang, swerte at may nakita ako seminar
sa isang blog. Seminar ng mga gustong mag work kahit sa bahay lang. I attended the seminar
Sept 15 2012. Alam mo ba by Nov 23 2012 nakakuha ako na online gig/job.

Kaya happy na rin ako. Though at first hindi ganun kalaki ang income. But in time, once marami
na akong online skills na alam, more income na yun for sure.
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: sangolko on June 07, 2013, 05:59:38 pm
Sis momsi pashare naman po what kind of job. :)
I'm Sahm for almost 2 years, at gusto ko na din bumalik sa work kaya lang takot ako iwan si baby. Ayaw ko kase naiiwan sa iba anak ko kaya no choice but to stay at home.
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: Morefun on July 03, 2013, 04:59:23 pm
Hi sis, gusto ko rin sana na SAHM kaso hubby asked me to help financially.  So ito nag wowork na ko.  Blessed naman ako sa work ko kasi, ngayon, na approve ang hinihingil kong schedule.  I will have more time for my baby.  Uwi ko na ngayon sa house ay before 4pm.  Kaya happy na rin ako.  At least now, I could give sa family, sa sarili ko and sa church namin.  Although siympre, may cons pa rin.  Pagod ako and I had to stop breastfeeding my baby.  Di ba she stopped at age 2 years old.  Ok na siguro yun di ba?  :D
Title: Re: To go back to work or to stay at home?!?
Post by: Mommy Jazz on December 27, 2018, 09:20:36 pm
Read it on Smart Parenting.
Blogger Mom's Chart Comparing Working and Stay-at-Home Moms Causes Uproar
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 https://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parenting/real-parenting/stay-at-home-moms-vs-working-moms-controversial-chart-a00228-20181226?ref=?ref=parentchat (https://www.smartparenting.com.ph/parenting/real-parenting/stay-at-home-moms-vs-working-moms-controversial-chart-a00228-20181226?ref=?ref=parentchat)