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Author Topic: My husband social media accounts  (Read 1753 times)

Jean_31

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My husband social media accounts
« on: August 05, 2016, 08:22:25 am »

Hi there. Can someone enlighten me?
Yesterday, while checking my son's instagram I saw my husband's pic post. I got curious and checked his ig profile. Most of the followers and he's following are random girls. So medyo tumaas ang kilay ko. I also browse all the pictures he posted. Then suddenly nalungkot ako. Most pics are him while inside the gym, pics of his co-worker, selfies and other random stuff. Wala man lang kahit isang picture namen dun together, kahit pictures showing how he misses our son. My husband is an ofw by the way. So while we're chatting, sabi ko sa kanya nakita ko yung instagram account niya gamit yung account ng anak namen wala kasi ako ig. Sabi ko pa "dami babae dun ah, lakas maka single ng mga pics mo" "halos mga babae followers and pina-follow mo" "buti pa yung lugar ng gym, buti pa yung birthday ng katrabaho mo naggreet mo sa ig mo. Samantalang ni isang pic naten or kahit anak naten wala." Nagulat ako sa mga reply niya, "grabe naman, lakas mo naman maka tamang hinala" "wow" "wala ka bang tiwala sakin?" And next replies were shocking, voice messages and he was raising his voice shouting at me and cursing those social media accounts telling that he will delete all those just for me to stop doubting on him.
I know there is something I did wrong hindi ko lang mafigure out or ayoko lang tanggapin kasi its just social media account hindi ko deserve masigaw sigawan dahil lang dun.  :( Am I wrong telling those things na napansin ko sa account niya? Should I not be worried if he's following random girls? Wala ba akong karapatan na mag duda dahil dun sa mga napansin ko?
I feel disrespected.  :'(
Please help me..
« Last Edit: August 05, 2016, 08:29:16 am by Jean_31 »
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Re: My husband social media accounts
« Reply #1 on: August 05, 2016, 10:24:07 am »

You are his wife, you have the right to ask about such things. Once, a member posted here, sabi niya, expect na magkakaron ng conflict (away) pag pinagusapan niyo ang isang bagay na hindi comfortable, pero at least napagusapan niyo. You got your message across. Ngayon bigyan niyo ang sarili niyo ng time to cool off a bit.
Nasa paraan din po ng pagpili ng mga salitang gagamitin natin. Ang text o digital messages ay walang kasamang tono ng boses at facial expression kaya madaling mamisinterpret. Just keep your message short para hindi na paghugutan ng galit at duda. Simply say hindi ka sang-ayon na napaka "single" ng dating ng IG niya. Yes, pa delete pls. Palipasin nalang po ang violent reaction, expected na yon. Eventually magiging step ito sa mas malalim na pagkakakilala niyo with each other. Hindi puro sweety ang buhay mag asawa. Managing and overcoming a conflict is what makes a marriage stronger.
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