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Beauty and Product Reviews / Re: tips para gumanda?
« on: September 16, 2013, 08:33:53 am »
Hello sis,

Sorry to hear about your situation... hope okay ka na, kahit papano.
First you have to fix your inner self. Beauty is also on the inside.

Stay close to people who love and support you. Yung glow mo babalik
pag nakita mo marami pa namang nagmamahal sa iyo.

For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.
Audrey Hepburn

Uy kakasagot ko lang sa isang thread na "stress" related din... paki merge naman po :)

Napansin ko na after I enjoyed something, even if its just for 5 minutes, AMBILIS talga mawala pagod.

It helps if you have a hobby. My nanay in law, is the most stressed person I know, pero maraming hobby to keep her sanity and cheerfulness:

Gardening, cross stich, crafting, reading, etc. She makes time for herself.

Sa totoo lang feeling Upos na Upos na rin ako ngayong araw - but answering here relieved my stress! :P

Helping each other is another sure fire Stress Reliever too  ;D

And to think I live in the province... Sariwa hangin, close to nature...Minsan feeling ko UPOS na talaga ako. ;D

Palibhasa talo ko pa hermit crab, at nakakulong lang ako sa bahay madalas, LOL.

Pero pag nakakalabas, tanggal ang pagod sa mga scenic views dito.
Beach tuwing weekends.

My stress relievers:
1. prayer
2. nature
3. friends

Hello @anna marie...

Sabi sa nabasa ko dati, you can feel yourself being taken cared of, being "mothered", when you take care of your own kids. I hope by this time, you are in a better mindset.

My mom left us before pa ko nagkaisip. I learned mothering, literally and figuratively from my own mother in law.
Lumaki kasi ako sa lola ko, so spoiled ako nuon. Wala masyadong pangaral.

Natutunan ko sa king nanay in law to be conscientious, small details matter. Kasi dun mo nakikita yung caring.

Nung nabasa ko naman na you vowed to keep your kids a priority, you are more than equipped to be a mother, trust me.

We're grown up now, so in fairness to our parents, we can also see them as adults with flaws and insecurities of their own.

Nevertheless, your children are so lucky to have such an involved mother.  :)

Hi @unica hija!

We're in the same boat. Hopefully medyo OK na ba kayo?
I moved to a new home last year, katabi na namin ang nanay in law ko, na mas strict.
Akala ko nga magiging palasunod na anak ko - ayun, parang ganun pa rin, if not worse.

Sabi naman ng nanay in law ko, dahil daw kasi na I treat him like a baby. Inaamo ko raw kasi kaagad
pagkatapos ko pagalitan.

Could this be true?

Romantic Relationships / Re: Secrets of a Fascinating Wife
« on: May 04, 2013, 07:21:09 am »
I like the warning na sinabi nila before reading this: ONLY for women with healthy boundaries and not for women with abusive husbands...LOL.

Hirap ako talga sa submission kasi nakita ko naman ang mother in law ko ang head ng family most of the time, although I know she respects my father in law din. My husband is a product of this, babae ang nag le lead palagi. Parang demotivated sya most of the time, lalo na pag kelangan ng malaking desisyon.

Ephesians 5:22-33

New International Version (NIV)

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Sis, pray for the answer. Ask guidance na lang ke Lord, kasi he will send you the opportunity that will be best not only for your son but for you as well. ;)

Naalala kita hindi ba ikaw yung nagtatanong kung pwede nang mag commute ang anak mong mag isa sa school? What a loving mom you are.

Members' Kumustahan board / Re: Ask me! [Part 3]
« on: May 02, 2013, 11:49:16 pm »
Q: After a tragic event, when do you [know] you're ready to move on?

A: I'm reading this book, "Turn it to Gold", for encouragement. It basically says all tragedies have a purpose :) Pag natanggap mo na yun, you can find another dream or reason to go on, marami pa sigurong taong nangangailangan sa iyo. Hindi ka pa tinatawag ni Lord, so may assignment pa sya sa yo.

Q: Whats your "bucket list" (3 items lang)?

Members' Kumustahan board / Re: How are you feeling today? [Part 9]
« on: May 02, 2013, 11:38:01 pm »
Exhausted, but hopeful. Bagong chapter na naman sa buhay pamilya.

@swtgrl_bee aalis na rin ang favorite kong kasambahay. Just think of it as letting go so that something better will come along.

Pansin ko rito madalas mga mommies feeling sad, depressed... Kaya natin to!

"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called to His purpose." - Romans 8:28

Yaya Solutions / Re: Kasambahay Bill
« on: May 02, 2013, 11:28:10 pm »
@ mami che

Hello sis, oo nga pala on top of the salary nga ang contributions...tama ka. Pero pano kung mataas na yung salary to begin with? Hay naku. Mapipilitan tuloy babaan ng mga amo mga starting pay nila kung ganun lang din naman.

@ violet.crumble

Meron nga article recently about sa pagkukumpara ng sweldo ng average office worker sa maid. Nakakaltasan ang pay ng office worker ng mga SSS, Pag ibig, etc., plus pinagkakasya pa natitira sa basic needs... Samantalang maid, kung desente naman ang amo niya, lahat libre! Pati na toiletries, load, etc. Mas nakakaipon pa sila. Yun nga lang, you'd have to empathize with them that they have to take criticism almost on a daily basis.

Can relate ako sa sitwasyon mo. E pano kung tayong mga employers na yung gumagawa ng trabaho? Pero I guess you'd have to stipulate everything you want in the employment contract na rin.

Yaya Solutions / Re: Nagtatagal ba mga yaya/maid ninyo?
« on: May 01, 2013, 12:00:48 am »
Hello mga mommies,

Based on my observation, you'd have to be really rich to have loyal ones. Kasi kung ordinaryong tao lang employer nila, with just basic salaries, good food and good pakikisama - its not enough for them.

Dalawa kaming kumukuha ng kasambahay, my mil and our family, at kahit anong ganda ng pagsasalita ko, they always have something to complain about na I'm mistreating them, but when my wealthy mil even shouts, tinatanggap lang nila, kahit makurot pa sila.

Namimili sila ng amo na marami silang mauutangan, maa advance, at sobrang galante.

Yaya Solutions / Re: Kasambahay Bill
« on: April 30, 2013, 11:50:17 pm »
Meron po atang requirement na ipapa register ang mga bagong kasambahay (I forgot kung sa local govt. agency), para ma enforce itong law na to. Just like the K-12 program ng DepEd, since bago pa lang, hindi pa naman inaasahan na maiimplement kaagad agad ng maayos.

Kahit mga kasambahay na veteran na, ayaw pang magpa SSS kung kakaltasin lang din naman sa sahod nila. I think even most kasambahays are intimidated by all these paperwork. Lalong mawawawalan ng gana mag hire sa kanila kung ganito kahirap ang requirements, feeling OFW naman sila.

Lalo na yung me employment contract pa - some maids just leave at a moments notice, or leave debts behind. Some won't honor what they sign.

Home / Re: Mommies na walang maid
« on: April 30, 2013, 11:36:56 pm »
In my situation po, with 4 kids (the youngest being a 10 month old), my ultimate relaxation technique is to find something to laugh about. Make time lang to laugh with your fam, your hubby and the kids - tanggal pagod. Iwasan na rin ang pagiging negative  ;D

Tungkol naman sa going maidless - dasal mo palagi, time management, and take it one day at a time. Planning what you want to do, and when to do it, will lessen the stress. If you think you can, you can :) God bless!

Tweens and Teens / Re: tips on raising a happy tween
« on: February 05, 2013, 01:51:45 am »
I can super relate to this! So far parang love hate relationship meron kami ng anak kong panganay. :'( I'm scared that I'm doing a poor job of being a good role model sometimes with my style of parenting. Ayoko kasing lumaking loko - so I'm trying to be authoritarian... but ALAS, kids are smarter these days. :-[

So far, what works:
Be CALM so that he'll stay calm.
As much as you can, BE PART of his world. Kung anong trip niya (basta mabuti naman) sakay ka.  ;D

And the one advice that stuck to me while searching the net:
Keep Teens (also Tweens) Busy and Broke!
-Chores and Well earned rewards make for a happier kid, they say. ;D

Tweens and Teens / Re: Letting my son commute to and from school?
« on: February 05, 2013, 01:43:12 am »
We live in the province were everything is 5 minutes away from home (hindi pa kami city kundi big municipality), and I had to ponder this. I agree with our earlier mommy reply that it depends on the distance and your child's disposition. It also helps if he has a companion (maybe a neighbor who goes to the same school?). :D

Sa panahon ngayon, hindi natin maprorotektahan sa lahat ng oras ang mga anak natin, pero kelangan talga nilang maging streetwise.

Personally, I had schoolservice until highschool and just started commuting only at 15. Medyo malayo yung eskwelahan.

You also have to consider what kind of friends your son has. Dapat hindi mga lakwatsero - I warned my son about having friends like those.  8)

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