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Single Moms / Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« on: March 14, 2012, 11:01:08 am »
@ moi angels, sis tama ka - "easy-to-get"..naalala ko, there was this one guy sa office who after i came back from maternity leave, bigla na lang me mga hint, pasaring na "available" daw sya..tapos yung mga jokes niya naging green, even in front of others, i'd be the target of green jokes..nakakainis..

kung iisipin mo di ba, this is still me, nothing has changed except that i became a single mom and it could be for a variety of reasons..tapos ang mga tao, icacategorize ka na lang negatively..teka, tao ka pa rin naman..tao pa rin tayo..we are the same person and malamang better person pa nga after having a child..di ba?  :'(

@ jadiejesslyn, thanks for championing single moms.. :) i wish there are more people like you..

@ mommyjanice, naaliw naman ako sa boss mo pero hindi masyado sa company nyo..discrimination to highest level sila ha..  :o

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Single Moms / Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« on: February 21, 2012, 11:05:53 am »
thanks mga sis for the encouragement! sana nga makahanap nako ng work soon..

and yes, i agree hindi lahat ng companies discriminating..in fact yung previous company ko when i told them na pregnant ako and ala ako balak magpakasal hindi naman nila ako finire..sabi nga ng sister ko swerte ko kasi di lahat ng companies would accept that..sa company kasi nila pag ganun, terminated kaagad..sad di ba?  :( my previous company was very supportive, hindi nabago ang workload - toxic pa rin - pero at least inallow nila ako ng super flexi time..and yung mga officemates ko supper supportive din..sayang nga lang i had to leave..

anyway, glad naman ako na hindi naman pala norm ang discrimination sa single moms..mukhang ako lang napuruhan e..but just as sis two_angels'_mom said, gusto ko rin maging aware ang mga tao na these things happen..if it happens to someone else, we have to do something..this should be unacceptable..pero since mukhang ako lang napuruhan, no action needed muna..  ;D but sa iba pa readers who might have had the same experience, pwedeng hindi sa work place, pwedeng sa kahit na ano situation, please share kasi if we let the right people know and they act on it, then mape prevent natin na maranasan ng iba yung naranasan natin..hindi rin biro ang madiscriminate ha, pakiramdam mo second class citizen ka..

still, thanks mga sis for posting, for the sympathy and the words of encouragement!  ;)

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Single Moms / Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« on: February 20, 2012, 10:40:55 am »
^sis ano nangyari sayo? if you would, please share the details..

i think me point ka rin - pag bpo or call center kasi lahat na ng personality meron and parang hindi sila masyadong sensitive sa mga ganitong bagay..unlike pag regular company, meron kasi silang "culture" na mine maintain and they would only hire people that would fit in that culture so medyo mapili sila to the point na discriminating na minsan..well, opinion ko lang naman yan..napaisip ako nung na mention mo yung bpo and call center..pero i think ganun na nga yun..  ;D

san ka pala affiliated ngayon sis? i mean, anong type ng company?

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Single Moms / Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« on: February 17, 2012, 09:53:18 am »
@ mommy errych, thanks for people like you..sana marami pa katulad mo :)

@ mommy ahyzeyuh, thanks for the sympathy.. :) wag na lang isumbong..gusto ko lang maging aware mga mambabatas that these things happen..like si sen. pia, she's very accommodating sa twitter..if you tweet her with an issue and she finds it a worthwhile cause, she'll really act on it..pero so far mukha naman hindi rampant ang discrimination sa single moms..kasi mukhang ako lang pero that's a good thing..at least di naman pala marami na di discriminate..which made me think, baka naman ako me problem? haha! although ano ba naman dun e dinisclose ko lang naman na single mom ako..  :o

anyway, you're lucky to have an employer na okay.. 2-week leave - w.o.w *clap, clap*..i remember nung preggy ako and i had to be on bed rest for pre-term labor, ayun nag wowork pa rin ako..although in fairness naman sa dati ko employer, hindi rin naman nila ako pipilitin if sinabi kong ayaw ko mag work..plus naging maluwag naman sila sakin kahit papano when i was pregnant..

sana nga makanap nako work na okay.. and bago yun, sana yung next set of interviews hindi nako madiscriminate  ;D

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Single Moms / Re: discriminated for being a single mom
« on: February 14, 2012, 03:27:51 pm »
^yun nga gusto ko sanang makarating sa kinauukulan..para lang sana mas maging strict sa law, that they shouldn't be discriminating..ala na nga masyadong support from the govt ang single moms sobrang konti..yung benefits pa under solo parent act parang ma a avail mo lang yung iba if mahirap ka lang talaga..e kahit middle class ka, ang hirap pa rin..tapos ganyan pa bina brand ka ng society..wag na yung govt support kasi dito sa pinas mahirap na mangyari yun pero yung mga incidents naman sana na katulad ng nangyari sakin, sana wala..

hindi ko lang alam if masyado ako sensi..pero i don't think i should take this in stride...hindi dapat okay kahit kanino ang maapakan ang pagkatao or madiscriminate..

anyway sis, hindi BPO yung companies..multinational companies dito sa south (luzon)..akala ko pag family-owned yun medyo ma e expect mo na conservative..well kahit multinationals if run by conservatives (and apprently judgmental people) ganun din..


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Single Moms / discriminated for being a single mom
« on: February 14, 2012, 10:19:25 am »
hi mommies.. please post here any experience you might have on being discriminated for being a single mom..with micro blogging sites nowadays, it's easier to reach congresswomen & senators..maybe, just maybe they'd be able to hear our plight when i present proof..i know there's a law against discrimination against us but it still happens..

here's my story:

i have been discriminated in two interviews already..i am currently looking for work but i am very particular with the companies i apply to..sad to say, some of them are also particular..one told me that everything is okay - the result of my exams, my communication skills, my experience except that i'm a single mom and i shouldn't have my hopes high because it could be a major factor why i wouldn't be hired. the hr manager said they are a very conservative company and their president is a lay minister and she'd have a very hard time justifying her endorsing of me..

that was the first time i was discriminated at all..when i heard that, i felt like i was slapped..i couldn't function for a while..i am not a judgmental person..i always keep in mind that every face has a story so experiencing that is something of a shock to me..and then i was discriminated again - the president of another (different) company told me during an interview, "i like single parents because they are very hardworking..i just don't want them to get involved in not-so-ideal situations in the company (then looked intently at me)"..well, that was implied but discrimination nonetheless..

this is how some view us - when you're a single mom, you automatically earn a questionable character and that you are predisposed to do something wrong more than the average person..i feel really bad..i'll admit, until now i am still hurt for the way i was treated..

mommies, please share your experience..although, i wouldn't really wish for anyone to be discriminated but if you have been, please share the details..

anyway, happy valentine!  ;)

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Baby Development and Milestones / Re: what age nagsalita baby nyo?
« on: December 14, 2011, 09:59:15 pm »
@ mami_patch sabi ng friend ko devt. pedia assessment costs Php1,500/session.. naka set na si baby pa assess this January.. 1 yr 6 mos na sya pero konti pa lang words niya - 8 pa lang..although nakakaintindi sya, nauutusan na, can follow instructions.. nabasa ko kasi dapat by this age mga 15-30 words na nasasabi ng bata although sabi rin, yung mga early walkers, mga physical na baby usually late talkers kasi yung energy nila nauubos/naka focus sa physical activities..si baby kasi falls under that category, early walker sya, very active din..hindi naman ako masyado worried pero for my peace of mind, ipa pa assess ko na rin..medyo masakit sa bulsa pero para kay baby naman..and in case me problem, at least detected early..minsan din kasi ang dami sa palagid na nag co comment, nag tatanong bat di pa nagsasalita nakaka praning din so ayan para once and for all tapos na, me isasagot nako..  ;)

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Breastfeeding / Re: how long did you breastfeed?
« on: December 14, 2011, 04:03:04 pm »
hi SP mommies!

my daughter is now 18 mos. and breastfed pa rin sya.. I don't think she'll wean any time soon although I think yung pagdede niya is now more out of seeking comfort..kasi pag umaalis ako di sya naghahanap ng milk and hindi naman umiinit ulo niya..kahit expressed milk ayaw niya..this had me thinking din na it may not be about the milk but more on the nipple kasi ayaw niya talaga expressed or formula pag sa bottle..so yesterday, I had her drink formula sa cup na me straw (since sanay na sya uminom ng water from baso or cup din na me straw).. success!!  ;D

anyway, dun sa pagtaas ng kilay, meron din ako experience..ang masakit pa dun, sarili kong nanay pa..everytime makita niya kami ni baby in our session, she'd comment na ang laki laki na raw di pa patigilin sa pagdede..hay naku..deadma na lang..although minsan syempre nakakasama ng loob..pero basta, sabi ko hanggat kaya ko, hanggat meron, go pa rin..  :)

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