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The In-Laws / Re: Dealing with an Inggitera MIL
« on: May 06, 2012, 06:48:38 pm »
Thanks mamcharis.

Anyway, as much as gusto ko sa bahay namin. The problem is my hubby does not want to stay there. Napag-awayan na namin yung issue na yan. And just to keep peace, eh pumayag na ako na doon ako sa kanila. i really want to live apart from my PILs. Pero budget wise mukhang malabo pa, kc before getting married, yung family ng hubby ko bought a house and isa si hubby sa nag-huhulog dito, together with her two sisters. Tapos, he's also paying for his car.

Pero nagpaparinig na talaga ako kay hubby na gusto ko umalis na talaga kami. Na-mention niya siguro sa MIL ko, ang nakakatwa and nakakainis, inoffer ba naman sa akin na bilhin daw namin yung townhouse na katabi ng bahay nila. Kaloka di b? Pero over my dead body talaga. I won't live within a certain radius from them. hehe

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Reading these posts, na-high blood tuloy ako...

Anyway, here's my ordeal. My hubby and I are both lawyers. We work in one office but in different districts. Anyway, my hubby tells me naman about the people he works with. Usually he mentions them by surname only. Lately, I just found out that yung naikkuwento niya na lawyer eh babae pala. Anyway, a couple of weeks ago, I remember him telling me that this lawyer was texting him about getting a lawyer plate. Since I actually thought he was a guy, it never bothered me until now. Pero thinking back I remember him mentioning that it was this lawyer who was offering it to him and they were texting back and forth that time. Tapos I also remembered him telling me that he loved working with this lawyer. Tapos, they even went to the wake of a judge sa may Laguna a couple of months ago.

May mga trust issues ako before with my hubby. But when I got pregnant, bumalik naman ang tiwala ko sa kaniya. Right now, Im preggy with baby No.2. I'm not sure if its the hormones, pero never pumalya ang instinct ko. Hindi ko alam kung matanda yung lawyer na ito or almost the same age as ours.  Or kung may asawa ba siya. So question,  Should I talk to hubby? Or mag-investigate muna ako.

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Yes. A wife can overcome her husband's infidelity.

Actually, my hubby is natural flirt.We have been together for 7 years before getting married. And those 7 years, no hanky panky involved. I'm religious kasi and without marriage ayaw ko talaga and he understands it naman. Well anyway, for 7 years, he became unfaithful to me twice. Yung iba mga minor, flirting lang. Pero yung 2 un yung major. Being in love as I am with him, I decided to forgive and forget.

We got married last year, I was preggy immediately. Found out sa FB, na nakikipag-chat pa siya sa isa sa naging major "affair" niya. From that time on, I warned him. That if ever I find out na may ginagawa siya, he will never see his son ever. Mula noon until now, I think I'm beginning to regain my trust again. Minsan niloloko ko pa siya dun sa mga "flings" niya. He's crazy about our baby. He keeps on telling our son that he will be a great father, that he will be a good example to his son.

Sometimes, we just have to let go of the anger and the hurt. But syempre it's not that easy. We really have to work on the relationship.

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I think he loves my body now after I gave birth. Or maybe he's just being polite. hehe. Who knows what 's on his mind, I guess when he sees how cute our son is, he doesn't mind if I've doubled in size.

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The In-Laws / Re: Share your bitchy moments with your IL's
« on: May 06, 2012, 09:24:01 am »
puwede din mag-rant?

ako naman i'll be having irish twins (meaning my second baby will be born before my 1st turns 1 this year). Anyway, first baby ko was a boy. Sa name pa lang ng first baby ko ang dami ng suggestion. Pero before he was born, nagkausap na kami ng hubby ko ng name. So di kami nagka-problem.

Ngayon, preggers na naman ako..di pa alam ang gender. Pero nagulat na lang ako one time, nagsabi yung yaya ng anak ko na ang gusto ng MIL ko, name daw niya. Nainis lang talaga ako.

Na-confirm ko din, kc habang nanonood kami TV or I think dinner ata un, nag-comment yung FIL ko naman na kapag babae name daw ng MIL ko. Di pa kami usap ni hubby about that pero definitely it won't be her name by hook or by crook. parang gusto ko sabihan na, san ipinangalan mo sa anak mo ang name mo at hindi sa anak ko!!! Kairita lang talaga.

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The In-Laws / Dealing with an Inggitera MIL
« on: May 06, 2012, 08:44:08 am »
Finally, I have found a site para sa mga hinanakit ko sa MIL. I was reading some of the posts and grabe pala talaga ang mga quirks ng mg MILs.

Eto naman ang inis ko sa mga in-laws ko. Before I got pregnant, my hubby and I, would be living alternately sa bahay nila and sa parents ko. One week sa kanila, one week sa amin. After I gave birth, naging permanent kami sa kanila kc sa bahay namin ala kaming kasama sa bahay and my mom usually travels for work and bumisita sa mga younger sisters ko abroad.

Anyway, even before we got married, napansin ko na na parang may competition si MIL sa sister niya. Like from the beginning, yung sa mga anak nila vs anak ng kapatid niya. Sa family ko, we were never raised na makipag-compete sa mga pinsan ko. Kung baga one big happy family talaga. Kaya I was surprised nung makita ko set-up nila. I guess dahil ganon ang pagpapalaki ng MIL ko sa husband ko and mga kapatid niya, mega-compete sila with their cousins to the point na "plastikan" na talaga. Kapag dinner lagi pinag-uusapan nila yung mga pinsan nila. Tapos pinagtatawanan nila. Minsan sa mga kuwento napa-ka petty na talaga.

well, ok lang sana pero ngayon when I gave birth, yung pinsan nila nanganak din. Parang a few months lang ang pagitan ng baby ko at baby niya. Ngayon yung competition niya with her sister idinadamay na pati ang anak ko. Like mas cute baby ko, mas smart, etc. Dapat maging happy ako, BUT, when I think of how she raised her kids. Ayaw ko maging ganon anak ko. Basta napak-negative nilang mga tao. They can never be happy sa accomplishments ng mga pinsan nila. Kesyo kaya daw ginawa ng pinsan nila kasi naiingit daw sa kanila. Hello, ang babaw. Sinasabihan ko hubby ka na wag ng makisali sa ganung usapan, pero minsan siya pa ang nangunguna.

Ano ba talaga puwede ko gawin. Minsan ayaw ko na sumabay sa kanila kapag meal times kasi 80 % of the time, eh puro paninira sa ibang tao ang ginagawa nila. Sorry I really just have to air this. Nakakairita lang talaga.


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