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Romantic Relationships / Re: my bf for 5 yrs left me 5 months pregnant
« on: March 30, 2019, 01:26:48 pm »
Ansakit nga sis. But just think na lang na he’s not worth it. Sayang nga lang ang 5 years pero nandyan naman ang baby mo. Think of it as a blessing na lang and remembrance from the five years you’ve had with him.

Minsan kasi nagbubulag-bulagan tayo sa mga red flags. Happened to me and hubby when we were still dating. Hindi third party but our personalities were clashing. So ano pa magagawa ko, but to ride the waves na lang called married life.

I’m happy naman despite of the many conflicts we have. Just always look at the brighter side of things.

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Sexuality / Re: Purely sex but not an affair
« on: March 30, 2019, 01:01:03 pm »
Yes, it could happen. Purely sex without emotions, but it’s still an affair.

Men were just trying to satisfy their libido (or curiosity with the other woman). It’s in their nature. Actually, it’s in the nature of both genders.

Hindi ako selosa, pero huwag lang sya magpahuli sa akin.

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Money / Re: Baby's monetary gifts -- save or spend?
« on: March 30, 2019, 12:50:55 pm »
I used to save them all in my account. But when they turned 7, I had a kiddie account opened in their own names. I transfered all the monetary gifts to their accounts complete with the names of where they come from (passbook account kasi)

Now that my eldest is 15, whenever she receives cash gifts, she’d spend them. My youngest, who is already 11, still lets me deposit her cash gifts to her account. So it’s their decision now

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Money / Re: Kinukupitan nyo ba si hubby? :)
« on: March 30, 2019, 12:46:15 pm »
I have been working for 15 years in a bank. Yung sweldo ko sa akin lang. Hindi niya alam how much and what were my benefits.

Now that I have resigned, hubby gives me a weekly allowance. Not much sya compared to my salary, but when I needed something, I ask him.

Meron naman akong savings from my separation pay, pero hubby provided well naman.

Ask ka na lang ng allowance sis.

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I didn’t know I was pregnant then nung nagpa-xray ako for our office’s annual physical exam. I already had two daughters and we didn’t plan on having another one. My youngest was already 7 years old then.

When I found out, I went to my OB immediately and told her about the xray. She gave me “pampakapit” maybe because of the radiation I got, and we had a lot of travel plans for the coming months.

At 8 weeks, and during my monthly check-up, we didn’t hear a hearbeat. So my OB suggested whether to have an ultrasound or we’ll just wait on my next check up. Hubby and I said, we’ll just wait.

Yon pala, wala naman talagang hearbeat because it stopped beating raw. Sabi nung nag-ultrasound sa akin when I had spotting na after 3 weeks on my 11th week.

So imagine, he/she was inside my tummy, with no heartbeat, for 3 weeks already until I bled and had a D & C.

It wasn’t hard for us to accept, kasi we believe, it was not meant for us. My body was not prepared. we were not prepared. And we just put in our minds that we already have an angel up above. Meron na nga syang name.

Our friends were telling us “sana boy na yan.” In my mind I was thinking “sana normal sya.”  So we were just thinking na baka nga may defect sya kasi nagpa-xray ako, and we were just thankful that God and His mysterious ways made all this things happen for us to learn something.

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Tweens and Teens / Re: Teenager making excuses to be with boyfriend
« on: March 30, 2019, 12:22:14 pm »
I suggest a professional help in this one. Your daughter seems to be exhibiting behavioral issues and since you can’t get a sensible answer or action from her, a psychologist could better deal with her as your assistant

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The In-Laws / Re: Planning on moving out
« on: June 14, 2016, 09:32:50 am »
Hi!

I can relate to your wife coz we used to live with my MIL too.

If you don't want to burden her, then I believe you should talk to your mother about this.  You should make her understand that you are starting your own life with your spouse and that she and your wife are different. 

Believe me, respectful as I am towards my MIL, don't wait for your wife to get agitated and confront your mother herself.  Because I did that when I got fed up.  And that was not a pleasant thing that happened between me.  Somehow, my husband was also affected with the indifference between me and his mom.

Until now, that my kids are 12 and 9 years old, my MIL does not have any photo in the albums of my kids nor on FB or any social media.  We have patched up, wounds have healed, but scars remain forever.

I hope this helps.

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Tweens and Teens / Re: Summer Job for Kids
« on: June 14, 2016, 09:12:46 am »
I would often hold weekend garage sale during summers from old clothes, books and toys of my daughters.  We have to sort first clothes which they have outgrown, toys that they don't play with, and books which we deem would help other kids learn.

Sometimes, I'd assign tasks for my kids to do in exchange of a fee, like doing some age-appropriate household cleaning.  It's not necessarily for their savings but teaching them the value of hard-earned money.

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Yaya Solutions / Re: Yaya cut my child's hair
« on: August 21, 2014, 06:28:12 pm »
If I were in your shoes, RIOT na! For sure, bingi na si yaya.  Sobrang pakialamera na yan.

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Romantic Relationships / Re: I want to do this for the sake of our son
« on: August 21, 2014, 06:11:06 pm »
Mahirap mag-invite ng taong napililitan lamang. Nakasira ng mood kung mag-attend din lang sya na nakasimangot or magpapa-VIP treatment. Yong as if utang na loob mo pa ang presence niya.


Huway na lang, masisira pa ang mood ng party. Besides, kung tsismis ang iniiwasan mo, baka mas lalo kang mapag-usapan kung gagawa yan ng eksena sa party.

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Real Parenting / Re: Ask: When do your kids start having a phone?
« on: August 21, 2014, 06:03:15 pm »
Hubby bought a cellphone for our elder daughter when she was in Grade 3 since we stopped having a yaya look after her in school. She needed the phone to text ask when she needed something or needed to be fetched.   


I emphasized that she is not allowed to use the phone for other purposes aside from communicating with us and other family members such as grandparents, cousins, as well as, some teachers. She can only message her classmates for school-related activities.


I do the monitoring by controlling her load balance.

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Real Parenting / Re: Do you allow your son/daughter to use facebook?
« on: August 21, 2014, 05:42:52 pm »
I have once created a Facebook account for my then 7-year old daughter (now 10 yrs old).  Then she began having friend invites from my list of friends which I have strictly supervised.  Unfortunately, some of these friends of mine who belong to a much younger generation from me (some were sons/daughters of friends) were posting lewd and obscene posts.  So I decided to deactivate the account.


Now I'm also in dilemma whether to activate her account or create another one and limit her friends to her classmates and cousins. She's currently using my account to communicate with relatives and family friends. Besides, she's not into social media. I guess I'll just have to wait until she finish elementary.

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Miscarriage Support Group / Re: what to expect after raspa
« on: August 21, 2014, 05:28:57 pm »
I cannot remember the bleeding, but I can vividly remember the headache!  :'(  Super painful, that it left me bedridden for days. Just as my OB had advised, I would have headache every time I get up. So I had to lie flat on my back, drink coffee, and sleep.

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Special Occassions / Re: Civil Wedding requirements and procedures
« on: August 21, 2014, 05:23:30 pm »
Sis MommyNiAddie is somehow correct.


According to hubby (lawyer), pwede na walang parental consent, di nga lang madaling makakuha nga marriage license but eventually makakuha ka and maikakasal. I was 23 when I got married, I did not have a parental consent. Importante may marriage license.

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I don't know too, sis. There were always fresh topics then. Now, I have to scroll on different categories for recent topics where I can reply such as relationships and work-related topics.


I guess I have outgrown SP forum with my kids at 10 and 7y.o.  Hehe.  But I'm still wiling to give advice on moms needing child-rearing skills and women with difficult marriages  ;)

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