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Title: My new yaya is a tomboy
Post by: mami che on August 25, 2012, 09:55:06 pm
Ive got a new yaya again but i didnt know na tomboy sya.well she doesnt look like one. May itsura pa naman.  She's just 16yrs old from our province. Sabi ni bro, tomboy daw sya pero nahihiya lang magsabi. Then naconfirm ko nga na tomboy sya kasi may girlfriend daw sya at kinuha ni gf celfon niya... Ok.. Tomboy... Fine. Nung una, parang no issues... but then, pag kausap niya my eldest (girl, 6years old) na ang daming tanong ng anak ko re: her hair, her shorts, etc- kako di kaya bad effect yun sa anak ko? Yaya na may identity crisis. Iniisip ko tuloy kung ipapasa ko nlang sya sa iba or oobserve ko muna na baka babae naman sya...  ::)
Title: Re: My new yaya is a tomboy
Post by: Mommy France on August 25, 2012, 10:24:35 pm
Just answer your daughter's question. I'm sure it will help her realize what's going on and she'll have an open mind.
My brother is gay and my son often would sometimes ask him why his hair is long instead of short like his grandfathers' or my husband.

I just remind him that people have preferences. I keep it short and simple - "because that's how tito wants his hair".
I'm sure habang tatanda yung anak ko mas marami pa siyang itatanong, pero I will answer.
So far wala naman akong nakikitang negative effect sa kanya - hindi rin naman siya nalilito. Nagtatanong lang.


Title: Re: My new yaya is a tomboy
Post by: mami che on August 26, 2012, 03:44:26 am
Thanks mommy france!

Sana lang, sa akin sya lagi magtanong... might get wrong info/notion kasi sa iba.
i'll keep that in mind - to answer short & simple  :) thanks!
Title: Re: My new yaya is a tomboy
Post by: Mommy France on August 26, 2012, 11:04:19 am
Kaya nga it's best na tayo yung sumagot kapag nagtanong sila kesa sa iba magtanong dahil hindi natin sinasagot yung tanong nila. :D
Title: Re: My new yaya is a tomboy
Post by: Lelen on August 26, 2012, 08:45:13 pm
I dont think wala ng identitu crisis ang yaya mo sis kase at 16 alam na niya ang identity niya. My pamangkin din na nakakasama namin dito sa bahay is a tomboy. Pabor pa sa akin kase boy ang anak ko kaya puwede silang maggaslawan pareho. ;-)
 Tama si mommy france, answer every question short and simple. And Im planning na when Enzo can undertand na, ill explain kung ano ang 'ate van' niya. And tell him to always be polite and respect her just the way I do to all gays.
Title: Re: My new yaya is a tomboy
Post by: mami che on August 26, 2012, 10:11:46 pm
Thanks sis lelen!

Actually, dun ako nagwoworry.may girl kasi akong anak (na nasa "sponge year") kaya napaparanoid ako na baka may maihawa si yaya esp sa pagkilos. Well, i guess, i need to tutok din kay yaya para macorrect din yung mga attitude or kilos na medyo mali  :D

Thanks! Thanks!
Title: Re: My new yaya is a tomboy
Post by: mami che on September 03, 2012, 05:25:42 am
Hay naku mga sis..  ???

i will let go of this yaya again soon. not because of her gender but because wala pa syang 1week e naka strike 3 na sya sa akin... nauuntog ang alaga niya na may dugo  in less than a week :o 

Yaya search mode again...

Title: Re: My new yaya is a tomboy
Post by: toughmom moderator on June 26, 2013, 12:12:13 am
Yaya is Gay What do I do?
http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/home-living/about-yaya/yaya-is-gay-what-do-i-do