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thanks mga sis for the encouragement! sana nga makahanap nako ng work soon..

and yes, i agree hindi lahat ng companies discriminating..in fact yung previous company ko when i told them na pregnant ako and ala ako balak magpakasal hindi naman nila ako finire..sabi nga ng sister ko swerte ko kasi di lahat ng companies would accept that..sa company kasi nila pag ganun, terminated kaagad..sad di ba?  my previous company was very supportive, hindi nabago ang workload - toxic pa rin - pero at least inallow nila ako ng super flexi time..and yung mga officemates ko supper supportive din..sayang nga lang i had to leave..

anyway, glad naman ako na hindi naman pala norm ang discrimination sa single moms..mukhang ako lang napuruhan e..but just as sis two_angels'_mom said, gusto ko rin maging aware ang mga tao na these things happen..if it happens to someone else, we have to do something..this should be unacceptable..pero since mukhang ako lang napuruhan, no action needed muna..  but sa iba pa readers who might have had the same experience, pwedeng hindi sa work place, pwedeng sa kahit na ano situation, please share kasi if we let the right people know and they act on it, then mape prevent natin na maranasan ng iba yung naranasan natin..hindi rin biro ang madiscriminate ha, pakiramdam mo second class citizen ka..

still, thanks mga sis for posting, for the sympathy and the words of encouragement! 

@ mommy errych, thanks for people like you..sana marami pa katulad mo

@ mommy ahyzeyuh, thanks for the sympathy.. wag na lang isumbong..gusto ko lang maging aware mga mambabatas that these things happen..like si sen. pia, she's very accommodating sa twitter..if you tweet her with an issue and she finds it a worthwhile cause, she'll really act on it..pero so far mukha naman hindi rampant ang discrimination sa single moms..kasi mukhang ako lang pero that's a good thing..at least di naman pala marami na di discriminate..which made me think, baka naman ako me problem? haha! although ano ba naman dun e dinisclose ko lang naman na single mom ako.. 

anyway, you're lucky to have an employer na okay.. 2-week leave - w.o.w *clap, clap*..i remember nung preggy ako and i had to be on bed rest for pre-term labor, ayun nag wowork pa rin ako..although in fairness naman sa dati ko employer, hindi rin naman nila ako pipilitin if sinabi kong ayaw ko mag work..plus naging maluwag naman sila sakin kahit papano when i was pregnant..

sana nga makanap nako work na okay.. and bago yun, sana yung next set of interviews hindi nako madiscriminate 

hi mommies.. please post here any experience you might have on being discriminated for being a single mom..with micro blogging sites nowadays, it's easier to reach congresswomen & senators..maybe, just maybe they'd be able to hear our plight when i present proof..i know there's a law against discrimination against us but it still happens..

here's my story:

i have been discriminated in two interviews already..i am currently looking for work but i am very particular with the companies i apply to..sad to say, some of them are also particular..one told me that everything is okay - the result of my exams, my communication skills, my experience except that i'm a single mom and i shouldn't have my hopes high because it could be a major factor why i wouldn't be hired. the hr manager said they are a very conservative company and their president is a lay minister and she'd have a very hard time justifying her endorsing of me..

that was the first time i was discriminated at all..when i heard that, i felt like i was slapped..i couldn't function for a while..i am not a judgmental person..i always keep in mind that every face has a story so experiencing that is something of a shock to me..and then i was discriminated again - the president of another (different) company told me during an interview, "i like single parents because they are very hardworking..i just don't want them to get involved in not-so-ideal situations in the company (then looked intently at me)"..well, that was implied but discrimination nonetheless..

this is how some view us - when you're a single mom, you automatically earn a questionable character and that you are predisposed to do something wrong more than the average person..i feel really bad..i'll admit, until now i am still hurt for the way i was treated..

mommies, please share your experience..although, i wouldn't really wish for anyone to be discriminated but if you have been, please share the details..

anyway, happy valentine! 

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hi SP mommies!

my daughter is now 18 mos. and breastfed pa rin sya.. I don't think she'll wean any time soon although I think yung pagdede niya is now more out of seeking comfort..kasi pag umaalis ako di sya naghahanap ng milk and hindi naman umiinit ulo niya..kahit expressed milk ayaw niya..this had me thinking din na it may not be about the milk but more on the nipple kasi ayaw niya talaga expressed or formula pag sa bottle..so yesterday, I had her drink formula sa cup na me straw (since sanay na sya uminom ng water from baso or cup din na me straw).. success!! 

anyway, dun sa pagtaas ng kilay, meron din ako experience..ang masakit pa dun, sarili kong nanay pa..everytime makita niya kami ni baby in our session, she'd comment na ang laki laki na raw di pa patigilin sa pagdede..hay naku..deadma na lang..although minsan syempre nakakasama ng loob..pero basta, sabi ko hanggat kaya ko, hanggat meron, go pa rin..